OMG the misinformed people out there......
Seriously. Word got out to the inlaws. I dunno who blabbed but now I am SCREENING phonecalls. I mean seriously some of the "information" they are giving me. LMAO. I actually had to hang up on my mother in law because I was laughing so hard. I hate having to do that but GEEZE. Give it a rest.
I am also getting the "god didn't make Bariatric surgery, so why are you getting something so unnatural?" Um he didn't invent cars either but you still drive one right.........
LOL I am trying to remain nice with people but it has gotten really hard to do over the past day or so. When I find out who blabbed I am going to tell them to mind their own business and keep their nose out of mine because I am so tired of having to explan the who what when and where of things.
They have also been calling here trying to talk me out of getting this done. I have been politely been thanking them for their concern and asking them to back off because this is MY decision and I am doing what I feel is best for me. And people wonder why I do not tell my inlaws ANYTHING...........
*editied to say SCREENING instead of fielding (thanks Jenny for catching that!!!)
I am also getting the "god didn't make Bariatric surgery, so why are you getting something so unnatural?" Um he didn't invent cars either but you still drive one right.........
LOL I am trying to remain nice with people but it has gotten really hard to do over the past day or so. When I find out who blabbed I am going to tell them to mind their own business and keep their nose out of mine because I am so tired of having to explan the who what when and where of things.
They have also been calling here trying to talk me out of getting this done. I have been politely been thanking them for their concern and asking them to back off because this is MY decision and I am doing what I feel is best for me. And people wonder why I do not tell my inlaws ANYTHING...........
*editied to say SCREENING instead of fielding (thanks Jenny for catching that!!!)
As a single person we make but a whisper, as a crowd we make a roar. A friend.
"I never claimed to be an expert at such matters, but I am an expert at giving my opinion."- My dad
Seriously??? I would have such a hard time dealing with that kind of ignorance. God didn't invent heart surgery either. Or toilet paper for that matter. But when I need either one of those things, I am gonna get 'em! :)
Hang in there. I know it's a pain, but once it's done, no one can say anything more about it.
Amanda :)
Hang in there. I know it's a pain, but once it's done, no one can say anything more about it.
Amanda :)
I have caller id that is how i am able to field the calls. LOL I hate that hubby has to work nights because that is when they tend to call.
As a single person we make but a whisper, as a crowd we make a roar. A friend.
"I never claimed to be an expert at such matters, but I am an expert at giving my opinion."- My dad
I think you mean screen the calls. 'Field' means to answer the call. ;)
I feel your pain! My husband told his mother and she promptly told the entire family. Grandma out in California, the aunt whom we only see at Christmas, etc. It was so annoying! When I confronted her about it she said, "I didn't know it was a secret." I just said, "It's not that it's a secret. It's that it's no one's freakin' business!"
And every time I talk to her on the phone she asks me how I'm feeling. Even though I told her about 20 times ago...and keep repeating...that I am all healed from surgery and life is back to normal, she still asks EVERY time in that pitied voice, "How are you feeeeeling?"
Luckily though, I didn't have anyone who was negative to me. I'm a very strong personality and I think people were afraid to question me. LOL.
I feel your pain! My husband told his mother and she promptly told the entire family. Grandma out in California, the aunt whom we only see at Christmas, etc. It was so annoying! When I confronted her about it she said, "I didn't know it was a secret." I just said, "It's not that it's a secret. It's that it's no one's freakin' business!"
And every time I talk to her on the phone she asks me how I'm feeling. Even though I told her about 20 times ago...and keep repeating...that I am all healed from surgery and life is back to normal, she still asks EVERY time in that pitied voice, "How are you feeeeeling?"
Luckily though, I didn't have anyone who was negative to me. I'm a very strong personality and I think people were afraid to question me. LOL.
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First 5K: 4.21.2012 - Time: 34:45 - 2nd Place in age group
Second 5K: 6.2.2012 - Time 37:09
Dasie, you know they will too!!
Girl, I would be polite to a point, then, I would tell them to do as much research as you have on it (even give them this website) and when they have learned as much as you have, they can talk to you about it!!
I knew my "in laws" (boyfriend's family) would be behind me 100% as 4 of them have had wls. Was not so sure about my family. got a few know it alls! but, they proved me wrong. I was lucky, again!, in that no one questioned me or tried to talk me out of it. Oh wait, my end's receptionist did, at first. But then she confessed her friend was so non compliant. She actually apologized to me for first being negative! I truly know how lucky I was in this respect!!
Good luck, honey!!
Shannon
Girl, I would be polite to a point, then, I would tell them to do as much research as you have on it (even give them this website) and when they have learned as much as you have, they can talk to you about it!!
I knew my "in laws" (boyfriend's family) would be behind me 100% as 4 of them have had wls. Was not so sure about my family. got a few know it alls! but, they proved me wrong. I was lucky, again!, in that no one questioned me or tried to talk me out of it. Oh wait, my end's receptionist did, at first. But then she confessed her friend was so non compliant. She actually apologized to me for first being negative! I truly know how lucky I was in this respect!!
Good luck, honey!!
Shannon
I'm Ready!
Time for you to set up boundaries.
You are in charge of your life, simple right? Nope cuz people do feel they have the right to voice their opinions but this is about YOU, now one else. Not even family. So today set up boundaries. You decide what you want to tell people and you decide how much you are going to listen to people remarks about you and your decision to have WLS.
For your in-laws I would just tell them point blank "this is not up for discussion".
Good luck, you can get your point across without you hurting or other people. It's doable. Gotta keep peace in the family sometimes. Others people opinion sometimes just don't matter.
My in-laws never call or inquire about me at all. I had deaths in my family, I had cancer, multiple surgeries including RNY and now plastics. They never inquire, call, send a card, visit, etc. So I have the opposite. They should be happy that I'm healthier so that I can continue to support their son with my job and care for my family. I had all kinds of negative opinions from co-workers, friends and family about the RNY but no bad opinions about the plastics. Everyone has been very exicted to see me finish this thing and see my transformation. I have a huge mouth and everyone I know knows about this surgery.
Just use the health/happy and easier to exercise card. Otherwise don't talk about it. None of their business.
Just use the health/happy and easier to exercise card. Otherwise don't talk about it. None of their business.
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