If I have been too abrasive

I have only meant to share my experiences with you.... I have always meant my thoughts to be motivating and not abusive... I believe in this surgery ....I believe everyone can do it. I perhaps have been to rough... unkind.... or even uncaring, which goes against my own personal beliefs.  I just have to shut up now and respond when asked... its time for me to rethink my approach to you all.   Its time to rethink my position on this board and if I am being helpful in anyway and if not to have a good talk with myself and reevaluate my place. I eat chips... I eat my dove bar mini.....I over carb at times.   I am human....... But I believe in you all so much.. I believe we all can do this .... no matter how long it takes. So with that said my friends, I rethink my spot in this board and take a step back to make sure my point of view is even helpful at all. THis isnt the big grand " Im leaving"  breakup post.   Its just an apology if I have hurt anyone with my over zealous attitude towards wls. Im not done with this journey either.. I might be "there" in weight... but Im not there in my mind.

Im still trying too...........

Enjoy your summers and I really care about you all

Jus' me

I personally do not feel you've been unkind.  I've learned so much from you, from your posts to me and your posts to others.  No apology needed in my eyes. Stay yourself, keep giving support and advice.  We need you here on the board.  We need everyone on this board.  We all have a part to play in each other's journey. Love to you, Debi

Linda, I don't feel that you need to make any apologies.  You are straightforward and honest.  Personally I like that.  I won't blame anyone else for the choices that I've made in my life, but I think that a lot of people really contributed to all of the harm that I did to myself by NOT saying anything.  At this stage of my life I don't want that anymore...I want people who are going to be truthful with me so that I can get better - even if I don't always like what they have to say. I especially like that you're not approaching your feedback from a perspective that you are perfect.  You acknowledge your mistakes and you're open to negative feedback from others.  That also helps. Thanks for continuing to be so introspective.  Please know that when you're giving feedback to me that I want you to lay it all out there for me.  If you say anything that's not useful, I'm strong enough to just leave it by the side of the road.

Whew - for a minute i thought you were going to say you are stepping back and leaving.  Thank God you are sticking around...we need you here!!!  I don't doubt for a second how much you care for the people on here.  Actions speak louder than words and your actions SCREAM care and kindness.  Love ya girl! (((Hugs))) Michelle

SWEETHEART!!!  YOU ARE NOT mean, abrasive or anything of the such!!!  You are nothing but kind, loving and caring!!  You want everyone to succeed~ what more could we ask for???  You tell the truth and should be applauded for such!!!  Sometimes the truth hurts but is needed (you have done that to me and I SO APPRECIATE YOU FOR DOING THAT!!!~ means your not fake!)  You keep being you!!!  WE ALL NEED THAT!!! HUGS AND LOVES

Hi Linda Anne....you are valued a great deal on this board. You have always been an inspiration to me.  I am soooooo glad you are  sticking around! You are straight forward and sometimes I need that too!! You have never been harsh or uncaring to me. Love you....gentle hugs....connie d

I know I appreciate your honesty.  When I posted about my screw up, I expected to be told it was wrong, I needed someone else to confirm my guilt.  You helped me. Robyn

I must have missed something on the board, but sweetie pie, you are a ray of sunshine for me.  Sometimes we are misunderstood in the way we write, because people can't "hear" your tone, the way they can when we speak in person, or see our facial expressions.   And, sometimes people may be asking for not only agreement that they have been "bad," but also are asking for forgiveness.  That, too, is hard to discern from a written message.   So, don't kick yourself in the butt too hard.  Bend over and I'll do it for you, then give you a big hug!

I don't think you've been too abrasive or abusive -- everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  Well, at least until someone disagrees with it -- then they seem to be the abusive ones who don't want your opinion, insights or experiences.  For you to have to apologize for thinking you've been too abrasive make a really sad statement about what this board has become.  Because of your success, I have always valued your opinion and experiences -- many have lead me in the right direction and saved me a lot of worry because Linda Anne posted about this and from her experience.........It has always worked --  I know I'm successful and some people just don't like that too.  So I've decided that from now on I'm just going to start singing the "don't worry be happy song" and play the three monkeys game and pass this crap up.  I'll keep my success experiences and opinions to myself and share them personally with others who actually support the surgery and plan and who work towards marching off to success and not down the path to destruction. I don't need that in my life -- I have far too many other things to do that I don't need to support negativity.   See you at the BS sometime this week!!!! XXOO