OT: Son going to homecoming with a girl of opposite religion..Really opposite what would u...

 i don't think it's hypocrital.  she can accept her without prejudice and still not like the influence on her son.

a true satanist has a VERY different moral structure then I do, and I would have a hard time allowing my child to date one.  It just so happens that most people who say they are, aren't really.

you dont have to say too much out loud to your son...but what you can do is start on your knees in prayer in your prayer closet and seek Gods guidance on this matter....he is mighty...and he will direct you on what way to go....start interceding in prayer for this young lady and for your son...let the Lord do the work..you just pray.....pray that the blinders be taken off both their eyes so that they may see where the Lord wants them in their lives......
i would also ask your son what he sees in this young lady..he may see things differently than what you see...there is more to people on the insides than on the outsides...BUT....we each have a path that the Lord has ordained and we are to follow that path....pray that they will see that path...PRAYER DOES WORK MIGHTY..
have a great day
debby

How is your relationship with your son? You do not have to answer, but it sounds like he is rebelling against you knowing you would be against him dating her. I hope I'm making sense.

I teach high school. I don't believe she is really a satan worshipper. I think she's doing it for attention.

The Bible says "bad company corrupts good habits". It is unfortunate when our children choose to spend time with people that are not influenced by our faith. I have a son who is 27 now and is still fighting the Holy Spirit because of the influence of his best friend growing up. They were bad influences on each other. I don't have any great words of wisdom other than pray! I am still in prayer for my son. Maybe show your son what God's Word says on the subject and let him decide for himself. Hope things work out well.

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. - Proverbs 22:6"

I was forced to go to Sunday School my entire childhood. When I was given the choice as a teen, I chose to rebel, and also hung around with quite a few self-proclaimed Satanists. I never did embrace their beliefs, and returned to my Christian upbringing by the time I was 19. Have faith in your parenting - your son will be OK with such a concerned/caring mom!

Your concern about the affect another teenager has on your own son is completely valid. It really does sound like she's just going through her own rebellious phase.

I do think that meeting her or maybe asking your son positive questions about her (i.e. what music, books, hobbies...etc.). If you frame it as you just wanting to learn more about his friend, he might not feel so defensive.

There are a few vibes in your post that I don't think you want to give off though, because those will make him feel more like pushing against you:

-"He's in his 'acceptance of everything' phase." I don't think that's a phase. I think it's a very positive quality that your son has, and it's something that you have instilled in him. Jesus loved everyone regardless of their place or personal feelings. Put your faith in your son and realize that a wacky friend isn't the end of the world. They will most likely grow apart as young friends do.

"That being said this is a bit more difficult to accept when it comes to your only child dating someone who so publicly disgraces Jesus who I believe in and who is my LORD and savior." You may believe in Jesus as a lord and savior, but she does not. To her, Jesus is just a man and frankly one that she does not respect. There's not anything wrong with that and I would judge her based on how she treats your son, not your god.

"I am still worried about a negative influence in his life especially any one that derails all of the values and beliefs I have worked so hard all of these years to instill in him." I understand this worry. I am sure my mother worried the same thing about some of the Wiccan or otherwise not monotheistic friends that I had. Showing your son that you trust him to make smart decisions will make him feel more mature. It will give him confidence that you know he can take those values out into the world on his own. That said, at some point in his life you may (or may not) be faced with his own lack of faith. Many people who grow up religious grow away from their faith later in life. When I left the church, I talked to my pastor and he told me something that's always kept a place in my heart, "Everyone has to find their own path."

You sound like a great mom who has her son's best interests at heart. Be confident in how well you've raised your child and give him your trust.

I would sit down with her and have an open honest conversation and express your concerns in an appropriate manner...then openly listen to her responses and then make a decision...possibly, exposure to Christ thru you my make a difference in her life more than she will corrupt your son.  Maybe God has led her to him to seek out your son to see what he is really about. 

You make the decisions that are best for your family...It is not your job to be your childs friend, but to lead him and parent him...I have been in your shoes and sometimes the fit is uncomfortable at best....

Sending good thoughts and prayers

 Although I can appreciate your concern regarding the obvious differences in belief systems, the fact is he's fifteen. He isn't going to marry this girl. Maybe part of the attraction is the fact that she is so opposite of what he has known so far. I would just keep a watchful eye on the situation and let it run it's course. 
As an aside, imagine how accepting and open to new and unusual things your son must be, that's a testament to how you raised him. I say GOOD FOR YOU!

 i'm with kelly. i mean, i was that girl at 14 lol. didn't have the hair color because i went to catholic school (which is why i think i rebelled in that way to begin with), but i did have it in my college years, and still would if it wasn't for the whole trying to get a job thing lol, i've been contemplating putting a well-hidden stripe in though. i fell into more of the wanting to learn about pagan religions, rather than ever actually practicing, or thinking i was practicing though. and i would have been a great influence on others, i also considered myself straight edge, went through all of high school not drinking, touching a cigarette, or drugs (still have never touched any drugs, and at 26 i doubt that will change now!). didn't have sex, or even really kiss a boy in high school either. so i would say get to know her first, she may really be a sweet girl that has other things going on in her life and uses it as an escapism. 

You could be talking about me 15 years ago.

She'll get over it.

But what I also was at 15, besides an outwardly scary goth girl, was smart, very artistic and creative, funny and caring and a straight A student. In fact, I graduated high school 2 years early, with blue and purple hair and piercings everywhere, thank you very much. Funny thing, they were all sure I was a ***** that would end up dropping out of high school and end up on drugs and knocked up. Nothing could have been further from the truth and I've led a better adult life than most of my doubters combined.

I wasn't a "devil worshipper" but I was Wiccan, and in Texas where I grew up, there was no explaining the difference between the two to anyone. So I said, you people think I'm evil and you're enjoying being a jerk to me over this, then you must be looking for a show, so I'll sure give you one! And I played the part. Because I was 15! And angry and rebellious! I don't subscribe to any organized (however small) religion anymore, but my spirituality is still very Earth-based, much like in Wicca with some Eastern philosophy thrown in. And proselytizing to me? Oh, you'd get yourself a REAL good show back then. Because it was annoying. And still is, to be perfectly honest with you. No one likes someone telling them their beliefs are superior, I don't care how nicely you put it or which way you dress it up. I couldn't verbalize why it angered me at 15, but I sure can now. I wasn't scared of the Christians trying to convert me, I was angry with their intolerance and ignorance and self-righteous attitudes. I was angry they couldn't leave me alone and just accept me the way I was. At every turn they were trying to change me. I kept my distance because I didn't want their BS. And that made me all the more weird to them.

Needless to say, not a single one of those people are a part of my life now and they honestly don't deserve to be. They'd probably just say my success was because I made a deal with the devil, LOL. I never did even believe in the existence of any devil or Satan, but you **** me off, and I could sure play up your worst fears about it.

Give the kid a break. There's probably a good person underneath all the Manic Panic dye and bad attitude. And if you're really that opposed to her, consider the fact that it's highly unlikely this is the girl he's going to marry and the more you openly oppose her, the more attractive she'll be to him. Because they're BOTH teenagers and that's the way it goes.

There's my .50 on it.