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Because of her judgmentalism, do you ever feel uncomfortable discussing personal things with her? If so, it's hard to have a friendship like that.
I would go the high road--apologize for your comment and concede that it was a snarky thing to say, and you're sorry. And then, if you're interested in ending the friendship, simply tell her so. And do it respectfully. And don't let it get into an argument. If she blows up, walk away. You've said your piece and you've done it with integrity.
However, if you want to retain the friendship and try to make it work, apologize for the comment, and let her speak her mind and see if you can reach some common ground.
The race issue, however, would bother me immensely. If a friend ever pulled that card on me, in either direction, I don't think I could respect them enough to call them a friend. Friends don't see each other's skin as a dividing line.
I would go the high road--apologize for your comment and concede that it was a snarky thing to say, and you're sorry. And then, if you're interested in ending the friendship, simply tell her so. And do it respectfully. And don't let it get into an argument. If she blows up, walk away. You've said your piece and you've done it with integrity.
However, if you want to retain the friendship and try to make it work, apologize for the comment, and let her speak her mind and see if you can reach some common ground.
The race issue, however, would bother me immensely. If a friend ever pulled that card on me, in either direction, I don't think I could respect them enough to call them a friend. Friends don't see each other's skin as a dividing line.
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I talked to her about it, and I guess thats it because she says a lot of her comments are jokes but I say why do your jokes make me feel bad, and she decided that she dosen't want to be friends actually she decided that a while ago but had not had the way to tell me. Her other friends just don't like me and they have been around longer. I feel sad but I am relieved it is okay with me I make friends easy enough. Goodbye focusing on my self My hubby is and will always be my best friend
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I have had friends like that, and eventually let them go. Some only bring drama to the table, their unhappiness and are never there for you. If I was you I would let her go.
I recently went though something with a friend who was insulted at something my child said. He is 10, she was joking with him and he joked back. then that night she sent me 10 texts saying how she was disapointed in me for not correcting him. I did not see anything wrong with what he said as it was with in tone of the joking that she started. Shortly after I went through a very rough part of my life and she was informed about it from the office gossip. She did not go out of her way to see how I was doing. I had dreams about appoligising to her and trying to make it right. Then I relized that someone so petty did not deserve my friendship and that she was a user. Honestly if I was upset with a friend and I found out that they could be at the lowest part of their life I would have dropped the grudge and been there for my friend.
Your friend reminds me of this lady, always unsatified and does not like to see others happy so they put them down. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
I recently went though something with a friend who was insulted at something my child said. He is 10, she was joking with him and he joked back. then that night she sent me 10 texts saying how she was disapointed in me for not correcting him. I did not see anything wrong with what he said as it was with in tone of the joking that she started. Shortly after I went through a very rough part of my life and she was informed about it from the office gossip. She did not go out of her way to see how I was doing. I had dreams about appoligising to her and trying to make it right. Then I relized that someone so petty did not deserve my friendship and that she was a user. Honestly if I was upset with a friend and I found out that they could be at the lowest part of their life I would have dropped the grudge and been there for my friend.
Your friend reminds me of this lady, always unsatified and does not like to see others happy so they put them down. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
Its hard to lose a friendship even if it is for the best. I was in a toxic friendship for nearly 10 years, where she would always make me feel bad. She seemed to be ok when she thought she was in a better place in life - money wise, house wise etc. But I had to finally end it.
I'll admit - it hurt. I miss our times we laughed together, and the memories. But it was best in the end.
this was just a friendship to you that was not meant to last a lifetime - but you learned something from her. You learned how to love yourself and put yourself first.
Hoping you many true friendships to come.
I'll admit - it hurt. I miss our times we laughed together, and the memories. But it was best in the end.
this was just a friendship to you that was not meant to last a lifetime - but you learned something from her. You learned how to love yourself and put yourself first.
Hoping you many true friendships to come.
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