Hurting

Daph, I dont know that I have any divine answers or words of comfort that will help. I can only imagine your pain and sorrow. The closest I've come to loosing a a loved one last was my Grandpa - 15 yrs ago. And more recently my adopted son - which is a hole different situation in itself. Get a blessing!! You need it. You know you need it. You Father in Heaven knows you need it. YOu need to take things one day at a time. One step at a time. Wrap yourself up with those around you that love you and support you Daph. ((((HUGS))) Love, Gala

Daph, you're in my prayers. In all the time I've been praying for Nolan and Chris and their family, I didn't realize that you, too, needed prayers to get through this. I'll definately add you to my personal prayers along with Chris and the children. Call the temple and put your name on the temple prayer list. That will help too. I like Gala's suggestion of getting a priesthood blessing. The power of priesthood is mighty strong. If you live near a temple, try to arrange to go. You'll receive peace from going and maybe you'll receive the extra help you need to get through your pain. The pain may never go away, it just might become manageable. Prayers - Melody

Daph honey, it's ok to feel so angry right now. It's part of greiving. Just because we know what is happening doesn't make it all better. Right now everything else in your life is up in the air (new business, moving, new baby, Kyle, a 4 year old, ME!) that sometimes you can only take so much and then you have to shut down for your own protection. Nothing is going to make any sense right now while you are sleep deprived, depressed, and grieving. Chris needs to grieve on her own and right now you can't take care of her if you are not taking care of yourself. In your heart of hearts you know I am right. You can only take this one day at a time. Sometimes you have to say "Hey, for the next hour I'm not going to think about it but after that I give myself permission to cry/rant/rave for 30 minutes. Then I will resume my life for another 2 hours." The best way to stop obsessing about something is to actually give yourself permission and a time frame to think about it without having to justify it to anyone. Give your grief to Heavenly Father for an hour or so. He will handle it with care. One other thing...you know that Nolan can see you and lets face it...do you really want him telling all his new spirit buddies about Wacky Daph? I mean really, they are suppose to be working hard up there and instead they are probably using you for reality tv entertainment and nothing is getting done up there. love ya!!!! Tammy

Oh Daph....I too don't have any magical words that will make the pain go away. You logically know all the right things about the plan of salvation, but it doesn't make the emotional loss go away. Time will help...get involved in service to others....perhaps in a totally different area then what was going on with Nolan. Don't delve into the same illness that took him. Maybe volunteer working at a local school or library. Perhaps a nursing home. I don't know...but I do know that getting into the thick of helping and working, helps. Maybe you could request becoming a Stake Missionary would help you with teaching the gospel that is always healing. Kisses and hugs to you. There is no bargaining this one away...which already said. You're perhaps still in the stage of grief of loss and anger....maybe trying to move toward acceptance will get you through faster. Christy