8 weeks post op, feel great, but hubby left

Awww Girlfriend, you seem to be doing great.  I'm so glad you are keeping busy and working out your stress.  Keep on posting, we will always be here for you.  You are on the road to a whole new and wonderful life!  So many of us have had break-ups that we don't understand, and while closure helps, don't let it hold you back.  You are now free to enjoy discovering the NEW YOU!!!  Have fun and keep posting!  Arms around, Susan

Im sorry to hear bout that.  In MY surgeon's classes there's a whole class on relationship issues  postop and the changes.  In his UNSCIENTIFIC research he mentions that 6 to 8 outta 10 relationships DO NOT make it afterwards and offers counseling on relationships alone with a psych.

It has a lot to do with us finding and exploring our new found self-esteem and worth.
Hang in there you shall over come this and have a much brighter life.
Kelly/tink

Hi,
I am so sorry to hear what has happened. I have not had the chance to experience this but please know my prayers are with you. If you need a listening ear, I am here as well!

Shirley Ann

All the information that I have read does indicate divorce rates are higher because of the changes that you go thru and the other half not being able to deal with those changes. I am hoping the fact that my husband and I had the surgery together a month apart helps with this since we are both going thru the changes together. We have been married for 14 1/2 years and not had any problems, so I feel our marriage is strong. I can admit though, I have caught other women looking at him and I do get jealous, when before he was heavier and didn't get the looks. But I also feel good about it too because I know that others are seeing him as attractive as I have seen him, even at 360 lbs. I too went thru a divorce 17 years ago and it is tough, but well worth the ride. At some point, you will figure out that this may not have been a bad thing and another weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Good Luck and hang in there.

 hi i am 4 mounths post op and have lost 65 lbs. my wife on the day of my surary told me not to come home.  i have done all of my post op buy my self and have done very good no complacations and i feel the best i have in 30 years. you can do it i will help you as much as i can there is a lot of suport out there. 
email me if you need help
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Thanks Bob, on the day of your surgery? Holy crap! I thought I was the only one. Last night someone at golf (read my previous post) said to my husband "Wow, your wife is hot! You'd better get in shape" and as I said it has to be a big secret, so I just laughed. I don't think he likes me getting attention. Thanks for the email address, I'll email if anything else comes up! Judy

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I can't imagine the shock of so many changes at one time. My heart and prayers go out to you.
I am in the pre-op process, getting all my weight management classes done, psych evals, etc. 1 More month and we submit to insurance. I am SO excited. I have waited years for this opportunity and look forward to my new life. My husband, on the other hand, seems to get more irritated with my decision as the days go by. He is convinced that once I have the surgery, I'm going to lose the weight, find someone better and leave him. I have assured him many times that I love him and am not going anywhere. This surgery isn't about looking for someone else. It is about an extra tool that will help me live a long, healthy life. I surely hope that we work things out but like others have said, I have heard that divorce rates are high post-op.
Again, my heart goes out to you and please keep us updated.

My ex left me a few months before my surgery. I too used food in my previous life as a crutch and even contemplated cancelling surgery. But THANK GOD I didn't. Me 2.0 found her beginnings there and even her strengths. Of course you'll mourn the relationship, but in the end celebrate you and the new life you've begun. -sending good thoughts