WLS, Sig Others, & their expectaions....

Wow, this weekend we trailered our motorcycles to a "biker" campground with a bar on the premises.  Needless to say, I was worried about camping, being around food and alcohol and dealing with all the emotions.  That was the least of the problems. 

My DH turned in to a green-eyed monster, he got jealous and angry.  Told me I've changed and that he has felt this way for awhile.  We talked about all this before I has surgery and I told him he was going to have to come to terms with his jealousy.  I can no longer stay fat just to be sure he isn't worried about me leaving him.

I told him I was doing this for my health, not to find a new partner.  Well, he may have listened but he sure didn't hear me.  So you can warn them, but if they have insecurity issues look out for the green-eyed monster.  It can rear it's ugly head at any time.
 

 

  Yep, found this out the hard way. I’m in the middle of a separation right now and getting ready to file for divorce because of it. I’ll be one of those WLS Divorce stats. He kept saying I changed, and maybe I did- I’m not willing to put up with crap anymore. I have higher standards for others now, because I have higher standards for myself that I follow now.   Anyway, yes it can be difficult to deal with. I’m only 3 mos. Out of surgery and already dealing with it.  

my boyfriend WAS concerned that i was going to leave him but now he seems like he is always happy and proud of me.  every time someone makes a comment like, "your girlfriend looks REALLY thin!"  he is like, "she looks great!!!"  it is really nice.  he was really against me having surgery but i think now that he sees how happy and "normal" i am he is quite relieved!

Good, I hope it stays that way. I thought all was well too but then it changed.  I think he realized now, but I'm not doing this to leave him.  I did this to get healthy. 

Hopfully he comes around for you. Stay positive. Sometimes it rubs off on others if we keep at it long enough. You look fabulous.. And Im glad your become healthy


Im really hoping my husband doesnt think I have changed for the bad with everything. I have a feeling that we will get closer.. even as impossible as that sounds.

I'm still me. My Sig Ot's still him. Neither of us has much in the way of jealousy, nor do we give one another reason to.

My DH and I both agree that after 30 years together neither one of us wants to have to break anyone else in. So he's reaping the rewards of my healthier way of life and does not seem to be bothered by what others are doing or saying around me. I enjoy the attention but am glad to have the safety of our healthy marriage. Hopefully your guy will figure it out pretty soon.

I am one of those that thought I had a great marriage and things were great until  6 months ago. He started spying on me because he said I had changed. Going thru my cell phone records and my cell phone. Reading my emails. It was horrible.

Then we separated and he whined to his friends that I ended things because of my weight.... Heck no we separated because of your insecure invasion of my privacy and constant nagging that I must be cheating.

What was his friends' response? They asked him if it was ok to ask me out. And guess what ..... that somehow is my fault too?!?

So I am headed to being another statistic too. Sometimes no matter how good your relationship looks pre-op it can't survive this surgery.....And I've learned that is ok...Because I am healthy and if someone loved me they could overcome their insecurities to be happy for me and with me.