I got called fat multiple times to my face last week...

...By my ex-husband’s new wife.

 

As if it wasn’t enough that he put me through h*ll while he was in and out of rehab for prescription drug addiction 3 times in as many years.  Then he has an affair and has a child with this woman…and I find out because I read the birth announcement she put in in the local newspaper after a coworker sees it and says “hey…isn’t this your husband?"  (he has a unique spelling of his name)  Wanna talk embarrassing?  So that was it, the last straw.  The thing that made me realize no matter how I was raised (Roman Catholic-divorce is wrong) and how guilty I felt for making my children from a “broken home" I just couldn’t go on like that anymore.

 

4 months after we divorced, they were married, which was only a couple of months ago.

 

She had an affair with my husband, she humiliated me by putting that in the paper, I found out she was sneaking around with my husband WITH my children in tow...I will be civil, but I will never be her friend.

 

So Thursday my ex is coming to my youngest’s gymnastics practice.  Asks me if he would mind if “Suzie" came too.  Why yes, I would mind.  Maybe I’m petty and mean, maybe the wounds are just too fresh I don’t know…

 

So she is waiting for me outside in the Parking Lot after gymnastics!  She walks up to me and snidely holds her hand out “I’m Suzie…we’ve never really met". 

 

I should have shaken her hand, but somehow I just couldn’t.

 

So I said “I know who you are, and I am sure you must understand that under the cir****tances I have no intention of shaking your hand anytime now or in the foreseeable future".

 

Well, that set her off.

 

WITH her child on her hip and me trying to get my children in the car, she starts…

 

“You think you’re so much better?  I would pop you in the face right now…but you obviously have about 100 pounds on me"

 

“You are so fat, that is why he left you he couldn’t stand your fat a** anymore"

 

“You fat f***in b*tch you just need to get over yourself"

 

Well, you get the picture...I got called some form of fat at least 7-8 times in a less than 5 minute "conversation"

 

By this point my boys (3 and 4) were crying and upset. 

 

I never raised my voice or cursed, I wouldn’t do that in front of my children, but it was really hard to have to listen to that.

 

I don’t see how any adult woman could behave that way towards anyone, especially in front of children, it really boggles my mind.

 

The thing is, I’m 32 years old.  Why should this bother me so much?  Maybe it is because I am *finally* starting to feel a little better about myself, maybe it is because my weight is that one thing that I have always been sensitive about, maybe it is because my ex-husband watched as she traumatized my children and did nothing. 

 

So, how can I get over this?  What can I do to stop thinking about it?

HUGS!!!!

People really do suck sometimes and both your ex and his new wife suck, they deserve each other and you deserve better.

 You handled that with class and you just cant change their trashy values, you can only be thankful you have better (for instance you seem to be the only one who had concerns for what the kids were experiencing and placed their need above your own pain and didnt lash back).

Its not always easier to be the better person in those situations, but its always better! You did the "better" thing and you focused on being a good mom, kudos!

I know its hard but try to ignore her.  She has no class.  I cannot imagine talking like that to anyone, let alone with your children in earshot.  Doesnt sound like you lost much when you dumped "Mr. Wonderful" either.  Hold your chin up and dont let her get to you.  Be the better person.

I would honestly call the divorce attorney and tell him you do not want an abusive woman around your children.  Tell him what happened, go to court and make sure your dumb ass ex either gets supervised visits or his new wifey has no contact.  But I am a ***** like that.

Who cares what this woman says or thinks of you - she is a two bit ***** who likes sloppy seconds. 

I wonder if this is a possibility?  The only people around were me, her, him and the children.  It would have been embarrassing for me, but I really wish someone could have seen what she did.  I think I am going to call my attorney and talk to him about it at least. 

The hard part would be enforcing it.  She actually wasn't allowed to be around the children before they were married, but I caught them on more than one occassion over her house.  Then when that happens, the police can't help (since its a civil matter) and the only recourse I have is to go back to court again.  I hate this situation.

Hun,

I am so sorry that you and your children were subjected to such behavior. Some just have no class...

I am just here to tell you to CALL THAT ATTORNEY..if she treats/talks to you that way in public, how is she treating your kids in private. That is what would scare me the most...

The lawyer can tell you yea or nay on the subject. If by chance she puts you in that type situation again, use your cell phone to call 911, she will still be ranting and they will hear her and it will be recorded..That is harrassment and it is illegal...

Take Care Hun and God Bless

Lisa

If you have the court papers to show th police saying they can't be with her, they will enforce it. it is only without paper proof they will not get involved.

This "woman" -(and i use that term VERY loosly) - is really bitter toward you huh? i think that is great. obviously you really are under her skin for whatever reason, so you should take some joy in that atleast.  To get so angry and go off like that, you obviously have some affect on her without even saying much to her.   I also think your ex is a HUGE asshole. eventhough you are divorced, etc.... there is no way he should let ANYONE--even his floozy- talk to his kids mother that way, ESPECIALLY in front of the children!!! Also, i see that you are 5'10 and weigh 230??? i really wouldnt look at you as fat, but i bet she was very glad you did have your kids with you, because otherwise she would prolly be scared ****ess!!! I think you should just make his life miserable were you can, and remember to let him know it is because of her, and then just hope to run into the ***** when you are by yourselves.  (No witnesses) LOL!!!

P.s. since he cheated on you with her, he will most likely do the same to her, and she will never trust him anyway, because of how they got together, so if it makes you feel any better, they will most likely have a miserable existance together. YAY!!!!

You are SOOOO lucky to be rid of this drug addict now By Christmas, you will be thin and lots of high quality guys will be interested in you. You'll be free and not have to worry about people thinking you traded up from the loser when you lost weight. She sounds like a druggy loser too.. they belong together. Be healthy and be glad your dead weight is gone. get ready for something better.

I am so sorry you have to deal with this.  I had a similar experience with my ex and his new GF.  He tried to introduce her multiple times and it was like... Are you friggin serious???  Your situation is much worse, but I feel you.

Just remember, you can and will lose the weight, she will always be UGLY!  And guess what, I bet as soon as you lose it he will be begging for forgiveness!  Then, you can kick him in the face and tell him to screw off.

I hope you had a wonderful mother's day in spite of all of that.

what lilcwgrl727 said!  you won't be large forever (and look at how much you've already lost, weightwise!) and she WILL ALWAYS be rude and crude.
i'd also follow the advice to talk to your lawyer.  there may not be much they can do about it, but you can hold your head high.  You are not the witch here.
lynne