Looking for advice about something personal and .. embarrassing.

 It's WAY too long to write about in the forums.. but, it's relationship advice and I wrote a blog about it.  I haven't spoken to anyone about it, because I can't decide if I should be embarrassed or angry or what.  After letting it eat at me for the last 2 months, I have decided to take it to my OH Family, where they never seem to judge.  This will be a crosspost.. I have one other forum I frequent.  

If you have some time (it's VERY long) and feel like offering up advice (or even just telling me that I am a complete moron), please check it out.  

http://www.obesityhelp.com/myoh/blog/action,controlPanelWrit e/?pkid=430482&key=d3db8123aa2f33bae5f35f4f103ad052 

 Thank you.

 The link takes me to my OWN blog page (which is empty)...

Lora

185 pounds lost! Wow! That is awesome! I hope I can do it too! How long did it take to lose that much?

 It took me 20 months to get to my goal weight, but it was the last 25 pounds or so that we really slow in coming off.  Most of the weight as gone by the 1 year mark.

Lora

 I don't know what happened.  It says that it has been deleted.  OMG!  It took me so long to write.  =(

Yep, back to my blog.  Although I did click on your name under you picture and came up with your blog.  Was this what you wanted us to see?   OMG, I have no advice for you.  I do feel for you and sincerely hope everything straightens out for the best.  I am so sorry......            Best wishes

 Ok.  I have rewritten the blog on another site.  I am SUPER tired, so it is not nearly as well written and kind of rambly.  Still, you'll get the idea.

I hope this link works.  

http://toadflakes.blogspot.com/2012_04_01_archive.html 

Or this one.. not sure which will take you there.

http://toadflakes.blogspot.com/ 

You are asking for opinions.  I would not throw away my true love for a skank, but I would be cautious (not paranoid).  I would like a letter answering the questions you wanted him to reply to.  By the same token, you said on your blog that everything happening all at once had thrown you for a loop.  It probably did him too.  He was probably feeling insecure and instead of talking it over with you - he allowed the skank to enter the picture.  Hopefully he is sincere when he said it was a mistake.  Since nothing really happened, take him at his word, but observe.......                     Best wishes        

Oh honey.  I'm so sorry.  I can imagine how stressed and scared and sad and confused you must be.

I don't know what to tell you.  I would feel hurt and betrayed too.  And it might mean something serious, it might mean he is likely to stray.  Or it might be benign.  I think it's pretty common for guys to enjoy it when a girl flirts with them.  Maybe it's not uncommon for women to enjoy guys flirting with them, either.  It could be harmless.  There's just no way for any of us, that just know you online, to know which it is.  And I don't know how you would know, either.  It seems like it could be very difficult to tell the difference.

I guess the only advice I have for you is not to make a big life-changing decision in the midst of all the hurt and confusion.  Give yourself some time.

PM me if you want to talk.

i'm about to read it and send you advice..give me your email so i can write u.



Mary