Just devastated!!!

Hello! My heart is just broken. My youngest daughter is 5 months pregnant and had an ultrasound today to determine the sex of the baby. It showed that he is dead. She is heartbroken. Naturally. She will be induced soon. This has been a really rough pregnancy in that she had an IUD and it had to be removed a 2 months ago, she was on bed rest for awhile and her morning sickness has been horrible . However things were finally settling down and she was beginning to really be excited about the baby. She has 3 children. It is hard on all the family. Please pray for us, especially her and her sweet husband. I am trying to help all I can but it is really bringing up a lot of feelings from when my son died at 6 months. Again, please pray for us. I have so many things I want to say and just can't. Life has been so busy and hard lately. I have been helping her alot. Her 6 year-old has autism and I am his respite provider also. I haven't even had time to clean housel, never mind write here and yet I really need support for this wls journey also. Sigh... Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for any and all prayers. If I am going to make it through this, I will need them. I don't know yet about funeral arrangements. Well, thanks again but for once cannot find any grins to close. Kaye PS She is calling him Gabriel. Isn't that something.

Kaye, I just had to respond to this as I lost 3 pregnancies; one went as far as 6.5 months and was stillborn. That one was the hardest as we had to endure years of fertility treatments and this was the 3rd pregnancy that went very wrong. We had planned to call her Holly as she was due around Christmas and ended up giving her the middle name of Celeste, as we knew she would be waiting for us in the Celestial kingdom. I know your hearts are grieving and asking "why?" Know that you are in my prayers. This is probably the biggest heartache a parent or grandparent can go through. It just doesn't seem fair ... I kept thinking why can abusive, drugged out or even teenage mothers have kids they don't even care for, but someone who can devote their life to raising and loving a child gets theirs taken away? Let the house go; the cleaning can wait ... just be there for your daughter. You share a similar tragedy and hopefully this will draw you both closer. Take comfort in knowing that you can again be reunited as a family someday. It is so hard to understand why our Father in Heaven would take these special spirits away from us, but in time hopefully you will understand. (It took us many years and the answer came to us one day in the Celestial room of the temple and we know she needed to be there to guide and help some family members understand the fullness of the Gospel and this gave us solace.) Our other 2 daughters (Yes, I went on to have one more "miracle baby" without fertility treatments) know they have a sister that they can be with forever, if they live in accordance with the teachings of the Gospel. Take care ... Laurie

Laurie, Thank you for your much needed comfort. Yes we will be together someday. My daughter is not only my beloved baby, (Out of 6 children I carried, the only one planned which she reminds me of often. lol) but one of my best friends. We are always together and some days, I am with her more than with my dh. One thing that hurts so much is that this is one hurt I can not soothe. She just goes through one major crisis after another. Yet, she is one of the sweetest and kindest women I know. She just keeps rolling with each viciou*****h life sends her way. One of which was a previous miscarraige. Again, thanks for sharing. Kaye

Kaye, What a beautiful name. I'm so sorry for your families loss. Your family will certainly be in my prayers. I wish I had some real good words of wisdom, but Laurie is certainly right, you will all meet again in the future, always remember that. ((((HUGS)))) Amy

Thank you Amy! Just knowing that you cared enough to respond means more than I can say. Having my sweet daughter in your prayers is important to me. She is one of the sweetest, good and rightous people I have ever met. The worst problem she ever gave me, was her room. We will not discuss how that was. An old family friend listened to me complain one day and asked if she was on drugs, No was the answer. Did she break curfew? Again no. He went through a list of all the usual and even unusual problems teens give their parents. All the answers were no. He just looked at me and told me to shut the door. I did. She just doesn't deserve all that she endures. Still... sweet and faithful to the gospel, as can be. Thanks again. Kaye

Kaye, That is so hard. I know sometimes in my life I've questioned why something happened and although we don't understand at that time down the road there is a better understanding. It sounds like you have a truly wonder daughter of our heavenly father. What a blessing to know you have such a wonderful person you raised in your life and I can only imagine the hurt you must feel for her. Just be there for her and she will get through this very hard time, you will do it together. Many blessings to come. Amy

(((HUGS)))) to your entire family!!! I don't have any words of wisdom or anything like that. Just love and support to know that we care and your family is in our prayers!! Take care of Kaye please!! We love you!! Gala

Kaye My prayers are going out for you and your family. Be there for her, know that you can be strong for her. You will be together as a family someday. Lean on us here whn you need us. What a beautiful name she gave him. Kaye C

Kaye I am so sorry that you and your famiy have to go through this. We just recently lost my brotherinlaw in a plane crash and it is sooooo hard sometimes to understand the why of things like this but it is ultimatly our faith in the love of the Savior and Heavenly Father and our willingness after all the sadness and sorrow to know that they are aware of us and our sadness and tragadies. It has taken me the better part of the last two months to come to terms with the tragady in our family. It is hard but eventually it gets easier and it has caused me to seek to be closer to the Savior to be able to deal with it. I will pray for you and your family. Take care Lynn

Kaye, I don't think anyone can say anything that you don't already know and that will make Gabriel come back. But we can remind you that you, your daughter and your entire family are loved by our Heavenly Father. HE has a plan for us. We may not understand everything right now. HE is in charge. There is a reason for having to go through this. We may not like it and we may not understand it, someday (even if it's in the next life) it will be made clear to us. Keep the faith and continue to be there for your daughter and her family. Vent to us anytime. We're here to listen. Melody