I got called fat multiple times to my face last week...

Ask the school to put that in writing and give it to your attorney.

kiradot:

I agree with other posters that she feels threatened by you in some way,  My guess is that she has seen your sweetness and class reflected in your children and she is worried that she doesn't measure up to you as a human being (not that she is one).  As your weight continues to fall off, your new shape will only make her feel less secure with your ex.  My point is that you are a better person, a better woman and a better mother than she will ever be......and she knows it.  No amount of public screeching, name-calling or attempts at humiliating you can change that.  So, do what you have to do to protect your children from her lack of substance and smirk to yourself ,secure in the knowledge that she is useless.

RP

I think it is so awesome that you had that much restraint!  I would def take the advice about contacting your lawyer and so on because there is no reason for you to put up with that kind of harrassment!  I so would have gone to jail over that one!

First of all, kudos to you for not losing your temper.  I don't know if I could have been so gracious given similar cir****tances.  You are obviously the better woman.

My advice would be to document the incident and call your attorney.  If need be, a judge might confirm the incident with your kids.  This girl (she doesn't deserve to be called a woman) is obviously a bit unstable and neither you or your kids need to be around someone like that. 

Best of luck and remember that no matter what that girl said, you are a beautiful inside and out.

I wonder what she'll possibly have against you in six or seven months when you've lost 100 pounds and are her size or smaller?  Will her husband - your ex - suddenly find you as attractive as he once did?  Will he leave HER for you - especially if SHE gains a few pounds?

She is feeling VERY threatened by you.  VERY THREATENED.  If you have to see her again and she starts sh*t with you again, just smile and say "I'm getting thinner every day, so watch YOUR weight, honey!  We all KNOW he'll leave a fat woman for a thin one in a SECOND," ... and walk away.  You'll be planting a seed for thought that she'll never be able to un-plant.  She'll be paranoid beyond belief - and rightfully so.

You may also want to remind her about the old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater".  She'll be the "old lady" soon enough, and he'll trade HER in on a sleeker model when he's finished with her.

And when he DOES, you'll be 100 lbs lighter and STILL be his first love AND the mother of his children. 

Fastfingers wrote: If you have to see her again and she starts sh*t with you again, just smile and say "I'm getting thinner every day, so watch YOUR weight, honey!  We all KNOW he'll leave a fat woman for a thin one in a SECOND,"

I love it! What a comeback.

Keith

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but I commend you for putting your children first.  Your exes new wife is threatened by you because he DIDN'T leave you, you left him after SHE put a birth announcement in the paper, that she knew you would see.  Obviously she wouldn't have had to put a birth announcement in the paper to try to get you to leave him if he was willing to leave you for her in the first place.  She knows that she's only with him because you had had enough, not because he loved her so much that he left you for her.   Neither he nor her sound like they are worth your time.  But I agree, I would begin documenting everything, if you two communicate via email save all the emails and write anything down in a journal and definitely begin talking to your lawyer, your kids do not deserve to be around that.

Oprah calls it leveling - when a person doesn't feel good about themselves, so they need to bring the other person down to their level. The others are right, she is threatened by you. If you didn't matter, she would not feel the need to bring you down.

I also think you need to call your attorney, at the very least, for his or her advice. 

It sounds like your ex's GF has a drama problem.  I would have done the same thing you did.  I'm not interested in verbal fights, ESPECIALLY around children even if they're not mine and I would have suspected she was just waiting for you to throw the first punch.  Of course, she does seem like the kind of woman that filed her nails before you came out.

Even though your kids are 3 and 4, it is important to talk to them about what happened.  One way would be to say "wow, daddy's girlfriend sure seemed angry, huh" and "sometimes when people get angry they say bad words" or something to that effect.  Kids need a way to decompress and talk about what happened so they can understand it.  She obviously doesn't realize that kids are sponges until well after 18 years of age.

I agree with what others said regarding talking with your attorney.  Perhaps your son's preschool helpers have noticed a behavoral change in your son at school since the incident?  If that's how the woman acts in public, I can't imagine how she is treating the children in the privacy of their own home.

I hope things work out for you.  Neither you nor your children should be exposed to such hatred and drama.