DUDES ONLY!
But I know you wimmens are going to look!
Ok guys....
It seems that some women pull this magical goal number out of th..... in Air and cling to it and make it the end all of their journey. If I don't hit goal I'll be a failure!
We all start out this way and sometimes people change the purpose of their journey I know I did, but I think it is easier for guys to change the focus. I know guys that set a goal hit that goal and didn't like how they looked so hit the gym and packed on some muscle.
The question for the guys is this.
What do you find more attractive
A Woman who is Healthy and fit but a few pounds More than THEY Belive they should be.
A Skinny chic who is all sickly looking?
In other words when a woman becomes more "Normal" in size and weight does the weight no longer become an issue in their appearance. After all women have a couple areas where having a bit more weight makes them more attractive, but unfortunately WLS surgery kinda makes these areas disappear for some!
I so know a bunch of you women are gonna reply and some are gonna say "WTF Paul actually has a semi serious subject!"
Ok guys....
It seems that some women pull this magical goal number out of th..... in Air and cling to it and make it the end all of their journey. If I don't hit goal I'll be a failure!
We all start out this way and sometimes people change the purpose of their journey I know I did, but I think it is easier for guys to change the focus. I know guys that set a goal hit that goal and didn't like how they looked so hit the gym and packed on some muscle.
The question for the guys is this.
What do you find more attractive
A Woman who is Healthy and fit but a few pounds More than THEY Belive they should be.
A Skinny chic who is all sickly looking?
In other words when a woman becomes more "Normal" in size and weight does the weight no longer become an issue in their appearance. After all women have a couple areas where having a bit more weight makes them more attractive, but unfortunately WLS surgery kinda makes these areas disappear for some!
I so know a bunch of you women are gonna reply and some are gonna say "WTF Paul actually has a semi serious subject!"
Paul C.
First 5K 9/27/20 46:32 - 11 weeks post op (PR 28:55 8/15/11)
First 10K 7/04/2011 1:03 First 15K 9/18/2011 1:37
First Half Marathon 10/02/2011 2:27:44 (PR 2:24:35)
First Half Ironman 9/30/12 7:32:04
First 5K 9/27/20 46:32 - 11 weeks post op (PR 28:55 8/15/11)
First 10K 7/04/2011 1:03 First 15K 9/18/2011 1:37
First Half Marathon 10/02/2011 2:27:44 (PR 2:24:35)
First Half Ironman 9/30/12 7:32:04
"WTF Paul actually has a semi serious subject!"
Just Kidding!!
Personally, and in no way I think I represent all women here, I think it goes beyond a number on the scale, or even how we look. I reached my goal and then went below it, and sometimes I still wonder if things make me look fat, and I always think I am the bigger person in the bunch even when it is obvious that I am not.
That said, my main goal was to adress health concern issues and infertility. So once those things went away, then I felt like I was a success, more than any number in the scale evermade me feel.
Just Kidding!!
Personally, and in no way I think I represent all women here, I think it goes beyond a number on the scale, or even how we look. I reached my goal and then went below it, and sometimes I still wonder if things make me look fat, and I always think I am the bigger person in the bunch even when it is obvious that I am not.
That said, my main goal was to adress health concern issues and infertility. So once those things went away, then I felt like I was a success, more than any number in the scale evermade me feel.
I have an idea of how I want to look "in the end" but that look isn't just skinny... boney... I want to look HEALTHY.
I think women have a lot more pressure to be PERFECT. I plan to be my version of perfect. I might not be beautiful, I might not even be pretty.... but I will be HEALTHY!!
Juls
Family Dr. 06/05/2012 Referral Received 06/28/2012 Orientation 08/01/2012 NP 08/27/2012
SW 08/28/2012 Nut Class 08/27/2012
NUT 10/01/2012 PS 10/01/2012
Surgeon Dr. Cyriac 12/07/2012 **SURGERY JAN 30, 2013**
Here's my honest truth, not that it's what i tell most people in real life lol
For me, right now at least, it is about a number on the scale. I know it SHOULDN'T be, but it is. I tell everyone that I'm shooting for 140 but who knows maybe i'll be happy higher, I just don't remember what that looks like so I have no basis to judge. Lie. I want to be 140. I would rather be 130.
And I want to be toned and look good at that weight.
I'm not looking to develop an eating disorder or something to get to that stage, but I also don't want to 'settle' for something less then what I believe I can do.
I'm going to have to figure out some of this stuff soon.
For me, right now at least, it is about a number on the scale. I know it SHOULDN'T be, but it is. I tell everyone that I'm shooting for 140 but who knows maybe i'll be happy higher, I just don't remember what that looks like so I have no basis to judge. Lie. I want to be 140. I would rather be 130.
And I want to be toned and look good at that weight.
I'm not looking to develop an eating disorder or something to get to that stage, but I also don't want to 'settle' for something less then what I believe I can do.
I'm going to have to figure out some of this stuff soon.
Follow my vegan transition at www.bariatricvegan.com
HW:288 CW:146.4 GW: 140 RNY: 12/22/11
Dagne Tells You What
OK, I'll tell you what you think is attractive. A healthy, strong woman who's confident, smart, and nice to you. That's what. That other stuff, secondary sex characteristics and whatnot, is silliness. You want somebody to help wrangle the herd, hoist the engine block, move the piano, and who puts on a dress and lipstick once in a while. Sometimes she tells you how cool and fabulous you are and means it.
There.
OK, I'll tell you what you think is attractive. A healthy, strong woman who's confident, smart, and nice to you. That's what. That other stuff, secondary sex characteristics and whatnot, is silliness. You want somebody to help wrangle the herd, hoist the engine block, move the piano, and who puts on a dress and lipstick once in a while. Sometimes she tells you how cool and fabulous you are and means it.
There.
I learned a long time ago you don,t judge a book by its cover i think its got alot to do with what makes you feel good our healthy its just a number on the scale its up you have to decide i think theres a lot of beautiful women on here big and small and if i wasn,t a happily married man i,d be glad to have any one of them on my arm beauty comes from with in not how someone looks on the outside as for me i think its ok to have a liitle meat on your bones as long as your healthy and happy! and as fer guys only gona be interesting sea how many hits this gets lol
have a great day Dan
have a great day Dan
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