I'm drowning

I agree with others Therapy is key.  They operate on our stomachs not our brains.  Therapy, excercise and the tool of WLS all work hand in hand.  You need all three to be a complete success.  If you don't excercise at least try therapy.  I do individual and group and what a world of difference I feel.  Also, sounds like you may want some meds to help you too.  I take wellbutrin and prozac and I feel so much better emotionally.  Good luck and remember the positive you have lost over 80lbs that is AWESOME, don't discount that!!!

Reaching out is very positive and asking for help is powerful.  You have been given some very good advice and I only want to add one thing, OA is based on a 12 step recovery program and in my opinion a 12 step program is life changing.

I attend a 12 step program for AA and in that particular meeting I go to there are two women who attend for the overeating addiction.  Yes, AA is about alcohol but remember an addiction of any kind can kick your butt.  You are allowed to attend any "Open" meeting of AA.  I can give you some other helpful tips if you'd like.

Sweetie you may take what I say here and flu**** if you want,  I have not had my surgery yet and I deal with this issue everyday. Most everyone I know who has had the surgery does as well. So it is on both sides of the fence. THERAPY does work but only if you want it to. Thats a strange way of putting it but it is true. I go to sessions every week and progress has been made- be it slowly. As other posters have said, this is a surgery for the stomach NOT the brain. Any addiction is hard to beat. I have had addictions to drugs, alcohol, and sex in my life and although I have not done ANY of these things since the early 2000's I still battle with them day to day. Therapy has helped and so has meetings. Be it online, be it in person or just having a friend to talk to. I have people who call to talk to me and I have people I call to talk to. Just keep positive thoughts when those negative feelings come in to play. Even if it is something as simple as a stupid commerical you saw on tv or heard on the radio.
Start logging food intake, keep a feelings journal. It help when you go back a week or even a month later and see where things went wonky and how you possibly took care of it.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!
You obviously love yourself enough to reach out for help, even if it is with anonymous people here.
You are NOT a failure.
At this point do not worry about disappointing those around you, YOU need to do for YOU. to heck and hades what other people think right now.

Amy, Please don't give up. I've worked a 12-step program for alcohol for 21 years now. I have also been a member of OA for 5 years now.  There is help out there for you. I went online and located a link that has telephone and online meetings: http://www.oa.org/meetings/find-a-meeting-online.php. Please reach out. You are not alone. You are loved and are not a failure. All of us are here to support you. Get a sponser, work your Steps and you will learn what has been "eating" you for so long. As the others have mentioned, find a therapist and talk, talk, talk.