Looking for advice about something personal and .. embarrassing.

So sorry your going thru this, being separated during basic training is hard enough. If I were in your shoes I would use Family Day to get all my questions answered (granted, not the most romantic reunion), but you'll be able to see for yourself how sincere he is (body language says alot!). For the sake of your relationship & your daughter, I would use that time to clear this up. Being a military spouse is stressful enough but to be a military spouse with trust issues is "worse", it will eat u up. I wish you all the best.

You've gotten some good advice.  Now you'll get mine, lol.  I'm a cynic but I wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could through him.  Like it has been said, he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.  Can't trust him.  Sorry, he doesn't sound like a man but a boy.  Find a man.  As for your child.  I've been there.  Tell her you are sorry for putting her through this and you will do better next time.
Of course, I have been where you are and I know you will continue with him.  Too much in love to cut it off.  You will take it to the bitter end.  Nothing wrong with that.  As I said, been there.  Then you will look back in hindsight and realize your instincts were right all along.  Trust yourself.

You can post on 50 forums, and get lots of feel good, or feel bad advice, and words of wisdom to suit any scenario you need it to. I  think deep down you already know what to do though, and I think you also know why you are experiencing these trust issues. Try to sit quietly with yourself, and listen to the inner voice inside. Make sure you're honest about what you need, and then reconcile it to see if it's what you've been getting, what you are getting, and what you realistically should expect to receive in the future from this relationship. It's up to you to take an action that will make your life happy over the long haul. You only get one chance at life, so live it well.

Kat

 I want to thank everyone for their responses. I am not less confused, but at least I have other thoughts to pull from besides my own.  And, if nothing else, I got it off my chest so that I can just breathe.  

    I know that I am still going to see him on Family Day/Graduation.  The tickets costs me an entire paycheck pretty much and are non refundable.  Besides, I need to see his face.  Will I weaken while I'm there with him?  Probably.  But, I need my answers before I do anything.  Here's another little twist.  A friend of the family (not mine, but his) who lived with them at the time of the break up found my blog.  They consider her an aunt.  She is still very close to the ex.  She messaged me to tell me that, although she loves the ex dearly, she wanted to clear up the thing about them sleeping together.  She said that she can guarantee that it never happened.  (I realize NO ONE can actually GUARANTEE it).  She said that The Ex TOLD her that she was threatening Steve with trying to break us up (by telling me that they had slept together).  She also said that she was there about 90% of the time and that Steve wanted NOTHING to do with The Ex and that it infuriated her. 
  Ugh.  This doesn't help my confusion.  =]

I'd find it very creepy that this family friend just "happened" upon your blog (Stalker much?)!   I don't think it's a bad thing to vent here where none of us know you, but I do think you should be prudent about what you put "out there" that family and friends can read.

You might get over this - but it will be hard for them to "unread" what they have read!

I am now getting divorced because my husband cheated and I am a great believer in if he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you as I *know* he is now cheating on his girlfriend with someone else!!!    Some men just seem to go through life like this and I hope "The Cowboy" is not one of them as it will only bring you heartache from now on in ...

Good luck! 

 I don't link my blog or anything from here to my FB or anything, but I figure... it's my damn blog and if they find it and don't like it, too bad.  (Is that wrong?)    The username I use on this site is the same one I use on most sites.  It's not that hard to find my posts.. although, they aren't that damn interesting, so I have no idea why anyone would want to go looking.  =]  (Actually, I changed my username on this one.. I went by Punkmime until a few months ago and that's what I use most everywhere).  

I am sorry to hear about your divorce.  That's awful.  I wish you nothing but happiness with your new life.  

I have never gone looking for blogs of my friends or family and it's HER behaviour I find odd, not yours in writing it which I think you have every right to do!!!!   Some people are just stalkerish like that, I suppose ...

Thanks for the good wishes, I have been separated 3 years, had therapy (best thing I did for myself) and am in a happy, fairly new, relationship now!!!   First thing I discussed with my new man was my feelings on fidelity and what behaviours were deal breakers - surprise surprise!!   Fingers crossed I'll get round to starting the divorce this year (long story!)

 Well, hot damn, Girl.  That's fantastic!  

I am going to send you a private message ... My situation is too screwed up to voice publicly.