OT - housework

I got the answer to the dishes problem.

About 30 years ago there was a dept head meeting. Before the VP arrived it got onto the topic of someone had to resort to paper plates due to lack of time. Then someone else admitted to actually not only using paper plates, but even had a regular pattern with cups and bowls to match. It went downhill from there.

Our current good plates (as opposed to the flimsy white ones or the ones from KFC) have a snowman on them.

There. Thats my secret of how a family of 3 only uses 300 ccf of water every month.

At least you have a clean house. I have a full size portable dishwasher I haven't used since we moved. Probably still works. Want it?

I hate housework as well. People talk about the feeling of satisfaction they get when they finish cleaning. I don't know what they are talking about! Once I have the kitchen clean, I know by the time the bathroom is clean, the kitchen will be a mess again. Drives me insane. I know this isn't an option for everyone but a few years ago, we hired a cleaning lady. She comes every two weeks and, for that evening at least, EVERYTHING is clean and I can enjoy it. Its completely worth it to me. I do realize what a blessing it is that we are able to have her come but we have made it a priority in our budget. There are other things I would cut out before I let her go! (I am also blessed with a very helpful husband). Hmmm, between the cleaning lady and helpful hubby, I better just get off this post before you start throwing tomatoes at me! Just wanted to say that I hate housework too!!!

Amy

I also hate housework, but must have a clean house so I have a housekeeper who comes in every other week and does all the hard stuff.  I also work full-time (plus some) outside the home, and my husband took early retirement, so all the day-to-day stuff he takes care of.

My time at home is, for the most part, downtime for me to recharge.

While my husband does "work" 7 days a week at home, he does it at his leisure.  He comes and goes as he pleases, and has nappy time every afternoon. 

I tell him anytime he wants to trade places, just let me know and it's a done deal.

I think what you're experiencing is pretty normal in most household.  The division of labor is seldom fair, and I do think women get stuck with the majority of the domestic duties.

The spaghetti pot.  Maybe wipe it down and go stick it in the driver's seat of his car.  Maybe then he'll get the message that you expect him to clean up his mess. 

Better yet, let him know that if it's not cleaned and put away by a certain time, you're going to go ahead and toss it... 
 

I sympathize with you Kelly and suggest you put it back on him.  Admittedly, I might leave the pot unwashed too since I am probably more similar to your partner in cleaning up my messes.  Stick it to him and he'll do it. 

I would probably put the pot out into the trash and make it disappear.