Need to vent about poor fashion choices post wls

I've been to a number of "pricey" places, and either they're inept or I'm impossible to fit. I've given up on getting fitted.

I think my "too big"  clothes is what prompted a coworker to pass on her too-big clothes to me. I hate clothing shopping and as long as it wasn't falling off my body, I wore it.

As for bras, bra shopping makes me cry. I have to someday get up the guts to get a specialized bra for my "girls" that accounts for the fact that one side is DD and the otehr is a C or a B. But nothing makes me feel quite as hideous as bra shopping and finding nothing that can change how one of my breasts was half-amputated I tend to choose a size in between... too large on one side, too small on the other. And the "underarm muffin top" drives me bonkers.

I say get a bra that supports the big one nicely and then fill in the other cup with socks or tissues or water balloons or whatever suits you (if you are uncomfortable or unable to buy a prosthesis or some other kind of official bra-filler-upper thing).

Better to feel completely comfortable on one side that to be uncomfortable on both! 

I have one that is a size smaller than the other.  Where would one buy a boob prosthesis?  I'm interested!

Just enter "breast prosthesis" in yahoo or google. You'll come up with a bunch of places. They make them in partial and whole for people who have had partial or full mastectomies. They also have breast enhancers with can bring you up a cup size or more if you need to even out one side. 

 Thank you for the info!

Ann's Bra Shop caters to mastectomy patients and uneven sets. Specialty bra shops are all over the place if you just do a quick search in your area.

http://www.brashop.com/BrowseCatalog.aspx?CategoryId=27

Thanks for the link. I've been so traumatized bra-shopping that I hate to even "go there". I did try to get my health insurance to pay to fix me back to being even.... just a reduction/lift to make them both the same size. But they said that since the lump was benign, no go. I should have sued the hospital for the malfunctioning wire-guided thingie that misfired and ultimately destroyed half my breast. I perhaps should have sued the surgeon who had to remove half my breast. I'm just not like that though. I didn't think that there was something done WRONG.... nobody messed up, a piece of machinery simply malfunctioned. And the breast surgeon did the best she could, and I can't complain about the aesthetics, nobody can tell I had half my breast removed but lookign at the one breast, the incision followed my aereola perfectly, and she was a true artist. She was so heart-broken by that one disaster of a surgery that it was the last surgery she did (she still assists other surgeons, but she stopped after me). I should have insisted, at the very least, on them fixing me on both sides to look even and not mutilated. But again... not like that. (too timid in some ways).

One of these days I'll have the guts to go bra-shopping again. I'll try the bras designed for my situation. But bra shopping has to be the most mentally difficult thing I've done post-op. I avoid it like the plague because I don't want to go through it. The three or four times I've gotten up the courage and gone to specialty stores, they have NOT been able to get me anything to help me, so it always makes me feel worse and worse and worse. When even a specialist who works with bras every day can't give me the slightest bit of help. I think it's because my breasts sort of oooze .... they're not really very normal.

We were in the Bahamas in the spring and I was feeling a little self conscious. Most of my extra skin is on my belly and I look pretty droopy. Then I went down to the beach and there was a lovely young lady in a bikini with a full, round belly. She was laughing and seemed confident and completely content with how she looked.

I thought, "Well who ever decided that bikinis should only be worn by thin people? Why are people so grossed out by a belly? How is she any different from the girl with the flat stomach?" She had clearly decided that she was no less beautiful and was flaunting herself as she pleased.

I'm more modest in the workplace. I'd never wear a skin tight dress to the office, but that's my choice. I feel as though I am taken more seriously and treated more respectfully when I wear nice dresses to the library. Some ladies I work with don't think twice about a low cut top and spiky heels. More power to them.

Wear what makes you feel confident and beautiful.

@Nik...I feel ya on the bra thing. Hard to make that adjustment. Went out bra shopping with some friends and it helped.

As for the topic and cooments, i appreciate everything people are saying. I'm really trying to understand why I feel so uncomfortable about this topic and I don't really know. One more thing to discuss with my therapist. I do often admire people who are brave enough to wear things I wouldn't but I often slip into judgement- which is how I am with myself...very harsh. Maybe that's the lesson for today: try to be gentle and respectful with everyone, including myself. I love this board! It really helps to "talk" things out with everyone and helps me learn more about myself every single day. Thanks!!