Mother.

My mother has major body issues.  She is the person that will always make a joke to EVERYONE about her belly, how much she can eat, her weight, anything....any way she can get a laugh in at her expense.  I HATE THIS.  My whole life I have hated it.  A couple years ago I broke down sobbing and told her she had to stop.  She has tried, I think, but it hasn't worked.  My mom is 5'10 and has never weighed over 200 pounds (this is basically MY GOAL) - I have literally been twice her size most of my life. 

This year my mom and I are living together (long story and bad choice).  She hasn't been very encouraging at all this past year.  Stopping for McDonald's when I am in the car, bringing home donuts (my fave), etc.  Now after a year out from surgery I am only 40 pounds over her weight.  I feel worse than I ever have about myself.  This weekend we had friends come to stay with us.  Every chance she got she made a joke about what a fatty she is.  I was so embarrassed for her.  People kept looking at me - like I was supposed to make the next joke about myself - I am still bigger than her.  I tried to talk to her about it  - she says it's different and I am being too sensitive.  It's not - how can she make fat jokes when I am around and bigger than her?  Everyone can see it.  What should I do the next time I am in that position?  

I think I need a therapist.  Should I find one that specializes in body issues?     

I think you need to see a therapist that specializes in MOTHER issues..she obviously has no respect or compassion for you - or thinks her self-deprecation is in some way a subtle hint to you, or some other misguided idiotic crap.

Once the therapist helps you realize that its her problem and not yours - tell her she's toxic to her face and to shut up or **** off.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

(sorry - reading this made me mad at her!)

Lexi...you're the best.  GRRRRR!!!   ha ha   Thanks.

Moms....they are what they act like.  She doesnt sound like a mother, if its an unhealthy relationship....no matter how hard it might be, put any amount of distance between you and her.  Mother is as mother does.  Find you a surrogate mother to get the things from that your mother doesnt provide for you, like support for your WL.