People's Stupid Comments

"My surgery and my weight are no longer a topic for dicussion".

Then, when they ignore you, LEAVE.

That is not rude; that is not un-christian. That is advocating for yourself.

Maybe I'm being dense, but I don't see what's so "stupid" about the woman's comment that it's too bad that you cannot eat a bagel... Would it also be "stupid" if she had been eating a small piece of chocolate and she said it was too bad you couldn't also enjoy a piece?

What am I missing here?

Lora

My DH ALWAYS says...Well is that really all your going to eat? SO loud if we are at a resturant people look...Gotta love'em

 Hey, it can get even stranger...my dad has nagged me about my weight my whole life (including in high school when I was a size 8), but that's a very different story and a whole lot of baggage.  

Well, now all of a sudden he thinks I'm cured or something because every so often he'll try to get me to eat some dessert (Raspberry Pound cake on Christmas vacation and a cookie a couple weeks ago) or something.  So strange considering he used to watch every bite I ate and freak if I has second servings of salad when I was heavy.  

I just tell him that I try to avoid sugar.  It's really better for me that he doesn't know what I can or cannot eat.  I'd much rather deal with this than the 'you can eat that?' police.

I've found it's best to just smile, nod and do my own thing.  

My best friend said, "Don't think you're going to get skinny because that's not going to happen." and the second AND LAST friend I told said, "You know, you can gain the weight back."  When I told my MIL that I was on a doctor-supervised diet (the pre-op diet - and no I've never told her about the WLS) she then said "does this mean you can't have the special cookies I made?"  I just shook my head.

Y'know it isn't what other people say that bothers me. It's the personal silly conversations with myself that are the kicker. My best..9 days post op I said "It's 84 degrees and sunny you should have some watermelon. After all it's almost a liquid." HAHAHAHAH
I'm still learning

I told a really good friend of mine that I didn't care about a goal weight that I just wanted to fit into a size 10.  She was like "but that's what I wear!!"  As if she couldn't imagine that I might be her size.  She assumed I'd lose 50lbs and still be the "fat girl".  Oh well.  I might not make the 10 but damned if I'll be the "fat girl" anymore!!!

I'm with Lora on this one.  I don't see why you were so offended by her comment.  From now on, don't give people the opportunity to make comments like that by just saying, "No thank you, I don't want a bagel today."

Laura