Searching for motivational stories to help with slight regret.

I feel slightly embarrassed asking but I am almost a month out and sometimes I have regrets, especially when I really miss "bad" food. i think about how I'm only 25 and won't be able to experience some things I used to love to do. My fiance is a chef so going out has always been a big thing... Of course he is crazy healthy !! lol. I know there is no going back and I'm proud of the weight I've lost so far but sometimes it's hard to look at the positives. I am also on a stall, hopefully a temporary one. I am not trying to complain, so please don't bash me, I'm just having a hard time eating only soft foods and am nostalgic over eating the "bad" food, the experience of it. Crazy how emotional eating can be. Sometimes It's almost feels like I lost a best friend, even though that friend was killing me slowly.  

If you guys could share some of your success stories and photos I think it will help me get over these ridiculous thoughts and help me see the light at the end of the tunnel. I could use any helpful words and advice. 

Thanks for the support and Sorry for the babbling. I have said it before, this site and all the people out there that are so helpful have been the biggest blessing 

Most of us had buyers remorse.  I was so depressed thinking I would never enjoy food again.  My boyfriend and I love going out to eat on his days off.  I really looked forward to that and after the surgery I couldn't care less since I couldn't eat what I want.  I went anyway because I knew he enjoyed it but I felt sorry for myself.  I remember when I turned the corner.  We went out to eat and I ordered a shrimp salad and I was eating some of the salad and I just felt normal.  I was able to eat most of it and I didn't feel like a freak, just like anyone else enjoying a salad.
Now we go out to eat and I look forward to it again.  I can go anywhere he wants and find stuff to eat.  I like how I am satisfied with small amounts.  I eat pretty much the way I used to except I don't eat refined carbs.  I just eat less then I used to but since I am satisfied I don't mind.
Things will get better.  As the weight falls off you will be so excited about changing sizes and buying cute clothes that you will forget about what you aren't able to eat.  By this time next year you should be back to normal and not even think of yourself as different.  It will become your new normal.  About the only thing that might make someone think I was different is I don't drink with my meals.  I can't tell you how many waitresses have tried to push drinks on me.  Now I just take the water and say thank you and don't drink it.  I almost always brink home leftovers good for at least one other meal.  That is great because it saves me from cooking.
Just keep your eyes on the big picture.  Things will get better.

You are an example of what many post ops have "regrets" they can't do their old unhealthy things as a post op. This is a process and takes time.  Set "mini goals" and celebrate them as they pass.  Don't feel a failure if you don't "lose as much wt as Ms XXXX, as each patients is different, and so is their wt loss. I'd recommend you attend support group meetings to help you on this journey. DAVE

Hang in there!! There is really nothing that I cannot eat, if I really want it. I feel "normal" in my eating habits. I have before/current pictures on my profile, if you're interested.

It will get better, I promise!!

Laura

 Believe me...I felt the same as you did but eventually you can have most any food but in small portions.  Even now at four years out, I just eat off of a small plate but I enjoy food much more than I did prior to surgery.  I make sure each bite is exactly what I want.  I love to cook too and I can cook most anything.  My husband is much healthier now too since he eats what I eat.  

When you can eat salads, you can eat a pretty good size salad and it makes you feel more normal when you go out.  

Good luck

Lisa

 You guys are amazing!! Such an inspiration!! Congrats to all you success, I already feel a little better, Thanks for the support!!

Stalls are by definition temporary.

What things do you think you're not going to be able to experience now?

Being on soft foods can get boring.  What have you been eating?  Can your fiance cook you some really yummy soft stuff?

Just another chiming in to say things will feel normal again. Granted, it is a new normal, but you will enjoy food again. I've recently come full circle with my journey having had plastic surgery. It is unreal to think that I'll be 3 years out in February and I've managed to lose 150 pounds and keep it off. You WILL be successful AND satisfied with food again. Truly there is almost nothing I can't eat. Dinner tonight was an herbed ahi tuna steak with fresh beans. Earlier at a pumpkin patch I had apples with hot caramel dip and apple cider--sure, I didn't have a lot, but I got to enjoy the smells and tastes of fall. Check out the what's for dinner thread--you'll see what folks are eating.

Congrats on starting your journey--it is one hell of a ride!!

Denise

I remember sitting in the hospital after surgery, thinking "why did I do this to myself?". Well that thought was quickly thrown out the window! I remember how great it felt to be down 100lbs, then to be under 200lbs! The numbers kept going down and I felt great about my choice to have the surgery. I lost 170lbs. I gained 70 back during my pregnancy, but I am down 35 of it. It is still the best thing I could have done for myself! I also can eat almost anything now but of course in smaller portions. I also find healthier ways to make my favorite foods. Hang in there and stay strong! I always found the plateaus to be the most discouraging times and felt like I was going to fail!