Sorry Need to Vent

Sorry but I need to really vent.  I am getting quite upset every time I hear of people offering to be angels for pre-ops and post-ops.  This is the first time I have posted in quite a while because of this.  I asked for an angel before I had surgery.  I was told maybe if they knew me more than I could have an angel.  But now everyone that comes on this board is asked and offered angels.  I feel like some favoritism or something is going on here.  I am very angry over this.  Yes my surgery went well but it still helps to have support.  Everyone else here gets support from each other but not me.  What is wrong with this picture.  I read posts everyday but feel so out of place to post any replies or new posts.  Kelly

Kelly im so so very sorry that you fell thru the cracks. I dont know what happened , I guess if you have to blame anyone you can blame me. I must have dropped the ball on you. Please forgive me and know that it wasnt done on purpose or to shun you in anyway. I dont really know you , so why would that be done to you sweetie. I can say too that the majority of the people that do such a good job of being angels have been either off line for quite awhile due to a lot of different things.

Bless your heart i feel so badly about you not having an angel that i want to find you and give you a big ole hug. Please forgive us and dont feel left out , you come and post as much as you want to and any questions you have we will try to find the answer to them for you. OK?

 

Hey I understand a little how you feel, I used to post (somewhat infrequently) on the kansas board, but switched to here because people are friendlier here and much more willing to help and answer questions, Do you think maybe since your surgery was such a short time ago that maybe your feeling a little overwhelmed/undernourished? that can make you more emotional. I honestly don't believe anyone on this board would deliberatly slight you, I haven't asked for an angel myself,   my surgery is scheduled for april 7 , it's getting close, and I am excited and a little nervous. I would love it if you would hang around , I don't really know what the "angel" thing is all about, but if it involves support and friendship i'll be yours and you can be mine, tho I thin****il I have my surgery and am where you are now, I can't offer advice on the surgery / weight loss aspect, but I am a good listener and it sounds like you could use a friend (so could I). Many if not most obese people have emotional problems that lead to the overeating, and then BECAUSE of it..viscous cicle isn't it?! All the pain doesn't go away because we lose the weight! I don't mean to overstep my bounds or anything, and I hope I haven't offended you, it's not my intent at all. my e-mail is [email protected]   any time you'd like to" talk" right now I don't get "out" alot so I check it several times a day (what a loser huh? lol) I hope to hear from you again, susan

Kelly,  I'm sorry you are feeling left out.   Please just feel free to write anytime you like, and I know everyone here will respond and give you support.   We are all in this together!   I'm still kind of a newbie, but feel free to write me at any time, and I'd love to try and help.   I've met some really kind people here on the MO board, and although I don't know everyone as well as some others do, I am looking forward to getting to know everyone better.   Take care, and please stay with us!   

{{{Kelly}}}  I'm so sorry you feel this way.  I usually do not offer to be an official angel at this point (although I have in years past), because of my busy schedule.   I personally try to just come on the board and answer posts and/or any questions I feel I can help with, or offer insight on that has not already been shared in previous replies.   For me it's about time management and trying to help those who have not already been helped or where my extra input might still help.  It's not at all about favoritism in who I reply to and who I don't.  While I know Jan is very active and starts the daily thread for us each day, and she cares for every one here, she isn't any more responsible for finding someone an angel as anyone else.  There is no one person in "charge" of the Missouri board.  It's up to all of us to contribute and help each other.   We can't help someone if they don't 'speak' up and let us know what their needs are.  If someone asks for an angel, and you get a reply such as you received, I'm going to assume that was just one person's reply - then post again!  I'm sure if you've been on this board long, you'll notice that there seems to be spurts and seasons of posting.  Some people are here and post daily or regularly for a while, then they drop off and may or may not come back and post again.    Then we seem to hit dry spells where there's hardly anyone here posting at all - just a handful (if that) of people.  Perhaps more are reading, but if they don't post, then how are we to know!  So if you don't get a response, or the response you want/need to a thread, then post again!  Or PM someone you think might be a good angel for you and ask them to be your angel. 

I am so sorry, I have never been anyones angel because I have had so many surgerys of late,knee and gb, that I was afraid I wouldnt be there when they needed me...but you just stay with us and we will help you anyway we can, feel free to talk to me just send me a note...lots of love to you from me....vesta

I am still here.  I am not going anywhere.  I just really need more support and people to talk too. Thanks, Kelly PS.  I am trying to download some pictures so everyone can put a face with my name.

Kelly, you've had great weight loss so far, by the way.   Way to go!    Good idea about putting your picture with your posts, it really is neat to see everyone's faces when we write back and forth. 

It does make it easier to have a face.  I haven't bought a new camera yet.  I haven't found one that I like yet that does not cost an arm and leg.  I got a friend to take some pictures.  I have more pictures on my profile now too.  Some of my kids and my doggies. Kelly