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Sweet Sue -
I agree with the PP's, and have one thing to add. When I was at a Y in the road in my life 10 years ago I was also far from family and had no real ties to where I was living (RI). I couldn't afford to move back to where my family was (MN), but my step mother stepped up and offered to pay for the moving expenses and let us live with her and my dad as long as we needed to get our feet on the ground. I had just finished school and had a 6 week old infant, so lots of stuff going on and lots of debt, no job, etc....
I felt like my step mom extended a lifeline to me and I am SO GLAD I took her up on it. I have never regretted my decision to be near family again. The only hesitation that I have is what would your son do? It is pretty traumatic to have your parent move away right as you become an adult. 18 is still a long way from maturity and he needs that anchor. I have seen that situation before and it is so hard on everyone.
It sounds like you really need some nuturing yourself and your sister is there to offer it. I say go for it.!!!
good luck
I agree with the PP's, and have one thing to add. When I was at a Y in the road in my life 10 years ago I was also far from family and had no real ties to where I was living (RI). I couldn't afford to move back to where my family was (MN), but my step mother stepped up and offered to pay for the moving expenses and let us live with her and my dad as long as we needed to get our feet on the ground. I had just finished school and had a 6 week old infant, so lots of stuff going on and lots of debt, no job, etc....
I felt like my step mom extended a lifeline to me and I am SO GLAD I took her up on it. I have never regretted my decision to be near family again. The only hesitation that I have is what would your son do? It is pretty traumatic to have your parent move away right as you become an adult. 18 is still a long way from maturity and he needs that anchor. I have seen that situation before and it is so hard on everyone.
It sounds like you really need some nuturing yourself and your sister is there to offer it. I say go for it.!!!
good luck
Thank you for your wonderful post. God bless your MIL!
I have spoken with my son, and he insists he is okay with me leaving the country. I have stressed that he could move down there too. In fact, some time ago, before he even had his 18th birthday, I asked him if he would come with me if I had to leave the area to get a job. He gave that 'oh brother!' look and said "I've been with you for 17 years! Isn't that enough?!" Such a kid!
He has an awesome support system here--his grandparents, and his Big Brother/mentor/boss. This guy has been the father-figure that Quin missed out on when his dad died. I'm at peace that Quin will be okay.
Best of luck in your journey to better health!!
((HUGS))
**SUE**
I have spoken with my son, and he insists he is okay with me leaving the country. I have stressed that he could move down there too. In fact, some time ago, before he even had his 18th birthday, I asked him if he would come with me if I had to leave the area to get a job. He gave that 'oh brother!' look and said "I've been with you for 17 years! Isn't that enough?!" Such a kid!
He has an awesome support system here--his grandparents, and his Big Brother/mentor/boss. This guy has been the father-figure that Quin missed out on when his dad died. I'm at peace that Quin will be okay.
Best of luck in your journey to better health!!
((HUGS))
**SUE**
Dear, sweet Sue,
Seems like you already know what you should do. Seems like your sister wants to take a bit of weight off your shoulders, and take care of you for a while. It would be good for you, AND it'll make HER feel good being able to help you out.
Yup, the doors up north are closing, but it seems there are a number of open windows in AZ. Have a heart to heart with Q to make sure he understands how HUGE this decision is for you. Obviously, discuss how it will affect him, whether he stays in TB or follows you south. Not a small issue.
As HUGE and daunting as this may seem, I would almost suspect a certain amount of peace and calm may be coming over your heart... a respite from the stress and uncertainty you've had going on in your life for quite a while now. Bless your heart...
(If you DO drive south, do you s'pose you could arrange a brief stop over in the Cities??? Lots of hugs to be had here!)
Seems like you already know what you should do. Seems like your sister wants to take a bit of weight off your shoulders, and take care of you for a while. It would be good for you, AND it'll make HER feel good being able to help you out.
Yup, the doors up north are closing, but it seems there are a number of open windows in AZ. Have a heart to heart with Q to make sure he understands how HUGE this decision is for you. Obviously, discuss how it will affect him, whether he stays in TB or follows you south. Not a small issue.
As HUGE and daunting as this may seem, I would almost suspect a certain amount of peace and calm may be coming over your heart... a respite from the stress and uncertainty you've had going on in your life for quite a while now. Bless your heart...
(If you DO drive south, do you s'pose you could arrange a brief stop over in the Cities??? Lots of hugs to be had here!)
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
Hey Darla Dee!!
Yup--have made the decision to depart. The final nail was the cutback in hours at the store. Cannot live in 18 hours/week at minimum wage. God does have a way of shutting those doors! I was looking at this job a safety net until other jobs opened up. Well--no jobs and less hours=moving. See--I'm not so stupid!
And my sister is truly a blessing. She has tried for years to get me to move down there!
I have asked Quin more than once what his thoughts are on this situation. He said that I 'gotta do what I gotta do'. He does have a good support system here--his grandparents and his Big Brother/mentor/boss. This dude has been the father-figure that Quin did not have. I am at peace with Q staying in town.
So tentatively my departure date is Dec. 12--almost exactly 32 years since I came to Canada as a new blushing bride. ((OHHH--scary--these coinkadinks! )) But we will be passing through Mpls and stopping for coffee and hugs sound like an awesome plan!
(((HUGS)) and
**SUE**
Yup--have made the decision to depart. The final nail was the cutback in hours at the store. Cannot live in 18 hours/week at minimum wage. God does have a way of shutting those doors! I was looking at this job a safety net until other jobs opened up. Well--no jobs and less hours=moving. See--I'm not so stupid!
And my sister is truly a blessing. She has tried for years to get me to move down there!I have asked Quin more than once what his thoughts are on this situation. He said that I 'gotta do what I gotta do'. He does have a good support system here--his grandparents and his Big Brother/mentor/boss. This dude has been the father-figure that Quin did not have. I am at peace with Q staying in town.
So tentatively my departure date is Dec. 12--almost exactly 32 years since I came to Canada as a new blushing bride. ((OHHH--scary--these coinkadinks! )) But we will be passing through Mpls and stopping for coffee and hugs sound like an awesome plan!
(((HUGS)) and
**SUE**
Hey Sweetie!
Me too--catching my breath, that is. Things sure do snowball quickly when they start moving! I'm glad that God is leading the way!
I never really thought that I would ever move back to the States, even though I kept my citizenship for that very reason... Canada has become my 'home and native land'--(part of the 'Oh Canada' national anthem.)
Sure hope that we're able to connect as my son and I head through Mpls on our way south! Definitely scary--but getting exciting!
((HUGS))
Me too--catching my breath, that is. Things sure do snowball quickly when they start moving! I'm glad that God is leading the way!
I never really thought that I would ever move back to the States, even though I kept my citizenship for that very reason... Canada has become my 'home and native land'--(part of the 'Oh Canada' national anthem.)
Sure hope that we're able to connect as my son and I head through Mpls on our way south! Definitely scary--but getting exciting!
((HUGS))
Welp I can only tell ya a few things honey. 1) Tuscon is warm and winter is coming. I have been there many times and it is beautiful 2) I graduated and up and moved from WI to CA not knowing a sole to try for a fresh start as I was so lost...It was the best move I ever made and was able to relearn who I was...3) Your sister. The instant lifeline is huge in getting you over your hump and its family and 4) Lastly....You OH Family can follow you anywhere and will always be there to support you!!
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