No one noticed

I've lost 62 pounds but I was still wearing all my old church dresses. I was having to pin, pin, pin the dresses before church so they would stay up on my shoulders. It was looking pretty pathetic. I went through my closet and got rid of all my too big clothes. I went through a box in my closet (one where I had stored clothes that I haven't been able to wear for at least 6 years). By going through this box I was able to fill my closet up again with clothes that were much, much smaller. In that one day I got rid of my size 24 dresses and can now wear size 18 dresses. I was sooo pleased that I was able to wear dresses that FIT. I went to church vainly thinking that people would notice and comment on my weight loss. WRONG. No one said a word to me. It was like no one noticed. I was being vain and it served me right that no one said anything to me. (I've been very open about my surgery and most the ward knows about it). I was hoping for the ego boost that would come when people would notice. Later on Sunday evening my mother told me that one of the women commented to her that "Wow, Melody's really lost a lot of weight". I finally got my ego boost, even if I didn't hear it first hand. I've learned not to be so vain. I also repented of that little episode. Melody 260/198/??

Wanting acknowldegement isnt vain. its natural. My visiting teaching partner and I are both post op so people think its cute to come behind us and say, hows the two newest skinnies in the ward? - trust me it gets old. I loved it at first, but now it feels kind of fake. -Sherrie

I think tha tis just natural feelings wanting to be noticed. You have worked hard to get to this point. I have found a lot of people don't know what to say when they have seen someone loose weight. Regardless of the reasonings it is hurtfull. Glad to hear you are doing well and I can't wait to get into 18 dresses or ANYTHING less than I am. Gala

Gala - you WILL get there. I had consigned myself to being the one person with WLS that would still be the same size even months later. It took 4 months but I did finally go down some sizes. It WILL happen for you. It's something to look forward to. Melody

It can be frustrating. I work with several people who are totally obsessed with issues of weight, and when we were doing a Weigh****chers at Work program they would comment all the time about how things were going, in fact, one of them has lost about 70 lbs by diet and exercise, but none of them has said one thing to me! They have to have noticed, even some clueless, unobservant guys at work have noticed, and these women talk about weight issues all of the time! I think sometimes people just don't know what to say, or are afraid of "offending" or something. My philosophy is this: I have never met anyone who got offended by someone telling them, "hey, you thin, OR hey, are you losing weight?" Even if you are not losing, it gives a boost to a persons esteem. I think also that sometimes people begrudge those of us who have chosen to have WLS, the success we are experiencing, because it is the "easy way". I know I had that mentality in the past. Now I know different! : ) Anyways... I don't know if any of this makes sense, but I hope that you continue to celebrate all of your victories in your new life! Keep up the great work! Allison -61

Hi Allison. It's nice (and discouraging) to hear that others are experiencing the same thing about "No one noticing" their weight loss. Maybe everyone is waiting for US to vocally brag on how much weight weight we've lost. I know some people who brag in public about how much weight they've lost, I was just hoping someone would notice on their own without being told. Me being vain I guess. Keep coming and chatting. Melody