Need to vent about poor fashion choices post wls

LOL I was going to use that. Put a thin tee-shirt over the skin, and slightly longer shorts, and that's the majority of my overweight students... with a roll-over muffin-mound that makes a tire look slender. Little love-handles, not a big deal. You wish them gone but they aren't so you deal with it. But spillage of massivve proportions.... no, that's aesthetically a massive FAIL. Again... if you want to look that way, (generic, I know YOU don't) then more power to ya, but it doesn't say much for that person.

I figured if I got slammed for my examples ah well... just wanted to try illustrate my muffin top which I wear and accept as inevitable for what my body just IS right now, and the sort that I see every day from my students .... different things. Especially like your example.

I like Laura!!!!!

Lets settle this, all the good looking gals can pose naked the men not so much.   

 Define good looking... cuz how good I look in clothes is completely different from what I'd look like posing nekkid!  

 I object to the current TMI cleavage fad. A wedding gown, in a church, with breasts piled up and over? Uh-uh. You already made the sale, girl; you can stop advertising. Also it's disrespectful.
A nipple-skimming top, at the grocery store, with breasts hanging out? Tack-ee. Time and place, you know? Save it for the nightclub.

And it's ludicrous to look twenty from the back but seventy in front. If your body can look twenty from any angle, more power to you, but keep it real. Those microskirts and trashy clothes aren't for you (and by you, I mean me, too). There are beautiful and appropriate clothes out there (unless you wear a 4X or over, in which case you don't get much choice).

I guess it can take a while to get your sense of style back after years of deprivation, but eventually I must insist everyone on Earth follow the two style laws outlined above. Thank you.

And Dagne just moved into the "love" column with Kim!

I worry that I'm showing too much cleavage when you can see a shadow ... hubby always says it's okay, but I'm not comfortable showing anything off cleavage wise. And any skirt above the knee makes me feel naked.

Okay, I'm going full hippie on you guys. I promise I'm not trying to start anything!

What is it about seeing certain parts of the body that makes us so uncomfortable as a society? Why does the idea of a woman showing cleavage or having a muffin top over her pants make people cringe?

If you're a religious person and believe that the creator made you in his image, than why wouldn't you celebrate the human body? It is a beautiful thing!

I'm not saying we should all walk around naked (although if you're into it and in a community where it's not illegal more power to you!), but at the end of the day all bodies are equal. If someone feels like busting out the hot pants and tube tops, how does it affect your life other than you thinking that it is unattractive?

It's just my two cents. Live and let live.

 Because we do live in this society. 

I've lived in nudist colonies and so-called alternative communities. No body parts were hidden, accentuated, used to tease or titillate, or coyly covered. It was wholesome and honest.

Mainstream culture clearly shouts, Breasts are naughty! Don't look! I'm hoisting them up atcha, with big flashing neon signs pointing to them, but you can't look! Some body parts have been assigned certain meanings. 

If folks want a sky-clad wedding, I'm totally for it. Naked swimming? The best, unless there are critters in the water who might want to nibble at the dangly bits. Women being allowed to go shirtless when the weather's hot? That's only fair.

But Here it is! These right here? This body part down here? these forbidden bits that I draw all possible attention to and simultaneously hide? Lookee here! Mustn't look, but Look! See, my whole body is naked except for the parts under this bikini, so they must be extra desirable and bad. At the same time!

And of course there's the whole billion dollar boob industry that uses this mentality to make money off of a natural, innocent body part.

It's a sickness. Far healthier to walk around naked. (Well, mentally healthier.) 

Love. LOVE.

I feel exactly the same way. I'm a nudist at heart. Well, actually, I used to be, I guess. Funny how when I was fat, I would strut around naked all the time. And now that I'm smaller, I enjoy clothes more. Anyway, I digress.

We have an open-door policy in our house. I change clothes, shower, and go to the bathroom with the doors open, as do my kids. They don't HAVE to, but it's just a level of comfort we've established with each other. I often make breakfast in the nude. My kids take baths together. Sometimes I get in with them. And I encouraged that because I never want my children having that hypersexualized connotation that a naked body = sex. Nudity is nudity. It's natural and, unless put into a sexual situation, is just a body. There's no attention being drawn, no innuendo. We don't use cutesy euphamisms for their parts. I try to educate my kids as frankly as possible so that they have a realistic understanding of their bodies and might not go as crazy when they get older and see a pair of boobs. To them, hopefully, it won't be so taboo and exotic.

But not everyone lives that way. And for a LOT of people--most people, in fact, I would guess--nudity DOES equal sex, and that's not an ideal I want to impress upon my family. I don't dress my daughter in adult-styled clothing (bikinis or short shorts) or allow flagrant nudity outside the home, even on myself. We employ modesty when out in public. I don't allow my son to walk around outside with his shirt off. Not because it's immodest, but because it's sexist. If I and my daughter can't do it, then I don't subscribe to double standards.

Inside our own home where we know the mentality, nudity is fine and dandy. But outdoors, out of respect for other people and protection of myself and my kids, we cover up.