Slightly OT: Relationship

This is my own personal observation about the relationship that I'm in. I know that many realtionships suffer and die while others seem to flourish after WLS. The relationship that I was in at the time of surgery - POOF!!! It vanished. I found out how intolerant I could be. It was an awesome / alarming wake up moment when I realized just how low I'd sunk and how little I expected in terms of my relationships. 

I took some time off from dating and now find myself in the relationship of my dreams. I've pondered that lately - Why is this one so good? What makes it better than any other? My answer is ACCEPTANCE. Not only do I accept him (flaws and all) but ME too!?!?!? I like me. I accept me. I'll go so far as to say that for the first time in my life - I love me.  

I've grown up. Yes at 42 I finally consider myself an adult. A take charge kind of individual who finally........well........I finally get it.  I think I've struck a balance in my life that makes me a better person and quite frankly I think my RNY was the catalyst for it. I know the surgery was only on my stomach but so many other things have changed. I'm no longer the little fat girl looking for excuses. Through surgery I have somehow discovered life - and it amazes me.

There's an amazing man in my life. He may not be perfect - but I'm not willing to change one single thing about him in order to make him "perfect" - he's perfect for me - as is.

So well said.  I'll have to keep this in the front of my mind everyday! 

that was very inspiring, thank  you

Once you accept and love yourself all the rest just kind of falls into place.

Good for you!
I got there myself about 3 1/2 yrs ago and it is amazing!!