Jealous frineds

 i bet you will be even smaller than 12!! dont mind them, if anything feel bad for their sorry behind

Very true!   I heard of people being so excited on here before I had surgery saying crazy things like  "I'm a size 8!!!'   Or   "I'm now a size 10"   and I would think, "Yea right I'll be happy to get to a size 16 or 14"    I am now a size 8.

People don't have to be like that.  Some people choose to be.

And I don't know why.  Probably different reasons.  Insecurity, poor self esteem, depression, personality disorders... all sorts of things.  I'm sorry you had that experience.  I hope you have some other friends that are still there for you.

Be at peace knowing it is not about you but something wrong with them.  It will be their loss of your friendship.  Not your loss of theirs.  Enjoy meeting and making some new friends.

 Listen to RonMan, as I call him, cause he calls it like it is.  So ya, tell her to kiss your ass.  

lol, thank you... They dont call me Righteous Ron for nothin!

actually, the old fuddy duddys call me a plethora of things. :)

Don't let other people rent space in your head.
Don't allow anyone to steal YOUR joy!
The 2 statements above I have said to myself, family members and total strangers.
Society makes living your own "Simple Life" difficult. Unfortunately, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. Just remember that your #1 priority is you and your health. You cannot help others if you don't take care of your own needs 1st.

When I told my mom and 2 sisters that I was having the RNY done, they were not supportive at all! Both of my sisters look like they could have been models, both weighing less than 120 lbs each...my mother has always been overweight and has always complained about her weight and that people treated her badly because she was heavier.

Long story short...both of my sisters have been treated for anorexia and bulimia, they have malnutrition issues with bone density and my youngest sister had to have rods put in her neck and spine, because of the torture that she put her body through. I have tried several diets with my mom and have asked her to go to the gym. She was so mad at me about having this surgery that she sent me an email and told me that she will, "show me!" lol I am glad to report that my 67 years young mother has started weigh****chers online and has lost 19 lbs!!! She came by today after giving me the silent treatment...I told her that I was so very proud of her and that when I am all clear to get in the gym, that she and I will go to the water aerobics classes together. She did apologize and admitted that she was sorry and that she was also jealous of my upcoming surgery. I gave her a huge hug and told her that I need her support and that she will always have mine.

I am sad for you that a person that you are calling a friend, has such a total disregard for your feelings, goals and that she will not talk to you. Maybe she will come around and apologize? Maybe she won't? You will have your answer about TRUE friendship with this person in the end.

I have a friend who is on my case constantly about WLS and my date isn't until May 10.  It seems like after 5 minutes of talking she brings it up and harps on me.  I too think it is jealousy.  Why be jealous of someone who needs a forced reality to deal with the weight issues?  I'm getting really tired of it, so I haven't spent a whlole lot of time around her lately.  I'm sure it will get worse once I start losing!

 Sorry about your friend issues. You'll always have us for support when you don't have it elsewhere! Good luck!!!

Yeah, I had one of those, and I knew she would be that way.  My true friends are so happy for me, even if I am smaller than them now (even though I'm several inches taller).  This one, however... lordy.

She'd make snotty comments like "how crazy, you have no ass at all now"... which doesn't sound bad in writing, but her intent was to slam, like telling me I'm less of a woman now.  I remember one time in particular I was trying on some dresses, and she couldn't even choke out one nice thing to say... the other friends that were there at the time were appalled.

Suffice it to say, we don't talk anymore... and even more than that, my other friends don't talk to her anymore, either.  When they saw how ugly she was on the inside, no one wanted a part of it.

It's sad because I had over the years provided her with A LOT of support, but it's best to let those ones go. No one should make you feel bad for improving your health, and those that really love you will be sincerely happy for your success.

Good luck, head up!


tori

(And for the record, the ass *DID* flatten out a lot that first year, but happy to say it's since made a return... plenty round and shapely now!  :)   )