The boards have been quie...

The boards have been quiet for a couple of days. I'm hearing crickets!! Anywho, Throughout my almost ten years of marriage, my wonderful husband never once, ever, said anything about my ever growing weight problem. I always loved him for this. I was so grateful that he saw past it. But now I have changed and he hasn't. He didn't notice my weight gain before and now he doesn't notice the loss, which is significant at this point. I have to ask him for compliments, which of course means they don't count! Am I right or am I right? ha. I love him very much and this is not a huge problem with me, just a disappointment and irritation. Any thoughts? C Leigh

I can certainly relate to your post. My DH has NEVER commented on my weight. One time when I weighed 260 lbs I asked him if it bothered him. He told me that he married ME not my weight. That was the biggest compliment he could give me. He told me that he loved me no matter what my weight was. I now weigh 118 lbs and my DH still doesn't comment on my weight. He doesn't say anything about it one way or the other. I can certainly relate to what you are saying. It's nice sometimes to hear the compliments from someone so important to us but since he didn't give me any negative when I was morbidly obese, I shouldn't be fishing for the compliments when I'm small. Hang in there. It's nice to know our DHs love us for who we are and not what we look like. Melody

I understand your frustrations. My wife did not say much of any thing about my weight loss for several months. Recently she has commented about it, but it is always coupled with negative comments that eventually I will weigh less than her. My goal weight is 10 pounds less then what she weighs right now (I'm 6'2" and she is 5'2"). As men we are taught not to comment on women's weight. Weight is one of those hot button issues that we cannot touch, because it can always be taken the wrong way. Perhaps he is hesitant to mention this because he is afraid that you might come back to him and say somethig like "you mean you didn't like the way I looked before?" It is something to think about. -Jonathan