Support System

Do you have any relatives that can help out for the first week or 2? Toddlers can be a handful and they don't understand that mommy can't pick them up. I wasn't allowed to pickup/carry anything over 10 lbs.

I did fine, although my boyfriend stayed home with me for a week... kinda nice having him around, but yes, he did get on my nerves... LOL!

I am 57 and had an open surgery to remove band, gall bladder, cysts and then had RNY.  My spouse took off a week.  He could have gone back to work after two days but I was glad he was with me.  There were times he helped me get out of the recliner.  I slept in the recliner for 2 wks.   I wasn't able to drive for 3 wks.  I was very tired and slept most of the time. 

Sorry about your husband. I agree with some of the other things people have said. I personally wouldn't put off surgery for someone who may or may not be around. You have a reason to have your surgery and that reason is still valid.

I didn't have any help at home, other than I wasn't allowed to drive, so I had to find rides and my husband just took me places when he got home from work or on the weekends.

My grandkids were living with me at the time, along with their mother, and they would get up when they heard me getting up and I'd just go bug my daughter. So she went and stayed at a friend's and then decided to move out. That's OK I have a quieter cleaner house now.

If you don't have complications and can manage the lifting with the toddler then you'll be fine.

 First of all, I am SO sorry you are going thru this right now. I have been there myself, and I understand. My suggestion is to reach out to at least one friend you trust and adopt them into your support system. Surround yourself with whomever is close to you so you have the emotional support you need. I would also use your support resources following surgery, whether that be support group meetings, meetings with your nut or even a therapist if you are open to it. I have not had surgery yet so these other ladies and gents on OH would better prepare you for what to expect there but it seems like you should be fine for the most part on your own. 
As far as your littlest child wanting to sit on your tummy, maybe start working with them now on "quiet mommy time" such as them sitting next to you on the couch reading, playing a game or watching their favorite show. I know it's heard because they are so little, but you have a few weeks to start working with them so that may help. 
Lastly, I want to say (and this is my personal opinion) you have worked very hard I am sure to get to the point of choosing this path for yourself. It is the beginning of a whole new life for you of health, happiness and freedom. Every day you need to look into the mirror and tell yourself you are deserving of a wonderful life filled with everything you want in it. If your husband chooses not to be a part of this new life with you, that's on him. I wish you the very best of luck and success on your journey. If you need support from any of us, please reach out!

I am single and had open RNY (not lap)  surgery, so I stayed with my mom for about 4 days after surgery, but that was because of the 8-in*****ision and because I had a very high energy Scottish Terrier puppy to care for.  Without the dog, I would have been fine at home even wih the open surgery.  I have had several lap surgeries and stayed at home alone afterward with no problem.

You will be just fine if he decides to leave.  I'm sorry, though, that he chose NOW to dump this on you.  Jackass.

Lora

 Don't put it off.  You will be fine on your own.  I stayed with my friends for 10 days, then I was home alone.  If you have someome that can call you everyday just to check up on you, you will be fine.  U just have to remember not to life anything more than 20 lbs for a time after you surgery.  The power of positive thinking will get you through this.

First, I am sorry you are having to go through this now, a time when you should be supported.

Second, a 2.5 year old?  Humm, I have a 5 and 8 year old but was concerned about bath time with the five year old for the first 2 weeks.  Since I was restricted to 20 pounds, my husband handled bath time.  Since he is a stay at home dad right now, it was business as usual for him, except me being there kid of threw off his schedule.  Maybe you could have some help for baths and things like that.  Also, if you have to drive, you may want to check with your doc about that issue.  I was asked not to drive for 2 weeks.  I certainly was capable of doing it and could have if I needed to, it was nice not to have to do it.

While you could do it alone, no point in trying to be a super hero if you don't have to for a week or so.