Got a scare

I am a little scared now.  My sister's co-worker's ex-husband just died after having WLS in Topeka.  I guess he devleoped stomach pains and wasn't feeling good and he ended up dying.  Now my sister is saying that I should think about having this surgery.  The thought of something major happening after the surgey does cross my mind but you know when I thought there was no hope for me having WLS at Shawnee Mission because they didn't accept my insurance I was devastated and felt so hopeless and depressed.  I felt like the hope that I gained by deciding to have the surgery was ripped from me and I cried for two days until I heard that Dr. H. would accept my insurance then I felt hopefull again.  The thought of not having this surgery would make me feel like giving up all together.  I wi**** wasn't such a risky surgery but I know with any surgery there are risk.  I have to hold on to my faith in God that I will pull through this without complications.  I want this surgery to be a success.  I just wish I would stop hearing about these people who's surgery wasn't a success and has died or has a lot of complications.  I know for myself that I have to do this I need this tool because I am so tired of trying every diet out there only to fail over and over again.   I talked to Dena in Dr. H's office and if I hurry and get my pysch eval completed then I could get an appt. in Oct. it seems like a long ways off but I know it will be here before I know it.  I'm having part of my pysch eval this coming Fri. and hopefully fini**** up soon after that? I wish I could have the surgery now and get it over with but I know that's only wishfull thinking on my part and things just doesn't work like that. 

Bev...So sorry for your extra worries!!!! You are right there can be complications with any surgery....I agree that it might have been a health problem and not something with the surgery its self.....I wish you all the best with your decision and with your journey...should you choose to go thru with it....God Bless You....HUGS..Tammy H

Dear Bev, I agree with Barbara-a lot of times its not the surgery itself-but one of the co-mo's that cause the passing on-  She is right-it can happen with something as simple as a tonsilectomy or a face lift-and I just told myself when I heard stories like that-that IF it were my time to go-it wouldnt matter IF I was having this surgery or driving to town or getting my mail-its your time!

I know its scary and I know a lot of people who dont know all the details-automatically assume that it was JUST the WLS that killed someone-and in a lot of cases-thats just not so. Yes, it does have its risks, but so does staying fat-right? Or yo-yo dieting forever! So-its up to each individual and how they look at the situation and such-to determine IF they want to take the chance or what have you. I personally felt like I was pretty much dead on the inside anyway-and I was stuck in a body who was keeping me a prisoner-and I trusted God to get me through it because he led me to it-so I gave it to him-and trusted him and in my situation-it saved my life.

I, too, had several people call me or tell me of a person they knew etc-and try to talk me out of it-but for each ONE person I heard bad things from-there were 50 I heard good things from... So, it wasnt a hard choice for me-to choose what I was going to go with-and of course, that was the positives!! Im sorry he passed on, and I will pray for his family and for their loss.

I hope you will make the decision thats right for you. Good luck, Janet

Bev please dont be scared. You have an excelent surgeon...He is a good man and prays for us when he goes to operate.. Not saying that things cant happen but thinks can happen when you are walking down the street. Yes i know about all the diets that are out there. I had tried them all too.  some worked , some didnt. but always gained back the weight and then some.  Just get your mind right with God and let him lead you and he will care for you during your surgery. As long as you are a Child of God things will turn out like they are suppose to.  Take care and keep coming onto the board , you can get lots of answered questions here.  Love and huggs.

You might find out just why he died. He may not have died from the surgery itself but, from a co-morbidity. Things do happen but the chances are just as much as having your tonsils out. As Jan says, Have faith and he will lead you. Your heart knows what you want to do. That is where Jesus is working. This has to be your decision and yours alone. Don't let anyone tell you not to do it, unless you are willing not to have the surgery. Good luck on whatever you decide.

Dear Bev, Could you tell me where he had his surgery?  Was it at Tall Grass and what kind (lap band, Rny, etc.)?  I am thinking about going there and would like all the information I can get.  I would appreciate any help you could give me.  Thank you.  Cher 

Cher, I am sorry I don't have any information about where or why he died all I know is that he had WLS and soon after died don't know if it was due to complications or comorbities my sister didn't know and she didn't feel right asking just yet but if I do find out I will let you know.  I just know it was in Topeka.... Is Topeka a "Center of Excelance?"  Last I heard they were not?  You might check that out?

Bev, Thanks for your quick reply.  Yes, I have been told that Tall Grass is a Center for Excellence.  If you do hear any other info please do let me know. Cher