Ok everyone, let's have a frank discussion about regain...

Yep, my sister is seven years out and has been on a diet the last two years.  I've seen her eat four, yes FOUR fajitas at one sitting after eating peanuts and chips.  And yes, she had RNY!

For the record...it wasn't me that said "I don't know how it happens" because I do.  I watched my cousin gain back 145 pounds and I watched how she did it and I know how to avoid it.  I might be a newbie, but I do know how people gain their weight back.  It has been my personal experience that most people I know (again personally) are all failing.  I know why and I don't want it to happen to me.  I can't fathom myself allowing it, I think they have all just gotten comfortable again and have an "eff" it attitude.   Just wanted to add the disclaimer that I'm not that ignorant to believe I'll never be tempted or feel hungry again.

:) April

No worries. It's a common sentiment and I hear it a lot. But no I didn't think you said that.

I understand it being hard to imagine allowing it.  But then, I find it hard to imagine how I allowed myself to get up to 270 pounds in the first place... but I did.  If I could allow it once, what makes me think I could never allow it again?

Kelly

Amen.

And how many of us were in a vicious lose weight, then regain cycle before surgery? It's easy to just ignore a couple pounds in the beginning, and those pounds always like to bring friends.

sorry about all the typos in my previous post...i did not spellcheck and when i get into it i just flow...just wanted to let everyone know I am NOT a dumb b%^$#!....lol

THANK YOU NIC! I completely agree with you AND I AM A NEWBIE! I was afraid of regain before I even stepped foot into my first WLS pre-surgery seminar. I have seen it for myself many times, and thats how I know it can happen. I am only 3 months out and I drive past my old favorites all the time trying to get somewhere and I feel the cravings for fried chicken wings. Now, I don't indulge, but if I am already struggling IN MY HEAD at 3 months how can someone NOT think or imagine that regain is possible. I am not even at my goal and there is so much that I am working on IN MY HEAD to make this journey just a little easier.

Like I said in the previous post, which sparked this whole thing... All you have to do is think about all the times in the past when you lost 40, 50, 60 lbs and vowed never to regain it.... And where did we end up? Regaining and now having surgery. So to sit there and say, that you can't see how one could regain... It truly makes me wonder what kind of research people were really doing before having surgery.

Hi. Thanks for posting. I have not yet had surgery. I have already backed out once a couple of years ago. Now I have gained 100 lbs more. Going through six months medical weightloss right now. Scared to death. Worried about failure. I want so badly to feel better and have energy. I am trying to figure out how to stop sabotaging myself. How on earth do you fix your head?????

I go to therapy.  Once a week for a long time, now usually every other week 'cause that's all I can afford.

Kelly

Finding a good therapist helped me out tremendously- not just with the weight loss but with everything surrounding it, too.  There is something to be said about having to feel your emotions instead of eating through them!!