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lynnk
on 5/23/05 2:29 pm - burnsville, MN
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
Melody-I come from a family of 6 girls. all of us were molested / raped by our grandfather. we have had to deal with it without family counseling, as our parents back then didn't have any guidence as to what to do. My oldest daughter was raped at the age of 12, and still suffers problems physically and emotionally. my 2 oldest daughters were molested when they were 3 and 4 also, by a friends son. my youngest daughter was molested at 10 by a friends son, and raped at 16 by a man she worked with. I can imagine the anger, hurt and pain you must be feeling. Satan uses this tool more than anything else because it causes us to feel so unloved and forgotten, and question HF why it could happen to us and our children. I hope that CS is helpful and your nephew is brought up on charges, and I pray that you and your family will come through this stronger than before, and that your bishopric and home teachers will be there for you. I feel your pain, and will pray for you and your little girls. (((((HUGS))))))) lynn
Gala G.
on 5/23/05 10:50 am - Middleton, WI
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
Honey I can't even begin to tell you how very sorry I am. I hope that CPS was able to give you some guidance today after contacting them. This is a horrible and devasting event to with stand. Rely on your Father in Heaven (as I know you are) to guide both yourself and children this this. Our son was molested by his bio grandfather prior to us adopting him. We knew of the "possibilty" that it happened. However, it never came out for certain until after we had him for a year and half. The most devasting part for me is the fact that his 'unhealthy' bond with his bio grandfather led him to 'protect' the GF. Unfortunatly the GF told Corry he was lying and therefore when the detectives interviewed Corry he said just that "I told my GF what he did was wrong. And he told me that i was not saying the truth and if I told anyone that he would go to jail." The detectives on the "outside" of the room told my dh that they were certain that it happened. However, because he wouldn't come out and say 'yes' - there was nothing that could be done. A year or so later his bio grandparents left for a couples mission. I can't even begin to imagine how or what would go threw my mind, emotions, body having found this out about either one of my 2 babies. Hang in there. Your trials have been many over the last few months. Remember to take care of "Melody"!! love, Gala
mldrsl
on 5/23/05 7:21 am - Shoshone, ID
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
Thank you Alfie. Never in my whole life would I thought something like this was possible. I THOUGHT I watched and protected my children, little did I know. I've just returned from the police station where an official report was made. The officer thought it could be as soon as two weeks from now before things were ready to go to the prosecutor and within a couple days before the girls were interviewed and examined by the professionals. The sooner the healing for the girls the better. Thanks for the moral support. I really need it right now. I cried all through church Sunday beginning with the opening song. The words of the song were "I need thee every hour, now bless me now my Savior I come unto thee." It's a familiar song at least in this area and the words just hit a spot in me and the tears started flowing and didn't stop. I can just imagine what the people sitting near me thought. At one point I was even sobbing. I have my moments now. It feels like the whole world is collapsing. It all began when we lost our job and as of this moment we still don't have an income, now this. In my prayers I ask Heavenly Father to please help me learn what eternal lesson I'm supposed to learn from all of this. I need to open my mind to be receptive to the lesson I'm to learn so this will pass and pass quickly. I'm a firm believer that we're all here on the earth to be tested and learn and to grow and become more like our Heavenly Father. I just haven't learned yet what the eternal concept is I'm supposed to learn in all of this. Thanks for your support. Melody
Alfie
on 5/23/05 3:36 am - AZLE, TX
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
My dear Melody..My heart aches for you and your precious girls. I really don't know what to say but had to write something so you would know I am thinking about you. I can't even in my worse nightmares imagine what you are going through. I don't have children ,,I have three stepchildren all grown and gone. I hope that all will go well for you and I hope the girls will be ok too. God bless and keep you all love Alfie
mldrsl
on 5/23/05 1:37 am - Shoshone, ID
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
Kathy, Thank you for your words of wisdom. Hearing from someone who has BEEN there is a help. The first thing I did when I learned of this incident was to call my bishop who came over immediately (This after 9:00 pm at night), I knew that I needed Priesthood guidance and that this was the route to go. He gave me some great advice. The advice you've given me is just as valuable because it comes from someone with first hand experience. My bishop told me that after the girls have been through counciling they need a priesthood blessing asking that this memory be erased from their minds. We have a long road ahead of us and I fool myself into thinking this is going to be easy. Thanks for being there Kathy. Melody
kjsparrow
on 5/22/05 11:54 pm - Kalispell, Mt
Topic: RE: A devastating moment
Dear Melody, I am so sorry to hear you about your children. I know of your pain. My daughter was raped as well at the age of 13 and we just found out about it about 2 months ago and we have been going to couseling for it. I know without a doubt that our Father in Heaven and his son Jesus Christ will guide you as to what to do and will encircle you and your children with his deepiest love. I want you to know that you are doing the right thing by pressing charges. This is the only way for the family to truly understand the great need to make changes in their lives. This will be a difficult thing to do and will devistate them but blessings will come from your actions. I suggest that you get professional help for your kids and you and your family. The church offers great help in this area and can help on a spiritual sense of things but it has been our experience to get couseling from outside area as well. I would look into work coverage if you have medical coverage for your couseling and have your kids medically checked for any type of aids ect and for your court process. I am sure you are feeling truly over whelmed by all of this so I encourage you to get a Priesthood Blessing to help you and guide you through the rough waters that lay ahead of you. Remember you can receive and ask for as many blessings as you need. The Savior Atonement has a power so real and so loving Melody seek this out and call down the powers of heaven to start healing your children, you and your Sister family. The healing will come as you forgive your Sister and her Son for their wrong actions and choices. This will not be easy Melody I know from personal experience my brother raped me when I was 21 yrs old and I had to purge myself from within because I allowed hate, anger, rage, ect into my heart and I allowed Satan to deceive me by thinking it was okay to harbor such feelings. I strggled with theses feelings for years which caused me to go totally in active to fall completely away from the church drugs, sin until I was ex-cummunicated and lost everything. Then through the counsel of a wise Bishop I came to the understanding of this simple truth..... anger of others and not forgiving those whom has sined agaisnt you will destroy you inwardly and outwardly. I had to learn the lesson of forgiveness and I came to truly understand what the Atonement was about for me and others. I share this with you because I dont want you or your children to fall prey to Satan deceivment of anger, hurt, revenge ect. He is so quick to interven within us that sometimes we dont realize that he has. I have complete faith in you as a Daughter of God to be guided by the Savior and his love. If you would like to talk I am here for you. I want you to know that you will be in my prayers and that Heavenly Father and his Son are aware of you and your family every minute of every day, Keep your spirit up and open at all times and the sweet whispering of the spirit will guide you. Email me if you need anything Melody always Kathy
mldrsl
on 5/22/05 12:25 pm - Shoshone, ID
Topic: A devastating moment
A devastating moment is not the word for it. The description would be better termed "a devasting time yet to come". Last night I learned that both by 4 year old and my 6 year old daughters have been repeatedly raped by their 15 year old cousin. This has been going on for a year now from what we can piece together. I use the word "rape" instead of just molested because there has been intercourse both vaginally and rectally on both girls. When I learned about this last night I was brave and strong. Today through church, the tears started with the opening song and flowed throughout the entire meeting. The sacrament was especially tearful for me as I thought of the Savior and all that he went through and all that he has done for us. Tomorrow morning (Monday) we start the process of contacting child protective services and pressing charges. The perpetrator is a family member (aren't they all) and this will tear the family apart. My sister is an alcoholic and her son is the perpetrator. This 15 year old has sooo many problems. He really needs the help. We are definately pressing charges and maybe there will be a blessing in it for him. Maybe this will force him AND his mother to get the treatments they need. Had to vent. Thanks for listening. Melody (notice no smile this time)
mldrsl
on 5/22/05 12:24 pm - Shoshone, ID
Topic: A devastating moment
A devastating moment is not the word for it. The description would be better termed "a devasting time yet to come". Last night I learned that both by 4 year old and my 6 year old daughters have been repeatedly raped by their 15 year old cousin. This has been going on for a year now from what we can piece together. I use the word "rape" instead of just molested because there has been intercourse both vaginally and rectally on both girls. When I learned about this last night I was brave and strong. Today through church, the tears started with the opening song and flowed throughout the entire meeting. The sacrament was especially tearful for me as I thought of the Savior and all that he went through and all that he has done for us. Tomorrow morning (Monday) we start the process of contacting child protective services and pressing charges. The perpetrator is a family member (aren't they all) and this will tear the family apart. My sister is an alcoholic and her son is the perpetrator. This 15 year old has sooo many problems. He really needs the help. We are definately pressing charges and maybe there will be a blessing in it for him. Maybe this will force him AND his mother to get the treatments they need. Had to vent. Thanks for listening. Melody (notice no smile this time)
mldrsl
on 5/22/05 12:15 pm - Shoshone, ID
Topic: RE: home from my tummy tuck & breast lift
Kathy, I'm so glad that things went well for you. Our Heavenly Father certainly does know us and love us. Keep up the healing. I'd heard horror stories about the pain involved with a tummy tuck. I'm so glad to hear a positive experience. There's hope out there for the chicken in us. Melody
kjsparrow
on 5/21/05 4:43 am - Kalispell, Mt
Topic: home from my tummy tuck & breast lift
Dear family, I would like to share with you all my experience prior to my PS surgery and my recovery. I had my surgery on Monday the 9th of May. I received a Priesthood Blessing on Saturday prior to Mother Day. In my blessing I was promised a miraculious healing and that the lord would guide my surgeons hands and those who assisted him in the operating room. I went to my first post op appt this past Wednesday and the Dr said to be man you are fast healier. I shared with him my Priesthood Blessing and shared with him what I was promised. He then asked me if he could receive a blessing for the rest of his career and every surgery he does. I simply told him absoulutely pray to your Heavenly Father every morning noon and night and when you feel you need his guidence and comfort to be with you personally and your family he smiled and I will do that. He is catholic I know that he beleives in God . He removed my left side drain but left the right side in. He will remove it this Wednesday. I cant beleive the difference in my body all ready. I havent had any pain at all with my surgery other than the ache in my back from bending over all the time. He told me that he removed over 5 pounds of skin from my stomach and my Breast lift went great I went from a 42 D to a 36 B. I am so excited. When they removed my dressings the 2nd day at the hospital I just stood there and stared at my new tummy and breasts. Wow I was so shocked at the big difference. My Surgeon is simply the best. He is so compassionate and soft spoken and a perfectionist in his skill. I am so Happy with my results. I know that the power of the Priesthood and the blessing that I received is a hugh part of my recovery and results of my surgery. I know that Heavenly Father and my Savior guided my surgeons hands and helped him through the 7 hour surgery. I am so blessed to have the gospel of Jesus Christ in my life . I have been so humbled from this surgery. I have felt the spirit so strongly with me and its wonderful. I was never scared of my surgery and I knew that I would cared for and watched over by my Father in Heaven. This has been a wonderful example of the power of the Priesthood for my teenagers. They have witnessed first hand the power and love of our Father in Heaven and his desires to bless our lives. I am so thankful for a worthy Priesthood holder in my home and also for a worthy home teacher who helped with this blessing. I am 2 weeks out on Monday and I feel great. This afternoon my son Preston starts his first job at Taco Bell and he is so excited. Then later this evening we are going to Star Wars movies. I dont know who is more excited me or him! I love Star Wars and the strong messages it brings with it. I am excited to share this with him. Well my dear friends I am going to take a little nap now so that I am all rested up for the movies. May the force of our Heavenly Father be with you all is my prayer and desire . Take care, always Kathy
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