Why or why = someone say something

Ultimately, even with surgery, it falls down to us to control ourselves and police our eating habits just like everyone else.  With only 30% of RNYers dumping on sweets or fats we can't really count on that to deter us from something.

So really all we have is restriction (which we can get around IF we really tried) and malabsorption (which lessens over time and all but completely goes away).

So here's the deal.  Yes, it's disappointing,  But what is the disappointment in?  Not the surgery - it's doing what it is designed to do.  That's why people call it a tool.  It works, but only so far.  You have to manipulate it (good or bad) to make it work to it's full potential.

You'll still lose weight eating 10 malted milk eggs.  But you won't reap the full benefits of the surgery unless you learn control.

Are the eggs a trigger?  Is it just sweets in general that are a trigger?  If you find that you cannot limit or control them then I recommend abstaining from them completely.

I overeat goldfish and Stacey's Pita chips.  If they are in the house they are gone.  It's easier for me to walk away from them in the store than it is once they are home.  Sweets were my issue before surgery.  I cannot keep them out of the house because my family eats them, but I do not eat them.  I have not had added sugar since surgery - and the craving is gone.  A lot of people can have it in moderation, but I know myself and I am not one of those people.  So for me the only option is abstaining from it completely.

Perhaps it would help to change the question from "why am I able to eat ten malted milk egg things", and ask instead, "why do I have these things around me if I don't want to eat them?"

That's the real question, and trying to answer that one will be a more productive use of your energy. I don't have an answer - I had to throw out a half-full bag of See's candy yesterday. I had it in my car, of all places, and had been eating a piece (or 3) every day. It was not the first bag. (I used to dump, but that has faded somewhat as I move further away from the surgery, and I have been "celebrating" with small sweets for quite some time now.)
But back to the question, or, perhaps, The Question...

Why on earth would I go out of my way to make it harder for myself? How does keeping a bag of candy in the car make any kind of logical sense with wanting to lose weight and be healthier? I don't want to eat candy habitually. I don't want to reinforce sugar habits that will just get harder with repetition. So why would I have put that damn bag in the car in the first place?

Why indeed...

I ate in secret before surgery.  The shame and guilt over eating such quantities of something caused me to hide certain foods (in my car, in my bedroom) and eat them when no one was around.

A few months ago I bought a box of sf chocolates.  I though, sf = better for me.  Even though the calories were still high I figured I would control myself.  It's sugar free, right?

I ate one in the car.  Ate two in the car.  Ate three.

By the time I got home I had convinced myself that I needed to leave the candy in the car to hide it because it would embarass me to let my family see how fast I would eat the box - after surgery.  Shame and guilt.

Any food that causes me shame and guilt over eating it and makes me hide the fact that I ate it is not worth it, no matter how good it tastes.  Those foods have control over me still and I can't buy them anymore.  If I want a sf candy I'll buy a small 5 piece bag of them, or a single serving package.

You post made me think of my own issues and my own food stashing habits.  The fartther out I get the bigger the demons can feel...

Perhaps it's because the farther out you get, the more "normal" you feel, the more glaringly obvious such abnormal behaviors become. Food stashing was shameful but not wholly unexpected for a woman who weighed nearly 300 pounds. At my current weight, with all the appearance of a normal relationship with food, keeping a bag of chocolates hidden in the car is more incongruous, and that really highlights how relentless the demons are. Perhaps I'll never have a completely healthy relationship with food. I'll settle for a progressively healthier one.

* See's Candy is not my friend, and doesn't like me.
* Those friendly women in their clean white dresses are minions of Satan.
* Their chocolate is made from dead puppies.

I can't really help you. But all I know is, I don't even attempt to eat junk, therefore I will never know if it makes me dum*****t.. I hate feeling like crap, I have a bad enough time getting in the normal food I need. I have tons of candy laying around from Easter but I don't even look at it. It's all mind over matter I think.

I am hoping to have my surgery in Sept and I know from my experience, I just have to stop going to stores that sell junk food! If I don't stop at the drug store or the grocery store or the gas station, I do fine. We don't buy junk and I do fine at home... it just seems like when I see "it", I just have to have some, like I am proving something to someone? My Mom used to hide Little Debbie cakes from me when I was young, even though she was heavy and would eat them all day ! I think part of my problem is from that childhood thing..... so for me, I just don't go in the stores that sell candy or baked goods... My hubby does the grocery shopping and it works for Us ! GOOD LUCK!