50lbs gone and no one notices

50 pounds is fanastic!!! congrats on the weight loss!!!!  I bet you feel a lot better as well... I had the same problem, but when I started buying clothes that fit (i was wearing 28 to a size 20/22 now) people started to notice. 

Like others say alot of people dont want to say anything because they just don't grasp the amount of weight we lose when we get this surgery.

Keep going thats great!

its weird isnt it.  Even my husband doesnt really say that he can tell.  I have lost 40 and it is somewhat evident to me when I am nude in front of my mirror.. when I put on proviously tight clothes.. but even I cant look at me and see 40 lbs are gone.  But I think you and I most likely hid our weight pretty good.So now all I get is oh you look cute- did you change your haircoler or your makeup apparently my face looks thinner.  But as all others have posted here soon the next 40-50 begins and then that is when even you and I will say ok this is truly weird.. or I havent been this size since.. just think the next comments then will be.. DONT lose any more weight you will look sickly.. HA! We cant win. Just enjoy your ride and I for one am very proud of you.Keep up the good work and look at all the other milestones too, like no diabetes, high blood pressure, or hey I can sit in a booth at a restaurant comfortably  Hugs, Terry

I have to agree. 50 pounds is 50 pounds! 
Fantastic.

But there are many reasons why people might not want to say anything. Weight can be such a delicate subject. I think what was said about not wanting to imply (even when sometimes it's like the elephant inthe living room) that you were overweight before, or even being afraind that you may be losing for some not-so-happy reason...
I've found myself hesitant to discuss postivie changes in other people's appearance, becasue I haven't found a way to be sure they won't take it wierd, or awkward..

"Wow, you're hair looks really nice today! Did you do something different?"

"... I washed it..."

I recently saw a neighbor that I had not seen in months. He and his wife looked at me and never said a word about me having lost over 100 lbs.  Now I know they noticed it but I think they were reluctant to say anything thinking that there was a possibility that I was ill (as in terminal). 

Other people have said, "You look good, provided you are ok.  Are you ok?"

Just another twist.............

 
Get your hair cut and highlighted.  Then everyone will notice your weight all of a sudden.  It is a universal truth.

I got a lot of, "Did you get new glasses?" early on.  People just can't put their finger on what has changed.  But if you 'freshen' your appearance with a new 'do and some well fitting clothes, it will make it pop a little more.

Try not to worry about that.  You did this to get healthy.  Take care of yourself and live your life.  You canot expect to get validation from others.  Believe me, there will come a time when the compliments will become annoying and you will wish you didn't have to listen to them.  I started a new job this fall and it's so nice to just blend in and not have everyone talking about my weight loss.  I just want to be known for me and my accomplishments, not as the woman who had WLS.

Laura

For me the first 50 was kind of uneventful, the only people that noticed were the ones who don't see me very often... But, from 51 to 83, lots of people have noticed!!  So, don't worry if no one is saying anything, that doesn't really mean they haven't noticed, it just means they don't want to offend you and what not!! :D 

Soon, they will all be telling you how great you look!! :D

Huggles!!
~Sarah~

I've lost 55. Some people notice and some don't. Usually, they will say something's different about me or they will say my hair's different or I look younger.  I just chuckle to myself. I don't feel like telling everyone I've had surgery-mostly because sometimes I don't have time or feel like answering endless questions about it.
So I'm satisfied to know I look different because I am.  I'm just waiting till they figure it out for themselves.
God I wish I have a dollar for every time someone said they liked my hair!  I think it's more fun this way than setting them straight.

I don't know how well you know these people, but I don't think most people pay that much attention to how we look. I mean, they can see we're fat, and later, even though we've lost x# of pounds, we're still fat, and that's what registers in their minds. If you switch things up-- as others have said: new clothes in a smaller size, a new hair cut or color-- then they are bounced out of their mindset and see you with new eyes.

But, here's something else-- people's image of you changes a bit every time they see you. It's like they see you anew every day. I mean, folks just aren't invested enough to keep a mental picture in their heads. This is definitely not true with everyone you know, just your casual acquaintances and coworkers. I say this because a colleague had a lap band in Aug 2009. I didn't notice the weight change until December or so, and now I can't even really remember what size she was in the beginning, even though she's told me she's lost 80 pounds. She's looking thinner and dressing more stylishly every day, and that is now how I think of her. Cool, huh!? People have probably already forgotten what we looked like 50+ pounds ago!
Like magic! :) hahaha

I agree with many others in that
1) Many people DO notice, but considering we're Obese anyway do not want to offend us by discussing weight.
2) If someone who weights 120 loses about 1/4 of their weight, it's MUCH more noticable than us losing 1/4 of their excess weight...(One of teh reasons as a fat person I used to roll my eyes when "skinny" people said, "Oh I need to lose 10 lbs, I am SOOOoooo fat!"  I could **** and lose 10 lbs in the old days!
3) Some people honestly don't notice "what" it is that is difference except that we look healthier or more vibrant or what not. It seems to be more acceptable in polite society to ask..."Hav you changed your hair?" that "Have you lose weight?"
4) Some people DO have illnesses that make them lose weight rapidly. I know many times when I was forst diagnosed with Myositis and lost weight (and health) rapidly and people would ask, they instantly felt very guilty because I told them I had lost weight due to illness.

I didn't notice the weight beginning to come off on MYSELF until at least around 40 lbs down (Don;t forget we also lose alot of INTERNAL or adipose tissue...Fat surrounding our organs that we cannot see!) Now at around 63 lbs down I am finally getting "noticed" by neighbors or recieving compliments from people who hadn't seen me in many months.
Hang in there! YOU know you are working hard for your health and YOU are the only one *****ally counts in the end...Not what others think.
Warmly,
Jackie