and i thought this would be easy

well i had surgery on the 12th of jan and unfortunately i have eaten a lot of unhealthy foods i just dont dump i thought i would test my boundaries, but now that i know that i can have whatever i kind of have been eating whatever. i have had chips on deveral occasions mac and cheese, pizza, pop corn i have stayed away from sweets.

why am i doing this to myself i swore i would stick to the guidelines( protein first) what a failure! ........ and i wonder why i have not dropped any weight in the last 3 weeks! its like i know what i need to do the addiction is still THERE i think i need to see my pshchologist any words of wisdom any meal plan ideas??????????????? someone anyone.............................

DESPERATE IN MN

I know how you feel.  I have a very very high tolerance to sugar.  I could easily eat 30 grams of sugar in one sitting without dumping.  So I have to watch my sugar intake.  I cant however have chicken salad because my body does not handle the fat in the mayo well at all.  I get really sick. 

Its hard when you can eat something you didnt think you would be able to.

Get rid of the crap. Get it out of the house and don't bring any more in. If you cannot do that (family, kids, etc who live with you) then you need to find something else to do. Start knitting, exercising, playing video games...you get it...to keep yourself busy if you're snacking.

If you are just outright choosing to eat these as meals, well, you have admitted it here which is a good step. NOW, you need to STOP IT. You are not doing yourself any favors. You have not failed, you are just having a setback. Get onto one of the food logging programs online (I have just started using dailyplate.com but I know there are others) and log every morsel that touches your lips. It should make you think twice about what you are doing.

Some OH'ers have a daily "what are you eating thread". Plan your meals in advance and then post them here and stick to them.

Most of all, you have to realize that you control what you eat, so that is an awesome power and responsibility. You can pick up a book like "WLS for dummies" or others and they have some meal ideas you can start with.

Good luck and if you need outside support fronm professionals seek it out and I'm sure you'll get back on track lady!

Georgia

 I wish I could answer your question, but maybe seeing a therapist would help.  I know I'm going back because the same old thoughts are still there that I used to have.  I don't dump either and even thought I do the protein first, vitamins and water, I have still ate baked lays and MMs.  LOL  I only have had four at a time, but still those 4 can lead into a whole bag if I let it.  When I see or smell the foods or "crap" rather that I used to eat, sometimes the "craving" for them drives me nuts!  When i went before surgery I went to help me cope with life after WLS, and I am SO happy I went!  Now I think i need to go for her to help me with my head hunger.  Good luck to you, I hope if you decide to go you do it quickly because guilt is NOT our friend.  Who wants to feel guilty and beat ourselves up all the time...it sucks!  LOL

Time to step back and take stock of why your had this surgery in the first place  -  to get healthy.  You are not a failure.  You just need to get the crap food out of your house and start tracking everything you put in your mouth.  If it's not protein, friut or veggies, put it down. 
If you insist on testing something, you have to write it down in your food journal, so you keep yourself accountable.  The RNY does not do the work for you.  It's a tool, and you can learn to use it properly.
Hope this helps,
Nancy

Hiya!

First of all, I think it is great that you posted this--it took a lot of courage--as it usually does when we know we are not making the best choices. =)

I can't tell you why you have tested things or tried foods that are not quite on the plan--only you can figure that out.

But, what I can offer you is that tomorrow is another day.  Wake up tomorrow and know that this surgery was the final step--your final attempt. Life or death, literally. That's how I look at it. So, I don't wanna screw it up. =)
Then, when I view it in such a way, I know that I had better give it my all--because this is my life I am dealing with.I beat up my body for so long. Now, it's time I cared for it and babied it a bit.That doesn't mean that you can't enjoy food--I do now more than before as now I actually taste things rather than inhaling them! LOL

Do you attend any support groups in your area? Maybe that would help to listen to others' stories and get advice in person. There's also online groups on OH, too. =)

Also, maybe it would help to hear what others eat on a daily basis and maybe that could help you have a concrete plan to follow--sometimes it's hard to know what choices there are or what is good/bad, etc. A nutritionist could help you with this, too.

But, again, don't hate yourself--this is a hard thing....just begin from scratch tomorrow. =)
If there's anything I can ever help with or if ya just feel like chatting, feel free to PM me. =)
Hope you can find your way back on track. =)
Remember you have lots of friends here to help along the way!
Hugs, Heather =)

i want to thank you guys for your advice and i am going to get back on track i will update you guys and i have to say admiting this was not easy but keeping it in was harder i have been a stress case the last few days thinking about it( i have been very snappy with everyone) i feel alot better! thanks to those who listened!

You have a good attitude.

Well said Heather!  I saved it for when I need a pep talk!  I needed it today... I was bad.  I didn't eat until 5pm and everything I tried to eat came back up.  I gave up on protein first today because I kept throwing up.  Hopefully tomorrow will be a different story...

 WHY?  Weren't you scared?  Just say no!!!  Do you think maybe you weren't ready for the committment?

I would say, remember that every single moment is an opportunity to start over.  Take a hard look at what it is you want.  Journal/log all of your food.  Make a plan the night before of what you are going to eat. Post it.  And stick to it.  Stuff yourself with protein and water.  Don't think twice about it.  

Don't think of yourself as a failure.  We become the labels we place on ourselves.  Start over as many times as you need.