Hello everyone, I'm new to this site and so thrilled that I found an LDS forum. Who knew?? This is my first posting on this site. I am currently 3.5 months post-op. I haven't told many of the people in my world about my surgery, so this is a great way to be able to "talk" about the amazing changes taking place in my life and to my body right now. I live in Gilbert, AZ which is full of members, but they all seem to be so thin, so I really stick out!!! I'm the only roly-poly in my ward--something had to be done!!! There is not much on my profile yet, but check it out. --C Leigh

Gala, Thanks. You understand the situation from both sides. I have been restless this past week and I have not been able to concentrate on my work because of these issues. I took some personal time today to think about things. My complaints are valid, but I can only take care of what I have control over. That is all I can do. My OCD causes me to ruminate over these things and it drives me crazy. You are right, I should take care of myself and not give up. I am struggling to give it over to the Lord. I appreciate the atonement in that he understand all pain. BTW I wouldn't mind if your hubby were to contact me. Thanks for your concern and assistance. I hope that you are doing fine and that your health improves. -Jonathan

Dear Kathy, I have been having a rough time lately and not been able to check out this board in some time. Amazing that I did today. (It is also the first time in days that my computer is working.) I have so been where you are today! Been there, done that and Heavenly Father brought me out on top!!! I was inactive for a long time and had not been to the temple but when I started back to church and my testimony began to grow enough to go to the temple, all hades broke loose. The only good thing that happened was I met my present husband and was finally able to attend the temple. Let me intersperse here that Proverbs 22:6 reads "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it!" I have searched it many times and it does not say anything about the teenage years. NOTHING. My daughter got on drugs, ran away numerous times, got pregnant etc. We had her in drug rehab 2 times. One time there were some VERY nasty people after her and we had to send her to a safe place for awhile. NO ONE in our family could know where she was. I won't go into any details here but will be happy to talk to you if you want. Anyway, to make a very long story shorter, this dau is one of my greatest heros! I raised her baby for 2 1/2 years till she straightened herself out. She is now a stay-at-home mom whos favorite part of working at the temple is the recommend desk so that she can help greet all the people who come and gain something from all the folks who come through the doors. She and her DH are foster parents for newborns who test positive for drugs. She loves helping the moms learn how to parent. She is a good one for that as I have rarely seen a better mom. I want to be like her when I grow up. The things she went through have helped her learn compassion, love, charity, hope, faith and service. In an '82 Ensign there is an article that kind of explains my way of handling her. It is called something like Keeping the door open and the soup hot. I kept the door open and she was always welcome at home even when she ran away. (She knew that the time My daughter has frequently called and told me she is so grateful that no matter what, she knew I would always love her unconditionally. No matter what else I ever did or what kind of example I was, she knew I loved her. Says it kept her going sometimes and no matter what she had done and how awful she felt about herself, she was loved by and important to me. If you want to talk, feel free to contact me and we can either email or I have unlimited long distance. (I have to as most of my babies live far from me.) This post is getting to long. I will put your name in at the temple here and keep you in my prayers. Grins, Kaye

I have been divorced, and it is the single most difficult decision to have to make. It is not to be taken lightly and you should pray earnestly to see if there is any way to salvage your marriage. My ex-husband had cheated and abused me and I am still learning to love myself. You need to talk to your wife and see just what the problems are, and be willing to listen to instead of being the bully. I hope it works out for you Donna

I've been married 3 times. You know the saying...3rd time the charm. Anyway I'm really sorry you are going thru this! Have you and your wife been to LDS social services for counceling? Tammy