Emotional vs Logical thinking
If you are susceptible to having hurt feelings, you may want to skip thisreply for the moment.
"Is it possible that at 3 months I am finished losing?" Assuming you are following the rules we have been given, that is highly, highly unlikely. I do have to ask however, is that a serious question? If it is, then you will struggle every step of the way until you develop a willingness to think your way of out panic or to help yourself. It appears that you have not taken into account post after post after post on the board talking about stalls that happen early out and last for what seems like ever. I had one, almost everyone I have heard of has had one. Mine was about 80 pounds ago. I have never seen anyone on this board post about having stopped losing at the point you are at now and never losing again.
Christmas was less than a month ago.
If your question, coupled with a boo hoo for good measure, was intended to express that you are frustrated by the stall and could use some support or advice, that's a different thing. The board can help with that because we can understand how frustrating that can be. Asking for support is a healthy way to help yourself. Adopting a posture of helplessness is not the same thing.
My apologies if I am stepping on your toes, but for many of us I would hazard the guess that it was some form of disordered thinking that got us to the point of needing surgery in the first place. I have only been able to make changes in my life by being called on the message I am sending to myself and to the world, and in turn, learning to call myself on it. I mistook the desire to be cuddled for the desire to be coddled until finally no one was willing to do either, so I sat and ate.
Patience, openness, honesty and kindess to yourself will get you through this.
"Is it possible that at 3 months I am finished losing?" Assuming you are following the rules we have been given, that is highly, highly unlikely. I do have to ask however, is that a serious question? If it is, then you will struggle every step of the way until you develop a willingness to think your way of out panic or to help yourself. It appears that you have not taken into account post after post after post on the board talking about stalls that happen early out and last for what seems like ever. I had one, almost everyone I have heard of has had one. Mine was about 80 pounds ago. I have never seen anyone on this board post about having stopped losing at the point you are at now and never losing again.
Christmas was less than a month ago.
If your question, coupled with a boo hoo for good measure, was intended to express that you are frustrated by the stall and could use some support or advice, that's a different thing. The board can help with that because we can understand how frustrating that can be. Asking for support is a healthy way to help yourself. Adopting a posture of helplessness is not the same thing.
My apologies if I am stepping on your toes, but for many of us I would hazard the guess that it was some form of disordered thinking that got us to the point of needing surgery in the first place. I have only been able to make changes in my life by being called on the message I am sending to myself and to the world, and in turn, learning to call myself on it. I mistook the desire to be cuddled for the desire to be coddled until finally no one was willing to do either, so I sat and ate.
Patience, openness, honesty and kindess to yourself will get you through this.
If you are susceptible to having an attiutude, you may want to skip this reply for the moment.
Please do not assume that you know the true meaning of my questions from a quick post. And thus not knowing the true meaning behind a post does not entitle you to assume the worse and thus lecture to that point.
Yes the forum is a place to lookf for suppotr or advice, but often it is responses like yours that deter people away.
I am well aware of how the calendar operates and that Christmas was less than a month ago. But thanks again for the 'wise' advice.
Just because you caveat your answer with apologies, doesn't make the words any nicer.
My intention is not to offend and if what I say does not strike a chord, or reflect what you meant to say by your post, then disregard it by all means. I wouldn't expect anybody to do anything less and I am happy to be held accountable for being mistaken in my interpretation. If I'm wrong, then I'm glad.
I also believe that even by taking the risk of getting it wrong but still posting a response as I did can be helpful. Perhaps not to you directly, but certainly to myself as the ensuing interaction allows me to examine myself and my perceptions, and maybe it is of use to others who might read it and either agree or disagree, or recognize themselves in the words or experiences of either of us.
I am not, by nature, a hurtful person and I have nothing invested in trying to do anything other than offer a point of view. The reference to Christmas was, of course, said with the unspoken next sentence, which I did not write as I thought it was obvious. More correctly, I should have said "Christmas was less than a month ago....give yourself a break. Three weeks is not that long in this context."
I also believe that even by taking the risk of getting it wrong but still posting a response as I did can be helpful. Perhaps not to you directly, but certainly to myself as the ensuing interaction allows me to examine myself and my perceptions, and maybe it is of use to others who might read it and either agree or disagree, or recognize themselves in the words or experiences of either of us.
I am not, by nature, a hurtful person and I have nothing invested in trying to do anything other than offer a point of view. The reference to Christmas was, of course, said with the unspoken next sentence, which I did not write as I thought it was obvious. More correctly, I should have said "Christmas was less than a month ago....give yourself a break. Three weeks is not that long in this context."
I take my measurements once a month and the difference is astounding. This week I actually gained slightly (went from 223.4 to 223.8), but when I tried on a pair of pants that took monumental effort to get on last week...they slid right up today. I really don't let the scale get to me. If it was getting to me, I would throw it out in a heartbeat.
This really is a journey....it is going to take time and patience, but it will happen.
Tracy
This really is a journey....it is going to take time and patience, but it will happen.
Tracy
Highest weight ~ 360, Surgery weight ~ 280, Current weight ~ 171
Referral to bariatric registry ~ April 29, 2011 SURGERY ~ September 27, 2011
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I think what you are feeling is totally normal. Our minds are very very tough masters. If you think you can or if you think you can't lose weight you will be right.
I too am obsessing about not losing as fast as I want. I am trying hard not to let it bother me.
My strategies:
* I have moved my scale to my car trunk and only take it out the night before I am to weigh in - once a week.
*I write down everything I eat and drink every day - no one has to see this but you.
* Try journalling your negative thoughts and figure out where they are coming from.
* take a bath and relax
* do some meditation to shut you brain off even for 5 minutes.
* call someone and tell them how you are feeling
* put some music on and dance/exercise
* read about cognitive behavioural thinking a way to stop your negative thinking
* see a therapist to help you through this hurdle.
* Measure yourself - I only lost 15 pounds my first month but 9 inches which surprise me.
Good luck and if you want to talk one on one personal message me and I will call you tonight.
I too am obsessing about not losing as fast as I want. I am trying hard not to let it bother me.
My strategies:
* I have moved my scale to my car trunk and only take it out the night before I am to weigh in - once a week.
*I write down everything I eat and drink every day - no one has to see this but you.
* Try journalling your negative thoughts and figure out where they are coming from.
* take a bath and relax
* do some meditation to shut you brain off even for 5 minutes.
* call someone and tell them how you are feeling
* put some music on and dance/exercise
* read about cognitive behavioural thinking a way to stop your negative thinking
* see a therapist to help you through this hurdle.
* Measure yourself - I only lost 15 pounds my first month but 9 inches which surprise me.
Good luck and if you want to talk one on one personal message me and I will call you tonight.
Highest W 312 Referral W 252 Surgery W 237 CW 156 Height 5'6" 
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