How do you

How do you get over (overeating).  I am having a really bad day, week whatever.  I eat,eat,and eat until i make myself sick.  I am missing my  dad a whole lot we still have not yet buried him because it is still to wet where he will be.  My teen son is getting into trouble at school, and even church.  I am stressed and feel bad about everything.   Maybe it is a pitty party or whatever but how en the hell can I get over not eating like I do?  How do you deal with teen boys?  Mine is a little more complicated he has ADHD really bad and I can't be there for his everymove but yet feel like it is my job Kinda like my dad with my brother.  Actually my son reminds me alot of my brother and it scares me.  I am so tired of comforting myself with food i know I shouldn't do that but yet I still do DAMN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My best friend back home just found out her aunt has only a couple weeks left to live she didn't feel good thought she only had a bad cold and she has cancer the size of a cantalope in her chest, and it spread all over her body. I mean what the hell......There are so many good people being taken from us when there are alot of fricken losers that should be gone instead.  sorry about the rambling I guess I needed to get it off my chest......  Thanks for listening and if you have any info please share it with me.  
Hugs,
Marsha

Marsha,

I'm right there with ya........These last 2 weeks have been HELL.......Home stresses.......

I'm not as bad as last week....Dang I ate everything in sight.....

I started journaling my feelings and making daily goals......Those have helped me stay away from food somewhat.......And I just tell myself it isn't worth it, and look at before pictures.....Then I cry......It's a day to day battle......

Good luck......I'm always here for you.....

Kelly

I've been finding myself struggling recently, too.  There have been so many stresses in my life, my brain is so pre-occupied with things to think about and ponder, that I've found myself slipping into auto-pilot and just munching when I'm not the least bit hungry.  I'm not even interested in  the food that's finding it's way to my mouth!  It's not stress eating the way I imagine stress eating, which is more of a rebellious act.  It's stress eating in that I'm so focused in bothersome issues, that I'm not paying attention to what I'm doing - more of a "mindless" eating issue.

But Monday evvening, I really kind of "woke up" and became aware of all the **** that was finding it's way to my piehole, so I'm TRYING to be more mindFUL of what I'm doing!

It sucks, but I didn't come this far to slip back.  I'm in 16's.  I'll be dipped in **** if I'm gonna let myself get back into 18's or 20'!!

Marsha...I am so sorry you have to deal with all this right now. Having lost your dad was bad enough...putting up with that ass of a brother on top of it...WOW!!
Now your son and all those issues.....will it ever end!!

Honey as far as the eating goes...just don't think so far ahead. For gosh sakes don't look behind at what you ate.....just go forward....on small step at a time!!

I am soooo stressed myself....I want to eat constantly. I am fighting like hell to keep the crap out of my mouth. Everyday is a new day....we have to keep on....we have come too far to give in to eating like that once again.

Hang up before pics...look at before and after pics on OH...journal...take a walk...call someone....post on here!!
We all know that our heads weren't fixed...now that would be the easy way out!!

I love you very much sweetheart. Hang in there...you will make it through this!!

(((((HUGS)))))  connie d

I'm right a long with you I have been struggling with this too.  I've gained 10 lbs and am worried I've gotten some bad habits back!!!  I fell off the no sugar wagon.  

Logically I know when I am overeating its just a way my brain is distracting from all the stresses.   Granted it is easy to say to keep yourself busy with things other than eating so your brain has some pleasure.   Putting this into practice is so hard.  I think we have to just fight hard not to go to food for comfort.  I imagine this must be what an alcoholic faces each day and when they have to choose not to drink.  If we have to we need to take it 1 minute at a time and just tell ourself for this minute I won't eat.  

I was also told a technique that has helped.  You make a to do list of all the things you want to get done around the house and tell yourself if I can do 10 of the things on my list I can have a snack.  By the time I'm done with those 10 things I've lost interest in the snack so its just a distraction tool. 

I've been telling myself its okay to break rules lately because I'm stressed but you know it isn't.  I'm coming to realize I just need to find a way to cope because stress is always going to be there. 

Marsha - the **** i****ting the fan all over the place it seems like - for everyone.  I am sorry to hear of your struggles, but know that we are here for you.

BTW - my 12 yo son has pretty severe ADHD - impulse control mainly - so I know how that can be stressful  You just want them to BEHAVE already!

Take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other.

Sorry about the late response. The way I control my overeating during bad weeks is I use one measuring cup  and eat only out of it.... I allow a certain amount of meals - maybe 4... and stick to it. The strict rule seems to work for me.