Hello Gala: You and your family will be in my prayers. I have 3 adopted children who were older when we adopted them. I know the rage your talking about and understand totaly your choice. I recommend finding some therapy for you and your husband especially....there are a lot of issues Gala, don't keep them bottled up inside. Hang in there and turn to the Lord....he will bless you and your family. Your loved! Tami~

Good Morning, I've stepped back from the board here and I know instead of doign that I should be reaching out. I don't want to sound negative all the time and be venting so I have/am just keeping to myself. Thought I would update on what is going on in our life - as much as my emotions will let me. As some of you may or may not know - We have 3 children. 1 adopted son who is 10 yrs old and 2 biological children who are 5 and 2yrs old. Our 10 yr old has lived outside of our home for nearly 4 out of the 6 yrs that we have had him. Due to his extreme behavioral and emotional problems. More recently (last 2 yrs) he has been in a Residential Treatment facility 2 hrs away. Last fall he was transferred to a treatment foster home. Where he has done okay. We were planning for his return early summer. Making a 4rth bedroom in our home, increased home visits and everything else. Cor was told that he would be able to come home this summer as long as he continued to do well. Well - little did we know that he wasn't doing so well. Was struggling in few areas and even had to have the cops called while at a respite provider's home. Started having problems on home visits. And we quickly caught on that he wasn't doing as good as we had been told. Then had a visit where he pushed me and began to rage, the next visit he punched his dad and did some other things that were not okay. We have been very firm on our no tolerance to agression - and he is still acting out. We spoke w/therapist and sw's last week. The County SW told my husband that we have 2 weeks - max. to make a decsion. Either bring Corry back home by the begining of summer or the county/state will terminate our parental rights (TPR). Unfortunately - we have decided to let them go threw w/the TPR. Not only is this a huge emotional burden but also a financial burden. My dh has held on to the financial part and said no we can't let them do this we need to bring thiskid home. However, he is a severe risk of hurting our other two younger children. It has come down to me telling dh last week "choose between me or C" and in doing so he is choosing between myself, abi, bryant or Corry. I am fully prepared to leave w/the other 2 kids if Corry comes back into our home. James has agreed that it is in our family's best interest to move fwd w/the TPR. The emotional aspect of this is more to bear than what I can sometimes handle. I don't believe it is in Corry's best interest for us to TPR - Sustained foster care where we remain family but he just doesn't live w/us is. His therapist even suggested this to me. However, that is not how WI works. They look at $$ signs - not what is in his best interest. Heck if they did....we wouldn't be in this situation because he wouldn't have spent the first 4 yrs of his life being abused and neglected. They kept him in that situation - yet we want what is best and are getting crapped upon. I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm sad and hurt. - Need to end w/this. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. Gala

Hi Ruthie. Welcome to the mormonism board. My name is Melody and I try to post or answer posts often. I check this board everyday and it's exciting when we get new members. Let me tell you a little about myself. I had my surgery RNY on March 8, 2004. I'm 13 months post op now and have lost 125 lbs and am still losing. This morning I weighed 135 pounds. I was excited. I weigh less now than when I was in grade school. I have lots and lots and lots of excess skin that just hangs so I still feel fat. Every once in a while I'll catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror and think that I kind of look normal size now. This surgery was the best thing I've ever done for myself. This surgery is a major surgery. Bad things can and do happen. Pray often about the decision to have the surgery and then get a priesthood blessing before you actually go in for surgery. Good luck Ruthie and I'd like to see you on this board more often. Melody 260-135-??? (I'd still like to lose a little more. I'm past my surgeons goal but I'd still like to lose a little more)

I'm new here. Just thought I would say hi! I'm 29, born and raised in the church. Been married for 7 1/2 years and no children (). I'm starting the work to have Lap Band done. I can't even wait! Anyway just wanted to say hi and am excited to find other members around here!

Hello, Sisters and Brothers. I know it has been awhile since I was here. Life can get rough sometimes. I have missed you all! Presently, I am involved with something soooooo exciting! We are getting a new Temple here in San Antonio. It is OUR TEMPLE!!! Just 11 miles to my front door! Some of you might not think much of that but I have never lived near one. This is awesome. I have always been so envious of those who have one. The open house starts tomorrow. Yayyyyyyyyyyy I am so excited about all of this. Granted, my contributions are really minor but still, just to be allowed to help in small ways is, to me, an honor! There will be the open house, then a jubilee and, of course, the dedication. I can hardly contain my excitment. Also, I am catching up on my genealogy. That is really really really fun. I love doing the research. IT is the paperwork that is trying. Well, take care all. Grins, Kaye