easy way out

this is a little bit of a rant....
so my closest friend is about 65-70 pounds overweight. she is this way due to over-eating and lack of movement. I was 130 pounds over weight and suffer from PCOS which is the main reason i needed this surgery. To keep my damn pancrease from releasing so much insulin(metformin didnt work for me). SO..every chance my friend gets she preaches how shes PRO gym and weight loss surgery ruins lives. she tells me mis-information like we cant get pregnant for 3 years or else we will gain every pound back and then some. we can never ever have fast food. dont ever even think about it. dont ever drink hot liquid. youre never going to be able to drink again. youll never live a normal life....just tons and tons of MISINFORMATION that i myself at 2 friggin weeks out know is NOT true. i would not have done this surgery if i had other options. i was 200 pounds at 5 6 so i was 40 lbs over weight before this disease over took my life. I feel great, i eat what im suppose to when im suppose to and i take my vitamins and protein...i didnt RUIN my life. but she fails to see that. funny thing is her mother had bypass and kept the weight off for over 7 years...
people are unreal. as if id re arrange my insides for s**** and giggless
thanks for listening guysss!!!!!! --nicole

Ask her if she drives to work? If so, why take the easy way out? Does she drive to the gym? Why? wouldn't it be a better workout if she walked there? Use indoor plumbing? Why? What's wrong with squatting in the front yard? Ever seen the doctor for an infection? Why? Our bodies aer built with antibodies, no reason to take the easy way out? In fact, why does she go to the gym? Isn't that the easy way out? Perhaps she needs a second job doing hard manual labor, isn't that easier and more productive to society than running in place? If she's ever had a relative who broke a bone, why get it treated? The body will heal without medical intervention...suer might not be quite perfect, but isn't that the easy way out? 

Then ask..... where is the virtue in HARD? Even if WLS is the easy way out, what the hell is wrong with that? 

 its so funny because you can see the type of person she is just by what ive told you in the post. she'll never actually go to the gym. just random little times during our convos she'll bring up how so many people abuse this surgery as if shes warning me of something. or the other night we went to the movies and she ordered food and she NEVER does that at the movies. and then she goes oh we cant even go out to eat after now...and we NEVER go out to eat after movies. just negativity i dont need. thanks for replying LL. nice to vent to someone who knows what i mean

 Smells like jealousy, plain and simple.  Just remember that opinions are like a**holes: everybody has one and they usually stink.  Chin up and be proud of yourself.  You're courageous for having the resolve to do something; it appears as if your friend is all talk no action.

i have PCOS as well which is my main reason for doing this surgery. i still have some(not many) people that say to me oh you haven't tried all the diets there is blahblahblah. i've done so many, and failed at them all and barely lost any weight bc of the PCOS. some people will just never understand and will always have their own opinion on WLS. we need to do what's best for us and we all know what the surgery entails and what we can and cannot eat. even my parents say oh you'll never be able to eat that again. i'm like yes, i will. in smaller quantities and maybe not right away but somewhere down the line i will be able to. some people are just very ignorant and there is nothing we can do about it.

 melissa- i really think it takes a special type of person to be diagnosed with something that has symptoms of what every woman on earth dreads. Excess hair, uncontrollable weight gain, acne, infertility, dark patches on your skin. It takes the female out of us and its all because of insulin and testosterone excess. so i tend to look at the surgery as a "treatment" for PCOS. i always say...telling people you didnt eat the calories to become the weight you are is like a prostitute saying she didnt sleep with those ppl to get her STDS..its unbelievable. 

This is my reply, always:
This was not the easy way out, this was the ONLY way out.  I had tried everything else and this was my last hope. 
I am 3 years out and I have to watch what I eat and exercise to keep the weight off - surgery is no magic trick and permanent solution with no effort - it is work after the honeymoon phase.  My RNY was a great jumpstart to a healthy life, but not a guarantee that my weight will stay off and my health problems will never come back, that's up to me.
Good luck!!

for weight loss surgery patients..do we still have to consume more than 3500 calories before it adds a pound on our bodies? so its like calories in calories out just like "regular" peple?

Some say not - I say yes we are the same as "normal" people in that respect..... but each individual is different.

...you mean SHE is your BEST friend ???!!! OMFG !!!
I totally agree with Lady Lithia (she's a smart cookie !!!) I would call her (confront her) on her bull **** Next time she starts, say something like, " wow, all this time I thought you were my friend, and now you're just slamming me every chance you get, maybe we shouldn't be friends anymore, I don't need this"...