My life the soap opera

I have no need to watch the soap operas, I'm living one. My 4 year old and my 6 year old daughters were sexually assaulted by their 15 year old cousin (my sister's son). This has caused a HUGE rift in our family. My sister's children refuse to speak to us or even acknowledge our existance (with the exception of one of her girls). This neiece was married in the temple last week. This is quite an accomplishment since she comes from an non-active alcoholic family. She invited me to her endowments as well as to her sealing. I was thrilled to be involved and witness to these special occasions. Her paternal grandmother was also there. This paternal grandmother is in total denial that her grandson could possibly be responsible for molesting my children. When we left the temple, this paternal grandmother called the Bride to be and threw a fit that I was present. (the endowment and the sealing were 7 days apart). The paternal grandmother felt that with my presence the bride was taking sides and not supporting her brother. This resulted in my receiving an e-mail the night before the sealing telling me that I was not allowed at the reception because it would make her brother "uncomfortable". EXCUSSSE ME! I could care less if this pervert was uncomfortable because his victims family was present. I was a good girl and stayed away from the reception. Family relations may take a long time to heal and at this point I don't think I'm ready for them to heal yet. I know I need to be more Savior-like and forgiving but it's hard when the only thing you hear from the offending family is negative, ugly and more ugliness. The Lord will only give us what we can handle but the rest of the scripture says "with is help". I need to spend more time in prayer to have a change of heart when I hear all the ugliness and negative. Like I said, who needs to watch a soap opera when I'm living one. - Melody

I've never watched Soap Opera's and never will. Why waste my time when I live one myself. And I'm right there with you in your thinking you don't need to watch one you are living one. You my darling need to be kinder to "you"!!! Doesn't matter how much you read your scriptures, how often you pray for change of heart towards this child and his family, or how much you need to be more like the Savior. Plain and Simple - what this kid did was horrific. The ramifications of his actions are horrendous. And sweetheart -I"ve read nothing but a forgiving (or as forgiving as you can be) in your posts about this situation!!! Take care of Melody!!! love, Gala

Melody o can I relate to living a soap oprea... We try not to live the world but that Darn world comes in and peaks its ugly head in and leaves with big brusis. Family we are stuck with but this family in deniel of wronge or granny is just so sad. Becuse that what keeps this ugly thing going on and going on we have to wake up and smell the k-aid LoL There is more disfunctional Lds Family out there and its because of the ones that can't pull there heads out of the sand. It just erks me that a Card holder can say do the things this woman did. U know that we are not to judge unrightishley. Can u imangine what this bride felt what her stomach went threw over this thing it being the most important day of her life and Granny doing this. I have been put inthat postion and I know that I threw up and got a migrane over it all. Just stay in touch with her and go to the Temple just the two of U if U can. Don't talk family just how is the new family doing. School Job ect... I dont know if I am to preachy or just to forward sometimes but I can't belive how much we do have in common. Love Ruth

Ok...just too rude for my tastes... I do believe that this is causing a rift in the family, but the grandmother had no right to exclude you from the reception. I am sorry that the family is having problems, but, they need to pull together for the kids. A wedding is not the time to pull out petty jealousies and put the bride and groom in a place that they don't need to be in. The grandmother is in denial, and that is normal, but there comes a time when we have to pull together for each other to get through it. You don't have to forgive now. The feelings are still raw and it is hard to see the good through the bad. Eventually you will have to come to terms with it and forgive him... but now is not the time for this. Just remember that the rest of the family is in shock too and they have to process this in their own way. That takes time my friend. But for now, stay close to H.F. and he will get through this. Go to the temple as often as you can for the guidence that only the house of the Lord can give you. You and your family are in my prayers always and I hope that you can get through the wedding with some diginity. Just remember, that it is about the kids, not the adults that want to act like kids. Love, Donna p.s. give the girls a hug a day and tell them that you love them, it will make a world of difference to them. The rest will take care of itself.