"Gone forever"?

Yeah the "gone forever!" proclamations bug me but I don't say anything for the very reasons you stated.

At one point I was down 155 lbs. But it wasn't gone forever. About 28 of them sum*****es came back! I'm ok with that but then again I never proclaimed they were gone forever. I often wonder how I might have felt or reacted differently if I did do that.

But in my world few things are forever. And I understand that even though I intend to be healthy for the rest of my life, only today is promised. Tomorrow is a matter of faith. I have faith that tomorrow I will be healthy, but I don't fully know. And I am not into setting myself up to feel like a failure if I should happen to make a very human mistake.

I'm of the school that the only thing that last forever are death and taxes. Everything else can change and come back. I think it's nice to be that optimistic that they will be 'gone forever' but I think that as a realist I know that you have to be cautious and watchful to keep that happening.

I think I understand why somebody would post that. It is their -thing- their motivation. Yeah, some of us will gain some weight back but we all have a motto- inspirational quote.

The gone forever comments I find fascinating. I'm in agreement with everyone above, but I do understand how "gone forever" can be so scintillating to type and to espouse.

When first you lose massive pounds, man, you feel invincible. You are your own superhero! And along with those feelings come a sense of bravado and "can't touch this" mentality.

Then comes the hum-drum, routine of weight loss and weight maintenance. It becomes a totally different kind of hard and life-long journey. But, what I noticed in all the posts above was the reference to vigilence, focus and control.

So no, I don't believe the weight is gone forever (it will always, always be lurking to jump back on these bones o' mine), but with vigilence, focus and a strong sense of balance and effort, I can and will continue successfully on this journey and life-altering adventure.

I'm sorry that my wording is annoying to some but I do feel that my reasoning is sound. I've been a bariatric nurse and researched the surgery for years before deciding it was right for me. I have also lost hundreds of pounds only to gain them back and then some. I was only trying to have a positive outloo****rtainly don't think of this as a magic fix. I am telling you first hand what someone who writes this might be thinking but I don't feel heard or supported for that matter.

Tiffany

 I say this with the utmost respect for you.

Who the hell cares if you annoyed anyone??? If you believe something in your heart, hold onto it. So I get annoyed by the saying. So what? Who am I, Jesus? NO!

We are each allowed to think and believe whatever we like. Including you. And me. :)

Keep on keeping on. 

 Is it possible you're reading into the posts thoughts and attitudes that aren't actually there?
Your feeling unheard and unsupported are your feelings; I don't argue with what you feel. But I can't find any basis in the preceding posts for them.
This is a discussion venue as well as an information source. Discussion nearly always involves people with varying viewpoints. I heard people saying they understand the "Gone forever!" exultation, but that they also believe they must be ever-vigilant.
If you still feel unheard, please speak again.

I'm sorry you don't feel supported or heard, Tiffany. I don't think the previous posters are being critical; they are saying they chose not to use the phrase 'gone forever'. They are expressing themselves in a different way than you.

There are many ways to be sucessful on this journey. We all pick what works for us. I think it's great that you researched and made a decision based on what works for you. And it's pefectly okay for you to use the phrase 'gone forever'. It's also okay for other folks not to use it. For a variety of reasons, it doesn't resonate with them.


Peace, love, and joy to you.

Katie

Excellently worded!

 i see it as their way of trying to be optimistic. i'd still like to lose more, but there are points in my life where i am goint to want to gain a little back as i want to have some babies lol so forever just doesn't make sense for me!