Dealing with the unsupportives

So, finally got the surgery date (unofficial, but close enough) and trying to get everything on track. 
The plan has always been to have my mom come stay with me for a week while I get the surgery and then to help me afterwards.  I have three dogs, so I need the help with them. 

Now when push comes to shove... my mom is not thrilled about the whole idea of surgery.  She thinks it's too drastic an option. 

I've made up my mind now, I think surgery is the best option for me.  At this point, the 1200 cal diet (of good choices!) that the NUT gave me didn't work (well, I lost 4 lbs in 3 months - which definately could be jus****er weight and the differences between days).  I'm unable to work out like I would like because I just feel so much pain when doing so. 

I so want to be healthy. I want to get better.  And I just want people to be supportive. 

Has anyone else gone through this?  Do you have any advice for me?

My sister suggested the surgery but when I was finally approvved, she didn't agree with me having it (so why, WHY did you suggest -- even make me promise to -- look into it?).

Mum was happy for me, but would alter from time to time depending on how frail she was feeling (she was dying, and it was her dying that encouraged me to make a better future for me) .... sometimes she was gung ho, and some days she was highly paranoid... partly due to fear of loss because she lost my brother and didn't want to lose me.

Does support mean that people think you're doing the right thing and that they approve of your decision?  I ask because it seems like that's often what people are talking about when they talk about support or lack of support.  But I think it is possible to support someone even if you don't think they are making the right choice. 

Is your mom still willing to stay with you and help you with your dogs?  If so, she's being supportive.

So far my mom hasn't made a decision. 

I can understand her being worried about the drastic option of surgery, in fact I would be worried if she wasn't worried!  But what I need (and desire) is for them to be supportive of my decision - be it right or wrong (in their opinion).

 Family gets scared and says things that they really dont mean. Your mother is probablly worried about you now the surgery is getting close. People also get insecure about themselves, will she be smaller or look better than me. People hate change, and when they see you changing it scares them. If you think about their comments with the I am scared ..... things will seem different to you. Good luck and we support you..

  Totally agree!

Heidi, thanks.  My mom is quite the opposite.  She teaches water aerobics and swimming lessons.  While she's struggled with weight, she's also a solid size 8, and looks great (in my opinion!)  My father struggles with his weight - 10 years ago he lost over 100 lbs (the "old fashioned way") but subsequently gained it all back (and more)!

From what I gather, she wants me to figure out the root cause of why I keep gaining weight, as I'm not a big eater.  I have not been working out as I should (cannot wait until I'm "lighter" and can work out again without being in the BAD kind of pain!)  I have spent the past year going to all kinds of specialists trying to figure out what is "wrong" with me.  Many doctors later, no one can figure out why I'm fat.  So, I've turned to WLS for an "answer"

 You've got to stick to your guns and see surgery through, IMO. 

Just today, I thought my mother was fully on-board. However, there is still that lingering doubt in how she talks with me. She saw the protein powders in my kitchen, and asked how much weight I've lost so far. I told her 10 lbs. since starting this whole surgery process. She then said, "Well, maybe you can just do this on your own, you know, since you've already lost 10 lbs. Then you don't have to have surgery." I can't even count how many times I've lost 10 lbs. in my lifetime, but I really don't want to stay where I'm at, either. 

Also, I've found other people to help me out after surgery, so she doesn't need to do anything. I'd rather keep her at a bit of a distance during this process, since I'd probably want to devour so many carbs that I'd go into shock. LOL

Stick with your decision. I don't have the support of my mother in my decision to have surgery but I refuse to let that change my  mind. I think that once our mothers have seen that we are really losing this weight and see us happy, their outlook will change totally.

Have you looked into a pet hotel or some of those places that let you bring pets while on vacation? Or another close friend? Now that's one thing that wouldn't stop me. I have two children and I am a single mother but hopefully my mom is gonna be there for me and my kids during this time but if she doesn't, then to dad's they go!!

Congratulations on your decision and don't let em shake you!!s

Pet hotels are expensive in the DC area ($50/day/dog) and with three that could get costly very fast.  I do have some very helpful neighbors (two different families) as well as friends that are about 5 minutes away that could help if I asked (I hate asking!).  But there are alternative means, and I'm not giving up on my decision at this point