Had my PS Consult... (long story)

From a mans standpoint I think I might be able to shed some light on this. My wife is going to be having the sleeve done here in the next few months, and is talking about PS after the surgery. I have been having dreams of her leaving me for whatever reason. I hate it, and feel a bit worried about her having the surgery. We both have been large for our entire lives and this is something that we both have wanted. Perhaps the hubby feels that you might take off now that you have such a high confidence level and self esteem. I have had many friends who lost alot of weight, and leave their spouse since they found a new esteem and life style. Maybe the hubby has some worries about that he is not sharing with you. Its not easy trying to tell your loved one your fears, but it needs to come out.

I want the best for my wife, and I have loved her through thick and thin, and still will. The only problem I have is her losing her boobs, damn that will suck so I am ALL for the PS.

Thank you for chiming in... it's always good to get a mans point of view... and I think you are right... I think he feels I will leave him... but he's just not getting it... I have assured him that I would not and that I married him because I love him... We married after I lost weight not before or even during... I was huge when we met so he has seen me at my worse and now at my best... He is my best friend and WAS my biggest supporter... until now... it just doesn't seem fair that all of a sudden he is like this... The PS is important to me and I wish he would realize that it has nothing to do with him or with me wanting to take flight and find someone else... I plan to have a heart to heart with him and hope he realizes how important and why it's important to me... Good for you supporting your wife and when it's time for her to look into PS remember this post and keep supporting her... It will mean the world to her I'm sure... and one more thing... I CAN'T believe he wouldn't want me to get the boobs (.)(.) after all to men boobs is what makes the world go round right?? ;) haha

I love boobs, so its a win win for me in my opinion. It also makes the wife happy yo feel good about herself so I would be supportive. Is it the $$$$$ aspect that maybe he is not too cool with?

I don't think it's the money... He didn't say that at all... I kinda wish he would've said that instead... I would totally get it if it was a financial issue... I just don't want it to be relationship issues :(

 I can understand your having body image problems and wanting the PS...  I will want to make my body complete as well when I am down.

If this marriage is what you both want, perhaps counseling is necessary.  To help him understand your reasons...and hopefully you will understand his motives/insecurities.

unfortunately you are in a tough position..I wish you all the best in dealing with this.

I hope it doesn't come to that but it may... I don't want to lose my hubby over it but it is extremely important to me... Thank you :)

 Now that you know how he feels even if he isn't saying it, If I were you, I'd put the topic to rest for a while.  Enjoy your new image, have fun, try to work in the things that your husband loves to do.  Prove to him that you intend to spend the rest of your life with him.  Give  him time to adjust before you start pressing the issue again.  Time does heal a lot of things.  If you can go to counseling it would be a good thing to do.  

hmmmmm... maybe I should consider this and let it rest a while... I am just one of those people who want to do it immediately... I guess I have no patience... I was just hoping to have it done during the slow time at work which is now... heck I even asked when the soonest surgery date was and they could do it on November 1st... I was ready to sign up... lol... thanks for your input it may not be a bad idea :)

 You are beautiful and have definately been a big inspiration to me on my journey. I'm truly sorry your husband is struggling with this. I too agree that he is likely worried about you not needing him anymore. Good luck with your talk. I hope things workout for you. 

Thank you so much :)