I agree with Gala. You need to talk to the Bishop. Even if he denies it..you KNOW the truth and you neeed help getting through this. Daph

I am posting anonymously because, obviously, this is really personal and I don't want anyone to know who I am. About three months ago I found a porn site on my husbands computer. I didn't think much of it, because sometimes stuff happens when you are surfing and you accidentally click on something, etc. So I kind of shrugged it off. Then about a month ago I found another porn site in his cache, this time it had some gay porn. I confronted him and he adamantly denied that he was looking at porn. We fought about it, but eventually he convinced me, even though how on Earth does porn get on your cache if you aren't visiting those sites? Anyway, I was using his computed this morning, and guess what? Another porn site. I know if I confront him about it he will deny it, but I don't believe him. What do I do? Honestly, it's not even the porn that bothers me so much, it's the lying and the fact that our sex life sucks because he is never interested, and if he is not going to make love to me, I certainly don't want him making love to the computer. I don't want to talk to our bishop because I don't want to embarass him, and if he just sits there and denies it, we can't make any headway anyways. Help!

Melody, Would you mind sharing how they operate the "back on track" program? I attend a peer facilitated support group (non specific program that I run) and have considered adding another feature like a "back on track" night or something. I'm considering Weigh****chers or Jenny Craig or some such thing for the accountability. I'm also considering getting my Personal Trainer's Certification so that I am forced to LIVE in the gym!!! Joyce

Joyce, so glad you found us again. Are you going to your support group. They might be able to give you the support you need to find out why the weight gain. My support group offers a "back on track" program to help us maintain the weight we worked so hard to lose and help us get back on the right track. Glad you found us. Melody

I used to post on this support site before the big O.H. switch and am just now taking the time to wander around and find you again! I've missed everyone. Reintroduction: I am 4 years post-op (proximal Rny) in just a couple of weeks. I lost about 140 pounds initially and have regained about 20 pounds to put me at about 150. I'm not a bit happy about that and have looked into a revision. I have been working for over a year and a half for Dr. Terry Simpson here in Phoenix. He's a LapBand surgeon. He was going to do a revision to LapBand on me but but insurance did not approve it and having him do it for free would have involved too much of a future committment from me. ....Sooooo, I quite working for him on Jan 1st and am looking forward to having some changes in my life....... I'm kicking off the year with a big surgery the end of the month that I've been postponing forever but have needed ......it will be great to get that over with and then I can focus on the job search. I will most likely work with another Bariatric program. My hubby also had surgery and has had a bit of regain too but is still within his "healthy BMI" range! We have enjoyed doing this journey together! anyway.....just wanted to check in and see what was up with everyone. ..... wishing you all a healkthy New Year!! Joyce in az