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poet_kelly
on 6/20/12 9:57 am - OH

If you only want to hear one thing from members of this forum, please just say so in your post. It saves everyone time and effort and might keep you from getting offended.

For instance, don't say "I am two weeks post op. Is it OK if I eat some cheesecake?" If what you really mean is, "Please tell me it is OK to eat cheesecake when I am only two weeks post op."

Please don't say "What is your opinion?" if what you really want to hear is "I agree with your opinion." Just say, "Please say you agree with me and if not, please don't say anything."

If you do not want to hear suggestions, please do not ask for them.

I am not implying that people should not post about whatever they want to post about. But if you don't want a variety of honest responses from people that might think differently than you do, please let us know when you post.

Thank you.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

illinois Gama D.
on 6/20/12 10:00 am

RNY on 04/15/03

ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-ditto-

thank you kelly

Rny 2003

come join the new R&R 3.0, where the fun is:)

Lori320
on 6/20/12 10:00 am

RNY on 06/24/10

Lori
Highest Weight 403

Selenan101
on 6/20/12 10:02 am

RNY on 06/06/12

*Like*

Selenan

JaneJetson
on 6/20/12 10:06 am

RNY on 05/07/12

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU.........

(deactivated member)
on 6/20/12 10:15 am - Round Lake, IL

RNY on 04/20/12

Maybe also post actual SUGGESTIONS when someone asks for them instead of spreading your nasty negativety because you might not be happy with your own life........just sayin ;)

poet_kelly
on 6/20/12 10:17 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

I did post a suggestion. I suggested accepting that your husband is an adult and has the right to make his own choices. You did not like that suggestion. That's OK, you don't have to like it. It was not a nasty or negative suggestion, though.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

MBsRNY
on 6/20/12 10:18 am - Baltimore, MD

Well, I guess I'll be the one to differ. She has a point. It may be buried beneath a truckload of attitude, but she did specifically ask for suggestions (presumably for alternative approaches to take with her husband) and instead got told mostly (and certainly initially) simply NOT to do what she'd been doing...ie. criticism of her rather than the suggestions she asked for.

Maybe she did just want group members to say "oh you poor dear, you're absolutely right he must change." But taking it at face value, that actually didn't seem to be the case.

HW 270, SW 257, Surgery date: 4/25/12...

poet_kelly
on 6/20/12 10:20 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

Again, I made a suggestion. I suggested accepting that her husband is an adult and has a right to make his own choices. Perhaps she only wanted suggestion on how to force him to change even though he doesn't want to, but I don't think that's what she said in her post. She simply asked for suggestions. I made one. I did not tell her what not to do.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

wendydettmer
on 6/20/12 10:20 am - Rochester, NY

RNY on 12/22/11

i think we did offer suggestions, they were just not ones that she wanted to hear. again, that's her choice, but to lash out and get nasty about it is uncalled for and a bit immature.

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