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Hi Guys!
I have two horrible stories....one still haunts me to this day. And it happened 29 years ago. I was a freshman in high school and at the library. One of the "cool" boys called me over to his table and said "Hey, I'm doing a report on whales...so how much do you weigh?" The humiliation when everyone laughed at me was unbearable. I still have dreams about that incident. I would never go back to my teenage years. Painful stuff.
The other incident happened when I was in the process readying myself for RNY surgery. I went to the waterpark with my boys and was having a lovely time with them when I hear someone behind me say. "If I ever get that fat, shoot me." It wrecked the whole trip for me.
As I have lost weight through this process, confidence has bloomed and I really don't let others opinions of me carry much weight (no punn intended). I try at least. I found me through this process and found out that I kinda like me, too.
This year is my 25th highschool reunion and I hope and pray that this "boy" will be there. Not that I will necessarily say anything about what happened (I'm sure he probably doesn't even remember that cruel moment I have carried with me all this time) but let me tell you, I will be struttin my stuff.
Amy
I have two horrible stories....one still haunts me to this day. And it happened 29 years ago. I was a freshman in high school and at the library. One of the "cool" boys called me over to his table and said "Hey, I'm doing a report on whales...so how much do you weigh?" The humiliation when everyone laughed at me was unbearable. I still have dreams about that incident. I would never go back to my teenage years. Painful stuff.
The other incident happened when I was in the process readying myself for RNY surgery. I went to the waterpark with my boys and was having a lovely time with them when I hear someone behind me say. "If I ever get that fat, shoot me." It wrecked the whole trip for me.
As I have lost weight through this process, confidence has bloomed and I really don't let others opinions of me carry much weight (no punn intended). I try at least. I found me through this process and found out that I kinda like me, too.
This year is my 25th highschool reunion and I hope and pray that this "boy" will be there. Not that I will necessarily say anything about what happened (I'm sure he probably doesn't even remember that cruel moment I have carried with me all this time) but let me tell you, I will be struttin my stuff.
Amy
Man, that hurts. BOTH incidents.
Paul and I were talking Saturday, and discovered we BOTH were fans of a book by the folks who did MAD magazine way back... the book was called "Snappy Comebacks to Stupid Questions". I REALLY wish that book would come back in print, because it had a HUGE impact on me and how I dealt with ****
The boy in highschool? I would have said, "I'm fat, but I can lose weight. YOU, however, are an asshole from head to toe, inside and out."
The person at the waterpark? I'd have turned around, looked at him/her, and said "If I'm ever as RUDE as YOU, I pray someone will shoot ME."
You get to that reunion and carry your sexy self PROUD, Amy!! (Good Lord, next summer will be my 30th!!!
I'm NOT that old... ...?)
Paul and I were talking Saturday, and discovered we BOTH were fans of a book by the folks who did MAD magazine way back... the book was called "Snappy Comebacks to Stupid Questions". I REALLY wish that book would come back in print, because it had a HUGE impact on me and how I dealt with ****
The boy in highschool? I would have said, "I'm fat, but I can lose weight. YOU, however, are an asshole from head to toe, inside and out."
The person at the waterpark? I'd have turned around, looked at him/her, and said "If I'm ever as RUDE as YOU, I pray someone will shoot ME."
You get to that reunion and carry your sexy self PROUD, Amy!! (Good Lord, next summer will be my 30th!!!
I'm NOT that old... ...?)
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
After having gained and lost several times my mother once said to me...I liked you so much better when you were thin.
About 6 years ago at my nephews graduation I sat down on a folding chair and it started to give out. I heard the woman behind me say "that's disgusting." I sat through the whole ceremony on that chair praying that it did not give out entirely, not fully seated...my thighs were killing me.
About 6 years ago at my nephews graduation I sat down on a folding chair and it started to give out. I heard the woman behind me say "that's disgusting." I sat through the whole ceremony on that chair praying that it did not give out entirely, not fully seated...my thighs were killing me.
~ SANDY ~ 5'9" HW 291/SW 274/GW 174/CW 155
Starting BMI 40.4 Extremly Obese ~ Current BMI 22.8 Normal
Darla you make me think..... I like that.
My father was so cruel, he has learned since to watch his mouth. When my mom would take me shopping for clothes, he would say "Going to visit Omar the Tentmaker? Is he going to have to use his tent to make your clothes?" I still sthink of that sentence when I see a movie with a Ariabian Nights type of striped tent in it.
My mom finally figured out that she was partly at fault because she never told him to shut up and made him stop saying those things. But yet, when we talk about me weighing 175 instead of 300, she says why don't you go to 150, you would be so beautiful. And I am NOT beautiful the way I am??? I keey working on seeing THAT beauty, I much prefer the face in the mirror now to the 1 4 years ago.
The other is "For such a fat kid, why do have such thin skin? Quit your chinin and cryin!!"
Oh well, he now has alzheimers and says he does not remember saying those cruel things to me. I remember even if he doesn't and/or never will admit that he did. He apologised to me last year, I am still trying to let the apology be enough to heal the hurt...trying.
Karen
My father was so cruel, he has learned since to watch his mouth. When my mom would take me shopping for clothes, he would say "Going to visit Omar the Tentmaker? Is he going to have to use his tent to make your clothes?" I still sthink of that sentence when I see a movie with a Ariabian Nights type of striped tent in it.
My mom finally figured out that she was partly at fault because she never told him to shut up and made him stop saying those things. But yet, when we talk about me weighing 175 instead of 300, she says why don't you go to 150, you would be so beautiful. And I am NOT beautiful the way I am??? I keey working on seeing THAT beauty, I much prefer the face in the mirror now to the 1 4 years ago.
The other is "For such a fat kid, why do have such thin skin? Quit your chinin and cryin!!"
Oh well, he now has alzheimers and says he does not remember saying those cruel things to me. I remember even if he doesn't and/or never will admit that he did. He apologised to me last year, I am still trying to let the apology be enough to heal the hurt...trying.
Karen
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session at a time is all I can do, multitasking is a fine art that I am still trying to master. 
session at a time is all I can do, multitasking is a fine art that I am still trying to master. 
my embarrassing thing that happened to me was i was at a family gathering and i sat on a plastic lawn chair and broke it.Another thing that mad me deeply upset is my boyfriend's mom can cut me down,but never praise for how I look.ex:previously i lost about 75 lbs in wwatchers.I then gained it back and more.She commented that I didn't look good and needed to watch it.Now that I've had my surgery she hasn't said one word how great i look.On top of every thing she didn't even give me a card or call.Go figure.My attitude now is =Be Happy!
We can't control other people, or how rude or hurtful or thoughtless they are. We can only control OUR reactions to them. The important thing is that YOU feel good, and are happy with you!
I know that I have been very impressed by your regular attendance at MG - even tho you never used to say much... Now you're opening up, talking, sharing - Methinks you DO feel better about yourself, and that's AWESOME!!!
I know that I have been very impressed by your regular attendance at MG - even tho you never used to say much... Now you're opening up, talking, sharing - Methinks you DO feel better about yourself, and that's AWESOME!!!
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
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