I don't remember asking for your opinion

 At least your one friend was honest with you and didn't say it behind your back.  Maybe he'll come around eventually.

This is one reason I've chosen to tell only the people who need to know about my operation.  It is never okay for someone to tell another person that they are too thin or too fat.  I think my knee jerk reaction to someone telling me they thought I was too thin is to tell them that I have always thought they were too fat / thin / weird / crabby / pale /  fill in the blank, and thank them for the opportunity to be as honest with them as they were with me.  Of course, I probably wouldn't do that, but I would sure want to. 

Can we say- definition of jealousy! You gotta just laugh at them cuz gurl you look FANTASTIC!!

Oh and BTW I didn't recognize your avatar so I went to read your OH page, and in your Bio you wrote that your doctor told you that you had "Fatty Lover Disease" LOL!!!!

That just made my day- I know that you meant liver, but as a teacher (me too!) I know you can appreciate a funny typo!!

Keep workin' on getting to your goal, and don't worry once people get used to the new you, the comments (good and bad) will stop.

:Danni

 Yeah, I've been meaning to change that!  Too funny!  I did have fatty liver and I AM a fatty lover!  

Fat people, thin people, whatever people, they are all the same too me and I learned a long time ago to look past a person appearance.  I love the fact that my boyfriend knew me "pre op" and that he loved me fat and he loves me thin.  He didn't change like so many other people have

Aww, that's so rad Lisa!  It's so nice to hear about relationships that survive WLS, I know mine didn't. He must be one worthy guy!!!

That's great, Lisa. He sounds like a keeper. My boyfriend was my best friend in college. We met when I was thin, he fell in love with me when I was heavy. So he's loved me thin, fat, (a 15 year break), thin with floppy skin, and now thin with scars from plastic surgery. He's my everything!! 

Laura

I had Fatty Lover Disease, but I'm getting better......hehehehehehe

This surgery certainly lets you know who your true friends are. I always say it weeded out the true ones from the fake friends. Those that stick by you are worth keeping. As for the weight comments - people aren't used to seeing us with cheek bones, with a thin face, no bags under our eyes, and puffy everywhere. It's a shock to see someone go from round to having angles and edges. I would tell people when I got the comment "thanks for your concern but my doctor and I are happy with my progress." most won't argue with a doctor. As for those that won't or can't eat with you because you drink your lunch as opposed to eating one - their own choice. If it hurts your feelings, tell them you would welcome their company and you don't care what you or they eat. True friends will be there , and not worry how you make "them" feel - but will worry about how they make you feel. A true friend wants the best for you, and if that's losing weight and getting healthy then so be it. Those that are jealous or petty can eat alone. Congrats on your progress so far!

Jen 10 yrs post op RNY

 I also teach, and in the last 24 hours, I have managed to inadvertently insult two colleagues.  Both of them have been hounding me about my weight loss and I was hoping that my avoidance of answering their questions would give them a clue.  But alas, they both cornered me today and demanded to know "what the deal was," and I told them I was appreciative of their support, but was uncomfortable discussing the issue.  Both stormed off in a huff.  One of them even said, before storming off, that I was "wasting away."  Please.  I am 5'1, with a current BMI of 46.  I'm in no way even close to wasting away. And, I'm not particularly close with either person.  We work in the same school...that is about as much contact I've ever had with them.  Why they think this entitles them to my personal medical history is beyond me. 

So, I get it.  No one ever cornered us when we were gaining demanding to know why we kept getting fatter.  If folks want to comment on the weightloss, I'm fine with that.  But demanding we stop or share our medical history, I just don't understand.

It's a pretty common thing for post-ops to hear. It's weird to hear that you are getting too thin when you still have weight you want to lose. I think some of it comes from them being used to seeing you as you were. You have to process this big change in you and so do other people. It's a big change and it happens pretty quickly.
In another year no one will notice or say anything. Even those people that knew you at your heaviest weight will accept the new size of you. I had someone tell me the other day that they couldn't remember me any other way.
Just smile and continue your losing ways.
Deb T.

Hey Lisa, I think you look great! I didn't recognize you from your new avatar! You look amazing! Don't listen to what the others say. I think they are probably jealous and for the heavy set guy, he probably feels self-conscious because he is so heavy and you aren't heavy anymore. He probably knows deep inside himself that he needs/should lose weight. Even when I was at my biggest, I couldn't stop shoveling food into my mouth. To have someone you connect with in part because you are both big, it's kinda like a kindred spirit kinda thing. When one loses weight and the other one doesn't it might put a strain on the relationship. I'm not saying that is what has happened with you and your friend but it's just a thought. I know for me personally, I look at the things other people eat and it sometimes bothers me because it is very unhealthy food and usually very large portions. I think to myself, how can they eat all of that? Meanwhile, that was ME eating all that crap 5 months ago! Anyways, hold your head up high girl, cuz you deserve it!