Are you stalled? Plateaued? Gained a few?
I agree... well, MOSTLY.
I also agree with psx chelly... SOMEWHAT.
I did this to get rid of the pain my knees (it did NOT... the arthritis was too advanced already.... but it is better), to stop my blood sugar levels from rising (it did), to be able to walk again without getting winded after a short distance (it did) to be able to be active again (it did, with restrictions because of my knees) and to avoid the horrible treatment, stereotyping, etc, that psx chelly talked about (it did).
I also did it because I wanted to have a reasonably attractive body. I knew I would never wear a bikini again, and knew that my original wild ass dream of "I wonder what i would look like at 125 pounds" wasn't realistic... but I did want to not feel or be fat anymore.
I think people absolutely CAN be happy with their RNY even if the only reason they did it was to be a certain clothing size or a certain weight. Many people come in with a goal wight and clothing size and reach both of those goals easily. Others (such as myself) come in with goal weights that are conservative and realistic, but do not really match the desires of our hearts. Being happy with meeting a goal weight in that case means accepting the body you were given. Others might never reach their goal numbers, and being happy might mean having to adjust their expectations and gain a new appreciation for what the have achieved. In all of these cases, however, I believe that people CAN be happy if the only reason that they had surgery was for vanity.
Now, if they expected to not have excess skin and to look just like they did when they were in High School.... well, that's another matter.
Lora
I also agree with psx chelly... SOMEWHAT.
I did this to get rid of the pain my knees (it did NOT... the arthritis was too advanced already.... but it is better), to stop my blood sugar levels from rising (it did), to be able to walk again without getting winded after a short distance (it did) to be able to be active again (it did, with restrictions because of my knees) and to avoid the horrible treatment, stereotyping, etc, that psx chelly talked about (it did).
I also did it because I wanted to have a reasonably attractive body. I knew I would never wear a bikini again, and knew that my original wild ass dream of "I wonder what i would look like at 125 pounds" wasn't realistic... but I did want to not feel or be fat anymore.
I think people absolutely CAN be happy with their RNY even if the only reason they did it was to be a certain clothing size or a certain weight. Many people come in with a goal wight and clothing size and reach both of those goals easily. Others (such as myself) come in with goal weights that are conservative and realistic, but do not really match the desires of our hearts. Being happy with meeting a goal weight in that case means accepting the body you were given. Others might never reach their goal numbers, and being happy might mean having to adjust their expectations and gain a new appreciation for what the have achieved. In all of these cases, however, I believe that people CAN be happy if the only reason that they had surgery was for vanity.
Now, if they expected to not have excess skin and to look just like they did when they were in High School.... well, that's another matter.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Most people didn't "notice" my weight loss until over 75 lbs gone. Sure there were times I was thinking, "Geeze, I've lost nearly 80 lbs, they HAVE to notice?!?" But then when I hit around month 7 EVERYBODY seemed to constantly notice.
Are you wearing more slimming styles or the same styles you have always worn? I really changed up my wardrobe and got stuff that was more fitted and flattering than the 3XXX "tents" I used to wear.
As for tailbone pain and PCOS...I feel your pain, I do...Sadly those will NOT go away just because you have had surgery...So....What are you going to do? Lament that you have PCOS and everyone is ignoring you, or speak up? Get the help and medications that can help you, get pain relief for your tailbone (or a cocyxx pillow) and do some exercises to tighten your glutes?
In otherwords I get it...Sometimes we are dealt crappy hands in life... But if we just stay "knocked down" and don't get up and assert ourselves....Then we stay knocked down.
Dust off, speak up and OWN and LIVE your surgery and your loss. BE more assertive. (Remember caddy shack with Chevy chase? "BE the ball!") BE a thin person...ACT how you want to envision yourself!
At 200 lbs I was at the gym with slender women and musclebound guys and ACTING like I was one of them! And they accepted me just fine! It's all a mindset...Honest.
Good luck.
Warmly,
Jackie
Are you wearing more slimming styles or the same styles you have always worn? I really changed up my wardrobe and got stuff that was more fitted and flattering than the 3XXX "tents" I used to wear.
As for tailbone pain and PCOS...I feel your pain, I do...Sadly those will NOT go away just because you have had surgery...So....What are you going to do? Lament that you have PCOS and everyone is ignoring you, or speak up? Get the help and medications that can help you, get pain relief for your tailbone (or a cocyxx pillow) and do some exercises to tighten your glutes?
In otherwords I get it...Sometimes we are dealt crappy hands in life... But if we just stay "knocked down" and don't get up and assert ourselves....Then we stay knocked down.
Dust off, speak up and OWN and LIVE your surgery and your loss. BE more assertive. (Remember caddy shack with Chevy chase? "BE the ball!") BE a thin person...ACT how you want to envision yourself!
At 200 lbs I was at the gym with slender women and musclebound guys and ACTING like I was one of them! And they accepted me just fine! It's all a mindset...Honest.
Good luck.
Warmly,
Jackie
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