Relocating for RNY

 So I have a bit of a predicament. Here's the scenario. I planned on getting RNY this past summer. I didn't lose enough weight. So I  would still like to possibly get it by Dec.
   Now the problem. My husbands deploying for Afghanistan at the end of Dec for several months.  I have two young children I'll be caring for alone. Where we live we have no friends or family who can help me . I can put them in daycare for up to 4 hrs a day 5 days a week.
  Or the other option is I move to AZ , CO or CA  where I have family. I rent a house for the 6 months he's gone.  I would have help and support if I had surgery in one of those states. Question is, would those surgeons expect me to go to all the classes I've already been through ?  Would it be another 6 months after moving there to get the surgery?  Or should I have the surgery where I am now ( in NC ) , move the month after and try to get a new surgeon to do follow-ups with ?  
What I don't want is a year from now still haven't had the surgery and am heavier then I am now. 

Suggestions ? Anyone been through something like this ?

 I can't really say that I have any personal experience with something like this but I can tell you that the support of family and friends makes a BIG difference in getting through a major surgery like rny.  With that said, I vote for the family and friends option.  I wish you the best.  KAREN

You cant be surrised n one is able to answer this? We can't say if a surgeon is going to want you to repeat classes, etc. You say that you would like to get it done by Dec. but your husband is leaving in Dec? Why not November? What does your current surgeon say about this? How much do you have to lose?
I don't see how you are going to be able to have a surgery with no support person around. Who is going to watch the children while you are hospitalized? What if there is a complication?
These are questions that you unfortunately need to discuss with your spouse and other family members. Is there someone who can come stay a couple of weks with you when you hae the surgery? That might be an easier option.
Sorry I couldn't help more.

 I have to lose 40 lbs .  I really like the surgeon I've been working with here. If I have it done before he leaves he can take leave for a week.  If I could get it done in Nov I would. My husband and I have been back and fourth, been through every scenario. I just came here to find some support and advise .  There has to be someone who has a similar experience. I know there are several other military wives here. 

Are you able to have a friend or family member come and stay with you for a couple of weeks? This may be your best alternative given your situation. I am a military mother, my son is a marine stationed at Lejeune - looks like where you are from at the moment? If you have someone come to you, then you can keep your doctor and work on your weight loss rather than trying to move.

I would say you do not want to move a few weeks after WLS. I would call different surgeons in those states and ask what thier policy is for the questions you have.and then pick from there. Can one of your family members come to stay with you during your recovery? Can you let your children go to a family member for a few weeks during the hard part of recovery? I think it is a good idea to rent a place near your family and go thru the surgery there but make sure someone in your town now will see you for follow up care after your 6 month period you plan to stay away. shouldn't be too hard to find someone. You should mention that you have been thru some of the hoops and your husband is deploying it may garner you some points.

 The only person that could come stay with me is my Mom.  We have problems. When I was pregnant with my youngest I got up to 400 lbs . She actually called social services on me telling them I was to fat to care for my children,  Let's just say since then she's been on my " DO NOT CALL LIST "  .   So I don't have anyone to come stay with me.  I'll make some calls Monday to different surgeons in those states. I've heard of people coming long distances for a specific doctor.  Maybe the deployment thing will help speed up the process. Thanks ladies for the advise. Really appreciate it. 

I am not trying to be mean, please don't take it that way. Being in the military can be tough as it is. My husband is Air Force Retired and like I said my son is a Marine.
It doesn't seem like you are going to have a good support system in place which is really important with this surgery.
Good luck and I hope you can get some support!