Post Ops and spouses
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on 8/1/12 2:03 am - WA
on 8/1/12 2:03 am - WA
How did your spouse hold up while you made your recovery/transition after surgery? I love to cook/eat with my husband! We do everything together so taking that away makes me feel a little guilty. I know surgery is best on sooooo many levels in the long run, but it doesn't mean I can't acknowledge that this will be a change for him too.
I still cook all the time. Sometimes I cook things for my family that I do not eat like pasta, but I still cook it.
The only transition DH had to make was that for a couple of weeks after surgery I didn't cook every day because I was tired.
You will still be able to eat together after surgery. You won't eat as much, and there will be things he eats that you don't. After surgery, eating with my family is more of a social experience for me. I don't eat in volume any more, so I eat my food and then just chat for the rest of the meal.
The only transition DH had to make was that for a couple of weeks after surgery I didn't cook every day because I was tired.
You will still be able to eat together after surgery. You won't eat as much, and there will be things he eats that you don't. After surgery, eating with my family is more of a social experience for me. I don't eat in volume any more, so I eat my food and then just chat for the rest of the meal.
I know what you are going through with that. I cook for my family every night and we sit at the table and eat every single meal it is really important to us. So post op after I healed I resumed cooking for them even if I was only eating a shake or something. It made me feel better and still feel like I was keeping out routine and tradition.
After all these years, I still cook every night except now they eat what I eat and that has been a great change for everyone, my husband has lost 100 lbs with the diet change and my son has become more aware of his nutrition and has really changed the way he eats as well.
In my experience this has been a great change for the whole family!
After all these years, I still cook every night except now they eat what I eat and that has been a great change for everyone, my husband has lost 100 lbs with the diet change and my son has become more aware of his nutrition and has really changed the way he eats as well.
In my experience this has been a great change for the whole family!
RNY 1/29/08
Pre: BMI 47.6 wt 279
Current: BMI 24.9 wt 146
total pounds lost: 133
I still love to cook and with hubby and kids that still hasn't changed. Right after surgery his mom came down to help me with the transition so she kept him and the kids well fed.
Now, we still like to have our bonding time while eating but I may snack on jello or pudding or the cheese off of a small slice of pizza while he eats half of the pie lol. He used to feel guilty eating in front of me but once I showed him that him enjoying food was not a problem for me he felt more at ease.
Now, we still like to have our bonding time while eating but I may snack on jello or pudding or the cheese off of a small slice of pizza while he eats half of the pie lol. He used to feel guilty eating in front of me but once I showed him that him enjoying food was not a problem for me he felt more at ease.
- Shaw
I cook more now that I did before RNY. But now I also get cooking maratons.
Once I cook I have food for days. (portion and freeze or some that just keep). Eating out is not as much fun as it used to be, so cooking at home and eating home made food is my new found hobby. If I get stressed - I cook. Don't eat much - but I cook.
I get tired of the same thing over and over and look for new recipes to eat meat and more meat or fish. BF loves it - he gets extra starches I cook for him but don't eat. I also make brownies and muffins, pies, etc for hime and family, I don't eat that. Not even a bite - I can't (eitehr dump or severe RH)
Once I cook I have food for days. (portion and freeze or some that just keep). Eating out is not as much fun as it used to be, so cooking at home and eating home made food is my new found hobby. If I get stressed - I cook. Don't eat much - but I cook.
I get tired of the same thing over and over and look for new recipes to eat meat and more meat or fish. BF loves it - he gets extra starches I cook for him but don't eat. I also make brownies and muffins, pies, etc for hime and family, I don't eat that. Not even a bite - I can't (eitehr dump or severe RH)
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Admittedly, there are nights when I cook two dinners. My husband always offers to fend for himself if I'm tired, but I don't really mind. Usually I can make the same thing for us and I eat a small portion.
He does get Five Guys cravings and on those nights I cook something just for me. He feels bad because he feels like he is tempting me, but I don't want him to give up his indulgences. If he had a weight or overeating problem I might feel differently, but he is the kind of person who eats just until he is comfortably full. He can leave a half serving of french fries behind!!
For the most part, he tells me that I have taught him to eat a little better. It's true; I cook with healthy oils, good quality proteins, and less sugar when I bake things. It makes me feel good that I've had a positive influence on him, but I think that compromising is an important part of a relationship.
You guys will learn what works for you. There may be things that are just too tempting for you to have in the house, and maybe he just has those when he's at the office or if you go out to eat (Joe always has peanut butter pretzels at work).
Best wishes!
He does get Five Guys cravings and on those nights I cook something just for me. He feels bad because he feels like he is tempting me, but I don't want him to give up his indulgences. If he had a weight or overeating problem I might feel differently, but he is the kind of person who eats just until he is comfortably full. He can leave a half serving of french fries behind!!
For the most part, he tells me that I have taught him to eat a little better. It's true; I cook with healthy oils, good quality proteins, and less sugar when I bake things. It makes me feel good that I've had a positive influence on him, but I think that compromising is an important part of a relationship.
You guys will learn what works for you. There may be things that are just too tempting for you to have in the house, and maybe he just has those when he's at the office or if you go out to eat (Joe always has peanut butter pretzels at work).
Best wishes!
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I am the cook in our family. My husband can get by if he has too and is a great assistant in the kitchen and a master on the grill...
I am a week out from surgery and he has been doing all of the cooking when he is home so I didn't have to cook while on my liquid diet. I have a wonderful guy who has been ultra supportive through the whole process and has kept me pointed in the right direction. I have just been moved to pureed foods, so I hope to be able to get back to the kitchen and make some healthier more fun dinners for my family!
I am a week out from surgery and he has been doing all of the cooking when he is home so I didn't have to cook while on my liquid diet. I have a wonderful guy who has been ultra supportive through the whole process and has kept me pointed in the right direction. I have just been moved to pureed foods, so I hope to be able to get back to the kitchen and make some healthier more fun dinners for my family!
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