Christy - I would never had guessed that something like that would have gone on in a ward. I guess I'm lucky that I have tremendous support in my ward. I'm more than a year out and am at goal so I hope I don't have the same kind of challenges that you have been going through. I think you nailed it right on the head when you said that others were just uncomfortable with their own body images and self confidence. I'm glad that you have put it into prospective that it is THEIR problem and not yours. Sounds like they may be a little jealous and instead of being happy for you they chose to ignore you. I play a little game in life. Whenever their is someone I'm having a problem with and would just as soon ignore me than to speak to me, I go out of my way to call them by name in a real cheerful voice and force them to acknowledge that I'm speaking to them. It irritates them and before I know it they aren't ignoring me anymore. I hope this passes and passes quickly Christy. I also hope I won't have to share your same challenge. Melody

Here's one I got today that I enjoyed. "God's love fills the immensity of space; therefore, there is no shortage of love in the universe, only in our willingness to do what is needed to feel it." --John H. Groberg Hydi

It makes me sad that there isn't more LDS WLS people posting on this board. There are so many issues we deal with as Latter-day Saints that other people don't face. Here is my dilema right now. Unfortunately its common when some loses a lot of weight that their friends undermine them or become jealous. I really see it in my Ward. I am nearly 4 years out from surgery now and I've maintained my current weight for over a year now. I hit goal at the end of the first year, then I went too far below my goal and had to gain some back. I have since been at this weight for a year now and I feel very healthy and happy. Happier then I've ever been in my life. Yet prominent members of my Ward who use to include me (which I don't care if they call me for all the social fringes) will not or barely talk to me now. The most I get from my Bishop's wife is a hello in the halls in passing on Sundays. And there are a couple others that are the same way and yes they maintain a definite click. I don't like being part of clicks which I believe promotes gossip and judgemental behaviors. So, though I'm not devasted by any means, my confidence in myself and self-esteem that has increased is enough to sustain me, it troubles me that people in the church act this way. I'm smart enough to realize that their behaviors and attitude is more connected to their own self image of themselves having little to do with me specifically or something I did. I have said one thing. If I did something to offend you, please talk to me and let me make things right. RESPONSE: nothing. So, I have to assume that they just don't like me because of my weight loss and new found confidence. Am I going to change? NO. I will pray for them that they find their own place and deal with their issues. I only bring it up so that when you are confronted with it, you don't let it floor you or bring you down. People are people everywhere. Even within the Church. We just have to be prepared for it when it happens. Christy

Small world Christy. I actually live in Shoshone. You'd never recognize Twin Falls anymore. It's really growing. I'm sure your mother is keeping you updated on the temple progress in Twin Falls. Everytime we go there we drive by and look. The grounds are all staked out, staked out like a grid. Nothing is recognizable yet as buildings. Still seeing the stakes are exciting in itself. Thanks for sharing. Makes me feel even closer to those on this board when we have something like this in common. Melody

Good Morning Tami, I have seen a therapist off and on for the last 4 yrs. More recently since my surgery over the last year. Linda has been very instrumental in helping me make this decsion. She has extensive experience in Reactive Attachment Disorder and working w/parents who have children w/behavioral-emotional problems. She also has extensive experience in working w/people with eating disorders. So she has helped in 2 important areas. She also does couples work and has started seeing my dh and I along w/our couples therapist. My husband now sees the person we saw for couples on an individual basis. So...we are there. Just taking time. Thanks, gala